Just a quick question to the parents out there to check if I'm just out of touch with current thinking:-
We are a childless couple with a fairly small house – i.e. one quite small reception room. When we ask friends over for dinner we are amazed how many assume it is OK to bring their kids. When you (i.e. the two of you) are asked to dinner at 8pm on a friday night would you assume that your whole family was invited? Most of our friends have 2 or 3 rug rats aged 5-10yrs olds and the stock response seems to range from
a – "yes, love to come, is it ok to bring the kids?"
b – "yes, but please remember child x is allergic to mushrooms"
c – just turn up with the kids
If you say no to the kids it makes you sound like the bad guys. This weekend we asked 3 other couples around and ended up with 17 in the house – not quite the mellow evening we'd hoped for. And should kids of that age but up and running around at midnight anyway?
Do people not have just adult time any more? Just really fed up of having evenings with kids running around and around, watching a purple dinosaur 3ft away. As a child myself my folks always left me and my sister behind with baby sitters – but have things changed? Maybe I'm out of touch.