[Closed] 41 and single again.....

Bummer fella. Get yourself busy I say, whether with life or ladies...

This weeks weather forecast is sunny and 25C

Ride your bike.

Bikes a given... Need to get fit for the corryarick at the end of June.

I hope you've already instituted naked Sundays in your new regime.

you know how youve always wanted to pack a bivvi in a rucksack and walk the length of Norway* ... now's the chance.

* may be just me.

Sorry to hear your bad news pal

I'd recommend packing the bike in the car and go and find some epic trails - if you can persuade a mate or two to join you, even better 😀

Yep just u... Ive got some time off booked in June so may do something adventurous then.... Suggestions welcome

move things about a bit, move the settee put the tv in a different spot, move the bed just change things about to where you want them, make the place feel like yours,

Karma. Wasn't meant to be, but look back at the good times you shared rather than anything negative.
Enjoy yourself, fill your new found own time as much as possible and enjoy yourself.

Drive around Scotland for a week or two hitting up as many spots as possible...

Unless you already live in Scotland... in which case... damn things really are crap.

Yep in Scotland although lots of places I wanna see here...

don't start drinking...

Ring a mate right now.

Make a list of stuff you couldn't when you were with her, and sort out doing it

its gets better, be strong, get on with life.

[i]41 and single again.....[/i]

You lucky, lucky man! (even though I've no complaint about my Mrs at all, I quite envy you) But mebbe thats just me.

In the words of William Wallace, FREEEDOMM!

EDIT, ok mebbe a bit early for me to comment like that but, you'll see.

don't start drinking...

Don't start drinking regularly, a beer or two tonight is a different matter.

Spent the weekend doing a bike race with a mate, he's 51, divorced, and has been seeing his current girlfriend for 4 years - he wasn't over the hill, and nor are you.

Edit: this is possibly reading too much into the "41" bit of your post - I'm trying to say that you're still young, and even if it's a pisser right now there's no reason it should be in the future!

The King is dead long live the King

Dont do anything daft and ensure your income stream is protected (dont let your personal problems affect what you do to earn a living)

Tart up your home and youself and have some fun go and ride your bike, look forward not back

If you are a normal guy, dont have too much baggage and look half decent your are a rare commodity and will be in demand but take your time.

New bike.

Yep. Normal guy, nay kids...not a bad job/income. Work should keep me busy/occupied

Happened to me 2 years ago when I was the same age.

Got out on the bike a lot.took up running,did my first triathlon.Having some sort of goal helps keep you sane and the training put me in a better place.

I also made a list of things I wanted to do,10k run,cross europe road trip,a few gigs,that sort of thing.

Recconected with old friends again,which led to me having a brief relationship with a girl I knew from my school days.

Bit of dating for a while and now have steady girlfriend.

Keep a positive outllok,keep your mates close and it will work out fine.

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A relationship breakup this time last year got me back into cycling after 15 years with no riding

My weekends became mine again - shed loads of riding and discovering the amazing trails this country contains

Just think - the next ride you come home from, no one will get grumpy if you drag a bit of mud into the house!!

This is a new beginning - a new opportunity - enjoy it!!

She will be back, they always come back like homing pigeons, but they usually crap on you first.

Rory Gallagher's A Million Miles Away..played loud...used to help me.

I'm 55 with no significant other at present AND the QUIET can be quite friendly. Embrace it.

Lucky man, now go buy a Les Paul & a Marshall !

balls to all the positive stuff. Go to the pub and get pished! Then wake up and realise you can do whatever you want! wahoo 😀

Lots of time to ride your bike and do all the fun things you've been wanting to do for ages 🙂

some one please tell me it wasnt only me who read the second post with a childish giggle his girl friend has left him he hasnt came out

anyhow sorry to hear it dude but think of the miles

lol @ BoardinBob, that's quality!

Ride loads, do things you really like doing especially ones that were frowned upon by your ex, treat yourself a bit (if you've got the means) though don't go overboard, but a couple of weeks away riding bikes would be good. And errrrr... Just wait whilst all the local single ladies form an orderly queue outside your front door, as at your age with a good job and capable of looking after yourself, you're a rare catch!

First things first, have a Sherman tank 😀

Just happened to me too, aged 38 after 3 years.
I'm pretty sad but that's to be expected but very pleased to have gotten my freedom back.

Went to wales, slept in the van with the mud and my bike, raced my bike this weekend....its all good.

Dating can do one right now. This is MY TIME again 🙂

Good luck to you man. Keep your chin up.

Alcohol fixes everything.

Temporarily.

lucky sod

OI, GET OFF THE INTERNET AND GET THE F+_^ING DISHES WASHED!
Then you can go have a beer at the local and arrange your weeks riding 😀

Book at MTB holiday for a few months time. Lots of nice places to choose from (fancy Lake Garda myself) and lots of people go by themselves.

Will give you something to look forward too and a reason to train.

Oh and try to get everything financial etc. sorted asap so it is a clean split

Are you planning on stalking her now?

worse things will happen, better things will happen, go do stuff you enjoy, don't sit at the bottom of a bottle but do have a blow out with pals if possible.

Francis Dunnery & It Bites helped me!
eat me in st louis & thankyou and goodnight in particular!

Some very good advise. Even simple things like this makes a difference : [i]"move things about a bit, move the settee put the tv in a different spot, move the bed just change things about....."[/i]

We all have our brains "hard-wired" to expect certain things in our lives to follow a pattern, the hardest thing to deal with in these situations is when these expectations don't happen, so change your life so that these exceptions no longer occur, or at least are minimised.

Make things as different as you can to how your life was up until tonight. Redecorate, buy new clothes, stuff like that, but most important of all, do [i]different things[/i]. Start a completely new hobby, go to evening classes, learn a musical instrument/dancing, anything like that. And meet completely new people too. Keep away from alcohol. And let time do the rest. Good luck.

TA all..liking the Mtb holiday idea.. Where's best to go?

Whistler. Or up north - as far as you can go. A friend just spent a weekend in the Torridons, it sounded amazing and has been added to my list.

very early days but be positive ,,,, i`m 49 and met my perfect fiancee 3yrs ago

Mate how lucky are you! Only serving 5 years

Now you can actually get in the bathrom, and leave the toilet seat up. Never understod the Mrs about that! If its up put it down, christ I have to, if I dont and hit the seat theres girder.

No having to put up with her annoying habits, in-laws, freinds.

No having had "too much" to drink. Jesus I wouldn't need to if I wasn't with my Mrs! The only escape I get from her is the very occasional drunken stupor.

Not having to tollerate her PMS, thats "potential murder suspect" in my house.

Being able to be right, just the once.

Not having to eat her health food shite!

Actually having somewhere to hang my clothes and a drawer to call my own.

Constanly having to fix thinlgs the doppy mare has broke, dropped etc.

Not haviing to fork out for a new kitchen because she doesn't like the one thats only three years old.

Not being force fed soap operas and actually being able to watch footy on tv without her, hoovering, nattering, ringing her mates and generally doing my head in.

Being able to get to the pub within 15 minutes of deciding I am going rather than waiting an eternity for her to get ready.

Going out on my bike when I like rather than shopping, seeing the out-laws, fitting in with her agenda, that miraculously always, and I mean ALWAYS clashes with what I either want or sometimes ned to do.

Going to bed and not sneezing all night because of the apparent explosion in the perfume factory that produces enough stink for the whole of humanity that is our bedroom.

GOD I so want to be single again, I think I only stay beacuse I love my dogs and couldn't work and look after the dogs aswell.

MIght not be what you want but I am jealous!

cynic-al - Member
[b]Bummer fella[/b]. Get yourself busy I say, whether with life or ladies...

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Miss-read that at first glance. Thought it was fairly direct advice, but would make a change, and might take your mind of things...

Oh, and make the most of it, it never lasts long enough 🙂

😀

wow pinqu66 you sound just great to live with 🙄

Taken emsz, sorry!

Morocco is a great place for an MTB holiday - it is nice in Autumn to get away from the UK weather. I have been with the people below:

http://www.cycleactive.co.uk/mountain/africa/morocco.html

One day I will figure out the dark art of videos. Anyway this song always helps.

Bobby, if you are feeling numb there is probably a reason? So forget the let's play single stuff, go fight and get her back!

Just seen this, as pingu, you jammy get !

I became single again at 39 after 11 years with one person.
Despite all the advice I didn't try and shag like crazy or get her back.
I just did what I wanted to do which mostly evolved around friends and fitness.
She came back and we had a go at it but it didn't work out.
I'm now happy with someone else.
Find and learn about yourself is my advice.
Don't feel concerned that you're confined to a life of loneliness which was my greatest fear.
Things will work out for you either way.

bobbyatwork - Member
Any tips

cynic-al - Member
Bummer fella.

bit drastic 😯

Hookers

Drugs

Alcohol

......so go to Amsterdam with a friend. Go out partying, tell every girl you meet that you're a doctor or a fighter pilot and bang everything that moves.

..............OR go and do this

http://www.gvi.co.uk/

and maybe you will meet some nice down to earth girl that doesn't care for money.

Don't be concerned about being single, life has a funny way of working out....unless you live in Somalia etc.

Go out with your single mates for beer and a laugh
Come home when you want
Ride when you want

After a while things will settle down.

Try and avoid going out looking for the perfect woman nothing smells worse that eau d' trying way to hard

I'm reminded of a screenshot from Facebook I saw yesterday.

xxxx is now single
xxxx likes porntube
xxxx likes redtube

Don't pick up unhealthy 'addictions' in the fallout 🙂

tell every girl you meet that you're a doctor

Don't. It doesn't work, and all that happens is you get asked about what to do about random relatives' health problems.

Andy

If you are a normal guy, dont have too much baggage and look half decent your are a rare commodity and will be in demand but take your time

Pretty much the advice my best mate gave me. And he was right.

Christ, if it happened again, at the start of summer, with a bit of cash in the bank...I'd be off. Buy a van. Kit it out. Away you go.

Bikes can now live in the house/flat! Repairs in the warm with beer/tea close to hand.

Don't forget your mates and don't become a recluse. Hang out with as many friends as you can, have a few beers, go for a ride and have fun. Don't dwell on the bad stuff - it was never meant to be. Laughter helps. A lot!

And don't get hung up on worrying you're going to be alone forever. Loads of single, attractive women out there and plenty of ways to meet them (when you're ready!!) - cycling / fitness orientated dating sites are full of mtbing chicks looking for YOU! 😆

What happened? Just didn't work out?

LMAO at Boardinbob's fairy tale post.
😆

Laughed too at the suggestion to go out with single mates.
I is 42, all mates are luv'd up, kiddies, etc.
Lads nights out are a dim and distant memory for my mates.
See Pingu's post ^^^^
(very amusing also 🙂 )

I fear I am about to join the ranks of the available.... Again.

Oh well.

If it wasn't for bad luck.....

Still.
I cycled to work this morning for the first time in 6 years.
Felt great.
Pity though I didn't remember to bring my door pass, which is still in the car.

Life, eh ?.
😉

move things about a bit, move the settee put the tv in a different spot, move the bed just change things about

My missus has moved the furniture arround 3 times in the year since I started working away from home and re-painted 2 of the rooms, should I be worried?

[i]I fear I am about to join the ranks of the available.... Again.[/i]

Well, if behave like that, not a massive surprise hmmm? 😆

[i]Well, if behave like that, not a massive surprise hmmm[/i]

❓

EDIT
[i]should I be worried[/i]
Not sure.
One thing is for definate though.
Life at home goes on without you.
Looking back.
One of my largest regretts was being on the road for so long.
As this stopped me having the quality time at home, I think a lot of people take for granted.

change the locks
put all her stuff in binbags and leave it out for collection
change your phone number

slag her off to anyone who will listen and if possible persue her through a solicitor for everything she thinks she owns.

men are shit at this stuff.
those of you in relationships, open a new discreet savings account now.

Since i split with my ex who may now be pingu66's current I:-
1) upgraded the bike i had on order
2) got to the joint accounts second to find them closed or overdrawn
3) went mountain biking in greece usa wales scotland and the Alps
4) planned to stay single and enjoy that life
5) met and married someone who is genuinly ideal for me
6) fathered a son

A divorce in my mid thirties was truely start of the best time of my life .

Soobalias.
😯

I can't remember who, but someone wise on here once said something along the lines of;

Save time, find a Woman you don't like and give her half a house..
😆

Still.

At least the weather is showing signs of improving during this coming week.

OP you are 41 and single?

Get onto POF and clean up. Its full of wimin in a similar situation. Just tell them what they want to hear and get slammin'.

[i]and get slammin'[/i]

Because, of course.
Thats all, life is about.
😉

Depends if you have an unusually lower than average sexdrive for a man. 😉

Or if you are a normal bloke.

[i]Depends if you have an unusually lower than average sexdrive for a man.

Or if you are a normal bloke.
[/i]

😆

You are something else.

Is that what you keep Mrs Hora for ?.

That woman deserves a Medal.

Make that two medals!.
😉

To the OP... start training for an IronMan.

You'll never have time for anything else and if you do, you'll be able to charm [s]bore[/s] women with tales of being an IronMan.

None of those women will actually want anything to do with you, but it won't matter becuase all you'll want to do is slam on your compression tights and fall asleep at night.

[i]To the OP... start training for an IronMan.[/i]

😆

Hi TSY.
😀
Have a good Weekend ?.

whats pof?

Plenty of Fish?

Plenty O Fish.

Its a Dating Website.

I tried Match, last year.
didn't impress me.

POF was gonig to be my next attempt.

But then I was distracted.