I’ve recently split up with my gf of 2 years
I’ll try and make this as short as possible
We were living together, things going great, mother in law stayed for a long time, tried to split us up and although she didn’t, I think she did enough damage to wonder if my gf was sticking up for me enough. Her mother would just be constantly having a go at me and the gf didn’t seem to do much to defend me. However it turned out later on that they were fighting like cat and dog about me when I wasn’t around.
The next little issue was a guy at her work who was sniffing around. She is a very confident, friendly bubbly character, and a lot of guys get the wrong impression. Anyway, I think some mild flirting was going on, but as soon as I voiced my concerns it stopped. I have always trusted her and she tells me everything, good and bad, not just what I want to hear. No cheating was going on.
But like a knob, I went inside myself a little which I tend to do, and ended up being quite distant with her. I’m not confident and things get on top of me. I turned to the internet and started chatting to girls online. Gf found out, went nuts, and ended up leaving after about a month.
Now we both miss each other like hell, and both still love each other. I think about her all day, and according to her she does too. Realised we didn’t treat each other well, and realised we made mistakes that won’t be repeated. She’s been moving around staying with various friends.
I’m thinking we should try again, take things slowly and try some dates etc
Is it salvagable, worth saving, or is it opening another world of pain?
Is it better to bury my head in the sand and go through being miserable for a year or so, before I get over it, or do you think things can get back to how they were?