Mid life crises... Your experiences please!

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Mid life crises... Your experiences please!

49 posts & 38 voices | Started 5 months ago by mboy | Latest reply from epicyclo

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crispy bacon - Member

My first mlc was the sudden realisation @ age 39 that i was chronically unfit & that i had to so something about it as 40 was just round the corner. Bought a BSO from Halfrauds & got my fitness back. Eventually bought a real mtb & started riding off road, i now ride as much as i can & i'm fitter now than i've ever been.

My second mlc was at 48 i was diagnosed with skin cancer which was a big shock & it made me realise how short our life on this planet is. I had two operations & now 2 years on my remission continues. I cherrish everyday now & try to cram in as much as possible. I'm far more relaxed about work & life in general, i'm more mellow & don't let things stress me out. No tats or motorbike yet i'll see what santa brings me this year.

For me the key to my mlc is being happy, relaxed & content with life.

Posted 5 months ago #
alfabus - Member

I see lots of older guys suddenly getting tattoos and piercings, new wardrobes, a motorbike, a flash mountain bike, or whatever it may be, and in a way I can understand it now I think

I can't stop thinking I've become too predictable

So to avoid being predictable, you think you'd like to join in with what everyone else is doing?

Does not compute.

Dave

Posted 5 months ago #
Papa_Lazarou - Member

I think having fun through biking keeps you much younger physically and mentally than the sedentary lifestyle that most people lead. That and not taking work too seriously.

I've just been on biking holiday with my Dad who is 65, bikes well upwards and DH, likes a beer afterwards. Not much difference between us except he drinks more beer and goes to bed earlier. I plan to carry on in the same fashion and feel no need to inject further spice by having a fling or buying a sports car.

Posted 5 months ago #
binners - Member

Mid life crisis are things tedious people have. As if they need some justification for doing something they actually enjoy. Normally in the most boringly predictable fashion imaginable. Oh look - another accountant on a Harley!

Normal people call it 'living'

Posted 5 months ago #
Papa_Lazarou - Member

Binners - I've messaged you on Facebook re a possible ride over xmas.

Posted 5 months ago #
rocketman - Member

A 'crisis' is what other people call it.

The reality is you reach a time in your life when you have a raised a family, have a roof over your head & food on the table and actually have the time/money to think about yourself for a change.

Posted 5 months ago #
GlitterGary - Member

might actually go the other way during my stint of middlerage and become a townie, watch football and read the sun.

I thought tattoos and piercings were all the rage for football watching, Sun reading townies? They are around here.

Posted 5 months ago #
ourmaninthenorth - Member

Too young to have had one yet (35).

Broadly, aren't they just a timing issue - you get to an age where you have the money to do the things you couldn't do when you didn't have it?

I know someone whose 40 yo/o husband has just been found out putting himself on a "dating" site for casual how's-yer-father. It's always the quiet ones you have to watch..!

Posted 5 months ago #
yunki - Member

when I hit 35 I gave up my (very fulfilling) life of drugs booze anarchy and mayhem and settled down with a nice wifey lady in the countryside to raise a family, bake cakes and ride bikes..

Posted 5 months ago #
reluctantwrinkly - Member

I'm 55 & still love riding bikes, flying kites & model Heli's so still a big kid really! No time for a crisis hopefully.

Posted 5 months ago #
woody2000 - Member

I had mine in my mid/late 20's, though in reality it was more of a crisis of confidence that led me to do some pretty stupid stuff. 40 now, and much more settled and happy with myself

Posted 5 months ago #
mboy - Member

Mid life crisis are things tedious people have. As if they need some justification for doing something they actually enjoy. Normally in the most boringly predictable fashion imaginable. Oh look - another accountant on a Harley!
Normal people call it 'living'

Haha, that was the way I always viewed it Binners, definitely that kind of thing is ridiculously boring and predictable.

To be honest I'm more on about doing a few things I've always wanted to, but none of my close friends or family would understand. Something that more boring or mundane people would confuse for a crisis certainly, which is kinda the point I was getting at. It would just be me doing a few things (probably unexpected by people that know me cos I've never chatted about them with them) that I've wanted to do for a while I suppose. Lack of funds might preclude most of them for some time to come anyway, but never mind...

Oh and I'm not talking motorbikes, or flash cars, or another woman or anything like that for myself. Had a string of quick cars when I was younger, these days ability to get bikes in and be cheap to run is way more important. Have also had motorbikes for years anyway. And I'm single, so would be hard to have a bit on the side!

Posted 5 months ago #
mastiles_fanylion - Member

I don't think the 'midlife' thing is as stark as it used to be - there was a time when you got married at 20, had kids and then hit 40 seeing the kids grow up and question what you actually achieved in your own life as it felt like your job was done.

Nowadays people have far more life experiences (travelling etc) then get married later, have children later and probably feel more fulfilled as a result. And no-one bats an eye at a 40+ fat bloke on a mountain bike whereas a couple of generations ago that same bloke would have been working all hours and then going home/to the pub to relax in what time he had left.

Posted 5 months ago #
epicyclo - Member

Mid life crisis? I call it an awakening.

One day you look around you and realise you have been squeezed into a life you didn't choose. You look at the dispirited old grey men in your workplace and realise that once they were like you.

I remember the day well. Came back from lunch, did a bit of work, looked around at the dogm, and it hit me. I gave it half an hour's objective thought, packed up my personal stuff and walked out.

Best thing I ever did.

I aim to make a similar sudden resolution every few years. Keeps life interesting not knowing what you will be doing next year.

Posted 5 months ago #