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molgripsHehe.. well that does not always work. It is perfectly possible for stubbornness to over-ride hunger, I know first hand.
Me too 🙂
My daughter hardly ate anything when she was little - chicken fingers were on the menu most days - just chicken fingers, nothing else! I remember going to France for a summer holiday, and all she ate was pan-au-chocolate, which became known as chocolate bread. She was very, very rarely ill though. I gave up worrying and trying to make her eat stuff she didn't like, and just gave her what I knew she'd eat.
These days. as a 28 year-old, she eats way more different foods than I do!
Sports massage?
because you have a pretty low opinion of GPs... don't you... 👿
to be serious, contact Health Visitor first, Keep a food diary of what they [i]are[/i] actually eating, make eating and food preparation fun, do see your GP if no resolution, and (deep breath) consider whether it is actually a parenting style issue. Quite common to have one child refusing food, both is less so. Feeding and eating is also a form of communication.
I expect to get flamed for the last bit, but also get to deal with some of the consequences.
The old skool technique of force feeding or whipping ... That's what my grandma did to me and it worked. No hard feeling at all but when we talked about it we all ended up laughing.
Sometimes kids response to a bit of pain but unless you know how to apply this technique I am afraid "my precious" is in charged rather than you. Put it this way kids need strong discipline. End off. Or send them to N. Korea or India ...
Its always been handy that I will eat anything, at anytime, in any order. My 3 are all good eaters and always have been. But then, the only option they have ever had on choice of food is when we're out - then they can order what they want, but at home - its take it or leave it.
Although one of them had a friend over for tea; we knew he was a picky eater so my wife had asked what he liked - 'fish' was the answer. She did salmon. He meant 'fish fingers'...
Also until they've learned how to cook they eat whatever is given/served by the parents. As a kid we were taught never to take food from stranger ever even if they were family friends. I would ask my parents first for permission before accepting. Also we were taught not to watch people eat as that's a sign of poor manner which reflects poor parental skills.
People who eat loudly are considered pig and are asked to leave the table.
p.s. one of my colleague eats loudly and I would explain to him that he is a pig because he eats like one.
It's seldom that we are all in at the same time to eat together.
If kids don't see their parents eating and enjoying food, how they gonna learn?
You may still have issues though even then. My kids eat well but my 9yr old is the one who refuses certain foods that he says he doesnt like.
so i give him a time limit and if he hasnt eaten his dinner by then, he gets sent to bed.
I am strict, no messing at my table 👿
Stoatsbrother - I have a low opinion of GPs when it comes to musculoskeletal stuff. They are good for other stuff though.
It may well be a parenting style problem. I dont pretend to be perfect.
Thanks for your kind words based on your huge experience, demonstrated by your carefully considered and lightly-worn expertise shown on MSK subjects on this forum... 😉
I think I better absent myself from this thread...
Stoatsbrother - I'd take a punt on me knowing more about MSK conditions and their treatment/rehab than you do. :Blowskisssmiley"
Whatever you say...
Why wouldnt I know more than you about MSK conditions?
Lil Grips #1 has not been eating much lately. We arne't too bothered currently.
It's really not possible to force her to do things though. It just isn't.
I didn't say you didn't.
But you have shown what I feel is a worrying certainty and willingness to make a probably inaccurate diagnosis here. And you are doing it again as we speak on another thread. And at the same time you have trashed 30000 professional colleagues on the basis of very little experience.
Hopefully you will develop some self doubt soon. You need it to be safe.
I'm out.
SB - As I've said to you many times previously only an idiot would attempt to give a definitive diagnosis over the internet based on very little evidence - that is something we both agree on. Nowt wrong with suggesting the most probable condition based on the information given though is there? Surely only a complete and utter numpty would take an internet diagnosis as gospel. I do however concede that the world is full of numpties.
Making pancakes after watching a Peppa Pig episode with Daddy Pig doing a pancake tossing hoop-la seemed to work quite well with our fussy 3 year old. They've got eggs, flour and milk in so pretty healthy and nutella's got more than just chocolate of course.
We've been lucky with our 2.5 year old. We eat as a family at every opportunity we get, that means 3 meals a day at the weekend and my wife eats breakfast and lunch with him on the 2 days she doesn't work. His nursery has a good food policy and there's loads of good peer influence there to eat well.
I get him to help make cookies (Hugh's ten minute cookies from the Everyday book are dead easy to make with a toddler) and nice things sometimes. We grow our own veg and get him to help weed the patch, pick the spuds out of the turned earth, harvest other stuff and generally be excited about food around him and the idea of growing, cooking and eating.
You can't bring all of this in at 100mph and shove it in their face though.
I'm lucky i'll eat most things except peas which ive never liked, sweetcorn which i used to love but ate loads when i was younger and now the thought of eating it makes me feel ill and fish and seafood as i have an allergy to it.
My wife is a very fussy eater and she knows it but has made an effort not to pass it on to the kids.
My kids are 8 and 5, the 8 year old is a bit more picky with food but not to bad, my 5 year old will try anything. They both love fruit and veg, and only drink water, milk, or fruit juice anything else is a treat.
I like to add new things in to the mix every know and again and at the same time the wife tries things as well, this week was leeks which went down very well when mixed in with shredded cabbage.
If you can grow some fruit and veg and then the kids seem to take pride in eating what theve helped to grow.
Also we only have pudding at the weekend.
Again dont cook several meals when at home it just encourages them to be picky.