This is a bit of a tricky one for me!
It's never been a family secret that myself (and brother and sister) are adopted, lots of people know, but we've come to a time where I may need to raise the subject with my daughter (age 11), before someone else does.
My main problem is that she has a great relationship with my parents and I'd really hate to spoil that. I'm a bit worried she'd think of them as 'not proper grandparents' and my wife's parents would become the 'real' ones. Admittedly this is a unlikely, but kids brains don't always think rationally! My mother is not in favour of telling her, but my father thinks we should.
The issue has come to the surface as my sister has recently adopted 2 children of her own so this naturally means adoption is discussed.
It's got to come up sometime (when medical history may be an issue), but I was always kind of favoured waiting until my parents died. (one is 75 other is 79).
Just wondered whether there were any other adoptees who've been through similar?
(NB - I've never bother to trace my birth parents, and probably never will)