I’ve got a big bouncy bike and a lightweight whippet. Enjoy riding both, because they’re so different. Certainly, on big long rides with less technical terrain, the whippet is much more enjoyable. I like to swap between carbon rigid forks and sus forks just to mix it up a bit sometime, but the rigids usually for commuting and/or rides that are really easy terrain.
I haven’t got any specifics to recommend, half the fun is researching everything, but I’d say look for a frame of 1500gms or less, wheels of 1500gms or less and buy a headset that has a split crown race (ie Hope), that way you can swap between carbon rigid and sus forks easily. I aimed for sub 20lbs with carbon rigids, which meant about 22lbs with sus forks.