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My wife has no interest in gardening and I can't recall her ever helping out. It's a shame as I'm in the middle of creating and planting our new garden and it'd be great to share ideas.

She just wants it nice, and safe for kids.

Every other couple I see seem to both muck in. Is that true?


 
Posted : 14/04/2017 6:38 pm
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No. I pretty much do it all. And I bloody hate gardening.

Trouble is, I like having a nice garden to sit in during summer evenings..... as does SWMBO. So, it gets done.


 
Posted : 14/04/2017 6:40 pm
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Nope. Hateful activity. I only get involved if there's some digging to be done. I'd happily concrete the whole lot and paint it green.


 
Posted : 14/04/2017 6:40 pm
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Yep, the wife also doesn't seem interested.

I enjoy it, best return on investment for any DIY activity. An hour planting a shrub and years worth of pay back....

Both my parents are passionate gardeners (garden open to public etc) and the MIL is also a keen gardener, FIL just a 'mow the lawn' type.


 
Posted : 14/04/2017 6:43 pm
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Bone of contention here....Mrs' sole contribution is a bit of half arsed weeding once a year, followed by an expensive garden centre trip to buy stuff that will need watering by me for the rest of the year.

Thought i was winning by successfully putting my foot down about bedding plants and hanging baskets, which are the worst culprits for watering. But then lost a bit as gardening is apparently "my" hobby which only gets done once the kids are in bed and she is in front of the telly.


 
Posted : 14/04/2017 6:45 pm
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No. I pretty much do it all. And I bloody hate gardening.

Exactly this. 1000 m2 of hateful neverending toil.


 
Posted : 14/04/2017 6:45 pm
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Hateful activity

+1 and find it so pointless. Why cut grass when it grows again after a shower of rain? cba


 
Posted : 14/04/2017 6:45 pm
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Neither of us can be arsed so we have a gardener.


 
Posted : 14/04/2017 6:45 pm
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Oh no. It's the one thing I refuse to do - I won't even do the 'man job' of mowing the lawn. My total input is limited to no longer cleaning my bike on the lawn as it does it no good apparently.


 
Posted : 14/04/2017 6:46 pm
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My Mrs is a garden designer, unfortunately this does not extend to maintaining our own garden which she has filled up plants over the last few years and now won't touch as "she doesn't get paid to do it". After a long period where I wasn't allowed to touch it myself, I've now been allowed to get stuck in. I'm looking at 18 months of neglect to undo.


 
Posted : 14/04/2017 6:51 pm
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blow hot and cold, when it's ticking over nicely I do find it therapeutic - goring stuff from seed in the greenhouse, planting out.. but when there's a shed load of stuff to do and its raining / cold, not so keen.. but wife does muck in to to be fair...


 
Posted : 14/04/2017 6:53 pm
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Gardens.... why god invented paving slabs?

We just pay a bloke to periodically come round and sort it out. Life really is too short for that kind of nonsense!


 
Posted : 14/04/2017 6:55 pm
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I've just been out in the wind and rain sowing lobelia, sunflowers, some yellow shit, cleaning and replenishing the bird feeders and watering the hanging baskets.

No missus though. Probably 'cos I do gay stuff like water hanging baskets.


 
Posted : 14/04/2017 7:03 pm
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I don't mind cutting the grass. It's all the weeding and the CONSTANT cutting back of the hedges and borders. And then because our garden has no access except through the garage, everything has to be carried through in bags instead of just loaded into the green waste bin or the back of the car.

That's the bit I really hate. I can wield a powered hedge trimmer with abandon, breaking everything up into tiny sticks so it's go in bags....... nnnngggggaaaahhhh!!!!


 
Posted : 14/04/2017 7:07 pm
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and watering the hanging baskets.

Tedious task, whole garden is plumbed in and self waters on a timer...

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Every shrub and tub has a micro dip feed thing on it.

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Posted : 14/04/2017 7:08 pm
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Used to love it when I first got a house, got really into veggie growing.

Totally lost interest now and spend the time riding instead. Trying to make myself do more again, as my wife is even less interested and the garden is in a disgraceful state.

I don't mind cutting the grass. It's all the weeding and the CONSTANT cutting back of the hedges and borders

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Except I don't really do them.

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Posted : 14/04/2017 7:09 pm
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Me in our house. Any weeding anyone else does is just snapping the top off, drives me nuts. I have just enough time to keep it tidy and grow a few veg, but would like to do a bit more this year.


 
Posted : 14/04/2017 7:11 pm
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Pics of weeds please. ๐Ÿ˜†


 
Posted : 14/04/2017 7:11 pm
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Just looking at ours now. It's lovely! Lots of stuff flowering. I've no idea what. Nor do I want to.

All with absolutely zero input from me or mrs Binners, other than handing over some cash to someone to make it so. Brilliant! ๐Ÿ˜€


 
Posted : 14/04/2017 7:12 pm
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That cat can't half piss.


 
Posted : 14/04/2017 7:12 pm
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Pics of weeds please.

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Allotment last week.

Will be sorted tomorrow - I've told Trump there's a network of caves underneath.


 
Posted : 14/04/2017 7:16 pm
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I just HAVE to keep the grass cut. Especially the front ,I even do to verges.
Mrs Zip plants flowers and the garden does look nice.
Veg has just gone in .
You can't beat home grown.


 
Posted : 14/04/2017 7:16 pm
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Thanks bear. ๐Ÿ™‚ Do you ride a bike inbetween your DIY and allotment duties? ๐Ÿ˜‰


 
Posted : 14/04/2017 7:20 pm
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I do everything in the garden, my wife just hurls advice at me


 
Posted : 14/04/2017 7:35 pm
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I always wonder if there comes a certain age where suddenly you enjoy gardening. My parents for example love pottering around in their garden but for me it's something I do through gritted teeth.


 
Posted : 14/04/2017 7:39 pm
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I live in the Scottish Highlands. I'm surrounded by natures bounteous display. Why would I need to create some ersatz experience using non-native species?


 
Posted : 14/04/2017 7:44 pm
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Do you ride a bike inbetween your DIY and allotment duties?

Nope. But I've got 3 that need dusting. #STW

Some more weed pics to get you all flustered ๐Ÿ™‚

Beetroot once lived here.

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Epic lawn fail.

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Posted : 14/04/2017 7:45 pm
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I'm the same as the OP and Footflaps, do everything myself with absolutely no help from the wife. She likes sitting in it though.

My mum is a keen Gardener and I've inherited that from her but with around half an acre it's hard work getting it all done. For me it had been about redesigning most of it to be as low maintenance as poss, whilst still attractive and a nice place to be in.


 
Posted : 14/04/2017 7:48 pm
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1. yes
2. no


 
Posted : 14/04/2017 7:49 pm
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I do pretty much everything in the garden but I am a gardener by trade and the other half wouldn't do it right if I let him anyway. He's quite good at watering though! I don't mind though as we tend to divy up the tasks and stick to our strengths so all my bike maintenance gets done for me ๐Ÿ™‚


 
Posted : 14/04/2017 7:52 pm
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Grrr If I had an figgin garden I could put a figgin shed on it and then I could buy more bikes ๐Ÿ˜€


 
Posted : 14/04/2017 8:42 pm
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Are you the only one at home who gardens?

Yes, & here is the testament....

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Posted : 14/04/2017 8:46 pm
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I'd say I do the bulk of it.

In time I hoping to delete some boarders and have more lawn, then I might be able to justify a ride on lawn mower.


 
Posted : 14/04/2017 8:47 pm
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When I've made enough money from the rat race rats I'll shall idle away my days mowing lawns and trimming bushes.

Bliss.


 
Posted : 14/04/2017 8:49 pm
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I do pretty much everything in the garden but I am a gardener by trade and the other half wouldn't do it right if I let him anyway. He's quite good at watering though! I don't mind though as we tend to divy up the tasks and stick to our strengths so all my bike maintenance gets done for me

I'm the same, been a gardener for 8 years now. I work 3 days a week so you'd think I'd manage to spend some time, unabused, in my own garden, but somehow every second I toil to make the outside space beautiful is time I should be watching the kids or doing work inside the house. Being on holiday for 9 months (some people call it maternity leave) doesn't mean she's going to spend any time watching both kids on her own. Drives me nuts!

The hard thing is that I am recreating a lot of areas and want them to look amazing for years to come. But I don't quite have the vision for it all and would love ideas to bounce around.

Anyway, glad to hear it's not just me. We can continue to cast our jealous little eyes on those happy loving couples out planting begonias together praying quietly that they have other problems we don't know about.

PS Who weeds? That's what glyphosate is for.

PPS Might take up weeding just so I can use a Golden Gark. I already use an oscillating hoe every day for work (the only hoe I use as it's amazing). But the gark...that looks tidy! [url=

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Posted : 14/04/2017 9:26 pm
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When I've made enough money from the rat race rats I'll shall idle away my days mowing lawns and trimming bushes.

Bliss.

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I already do, and recommend doing it sooner rather than later. I was only in the rat race a few short years, and make more money on lawns and hedges than I, and my colleagues, ever did.


 
Posted : 14/04/2017 9:31 pm
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The OH pretty much does it all. Many moons ago when we were in the process of looking for houses one of her wants was "a reasonable sized garden" my response was "if you're going to do the gardening."

I do help a tiny amount I mow the lawn once of twice a year. I also get given all the jobs that involve height, reach or destruction. Although when I get the destruction jobs I then get told off for taking too much off/damaging too much etc...


 
Posted : 14/04/2017 10:08 pm
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Mrs M is banned from gardening as she a living Agent Orange.


 
Posted : 14/04/2017 10:11 pm
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I mow the lawn/mass, but that is all there is to the garden.
As with Scotroutes I'd happily concrete it over.


 
Posted : 14/04/2017 10:22 pm
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I heard a friend once comment that she loved going back to see her parents as the garden is so nice and full of life/flowers/colour/scent/insects etc. That's what I hope for my kids, so ours is going to get stuffed full of nice looking things and will be kept nice!


 
Posted : 14/04/2017 10:25 pm
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Both love it here fortunately. It's good fun doing it together - we've started from a blank canvas - very daunting.

Last few weeks we've been working on palisade fencing, pergola, borders and made a decent start to the veggie patch.

I'm positively excited and looking forward to veggies

As a novice, it would be unwise to leave me unsupervised... ๐Ÿ˜‰


 
Posted : 14/04/2017 10:49 pm
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My Dad is always in his garden doing stuff, always has been. I did wonder whether it's something I'll get in to, but then I realised that by the time my Dad was my age he'd been doing it for about 15 years.

Apparently he learnt most of it from the old guy who lived next door to them for the first two years that my parents lived in the house (before I was born). Dad would be attempting stuff and the old would be out there telling him where he was going wrong!


 
Posted : 14/04/2017 11:03 pm
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I love "gardening" and optimising the environmental conditions as far as possible for the greatest return but I expect my interpretation of "gardening" is something entirely different as to what passes for the average bit of STW lawn care and veg plots.


 
Posted : 15/04/2017 12:24 am
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I 'built' the garden to be a lot lower maintenance than the allotment ๐Ÿ™‚ I still absolutely bloody love it.

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Get a front garden this year too ๐Ÿ™‚


 
Posted : 15/04/2017 1:29 am
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I'm a practitioner of Darwinian gardening.

I do mow the lawn though, even going to feed and seee it this year to try and get it nice and thick.


 
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