I’ve used 32 hole mavic open pro rims on 3 cross for everything from cx to heavy touring. I’m sure my weight and panniers weighs more than you.
I think you will be fine on most wheels without a weight limit restriction, however, some will flex more than others.
Personally id avoid 20 hole aero spoke wheels but I think they would be fine.
BTW 6ft3 and just under 13 stone but unfortunately or fortunately depending how you look at it I can’t put any more weight on.
At 6ft4 and 15 stone I doubt you are offended easily 🙂