Softshells can be washed and washed and just keep working – cos they were never designed to bead water like a proper waterproof.
I’ve always found that washing a waterproof wrecks the DWR coating, no matter how carefully you wash it with the right stuff. It always needs reproofing and is just never quite as good as it was when new.
Unless its torrential heavy rain, a softshell will keep you warm and dryish and be way more durable. I’ve had 4 years and still going out of one of my Aldi soft shells. I’m only thinking of binning it as its got a bit whiffy rather than any great wear.
I find softshells with windproof body/chest but non-windproof arms are about right for all but the current cold snap and sunny summer days. Fully windproof soft shells are super super warm.