So at half past 6 on a sunday evening my redneck hotrod mad neighbour starts using an industrial pressure washer to clean his paintbrushes(!) on a a concrete slab, it wakes up my sleeping 11 week old daughter so I lean over the fence and ask his wife very politely if he could maybe do it some other time. By way of an insight into what this fella is like it is not unusual for him to turn over one of the two admittadly lovley 34 fords he keep in his shed as late as 1 pm these things have no silencers and honking great v8s. the wife says to me "he's nearly finished now" I say "its just that our baby is just going down" She says "Your baby will have to learn to deal with noise"
Am I wrong in thinking that she was a) rude
b) doing nothing wrong
or c)been asked this question so many times over the years by irate neighbours that she has forgotten how stressful the early months of child raising is and is now a battle worn redneck bitch who realises her petrol head powertool loving moron of a beau will always alienate them from their neighbours with his obsessive inconsiderate noisy ****ttery?
I actually dont care what the singletrack massive think i'm just friggin sick of them and want to vent.

half past six and 1pm? Hardly unreasonable times to make a bit of noise surely?

c,

what else would you like people not to do when it doesn't quite suit you? 6.30pm? are you having a laugh?

over reaction…

Now my neighbours dog that was barking at gone midnight, that is annoying…

Oooh damn 6pm at night that is late. 🙄

Sorry, you are over reacting.

I actually dont care what the singletrack massive think

I think that maybe just as well.

I'm glad you dont live next to me. 1 in the afternoon is a perfectly reasonable time to make a little noise. You wanna learn to be a little more tolerant.

6:30pm is way too early to raise a complaint about noise unless it's constantly happening and causing significant disruption.

Having said this, this guy sounds like a proper twunt and could do with being a bit more considerate to you (and everyone else around him).

Selfish disruptive neighbours cause people a great deal of stress and the situation ain't funny when you are on the receiving end!

My advice is approach them when you have calmed down and try to agree a compromise (but don't expect a great deal as types like this usually don't have a capacity for empathy, or are just plain selfish). You can but try.

Good luck with the baby! My experience is that it takes forever to get them to sleep, with the tiniest noise waking them up, however, once they are off, you could make as much noise as you like and they still won't stir. Could never work that one out. The baby phase is a short one thankfully!

Doh! that of course should be 1am!

you should do 'wife swap' with them

I think the fact that you had an 'interaction' with another person is funny.

I 'chat' or 'talk' or sometimes have a cup of tea or a beer with my neighbours. All 'interaction' I suppose……..

Swap AM and PM so it makes sense.

She says "Your baby will have to learn to deal with noise"

It's a fair point well made TBH.

lol @ making noise at 6pm./. – perhaps you'd like them to stop at 3 in the afternoon, just so you can have your afternoon nap in peace too?

I also realise that half six doesnt seem that late but when your tiny little kiddy just wont stop crying for 4 hours and finally drops off only to be woken by a rather exteme alternative to dipping some brushes in a bucket of water, you do take on an irational perspective, oh and IdleJon just using a bit of flowery language is all.

Your baby will have to learn to deal with noise

Sounds to me like a polite way of saying BTFU

I can understand your frustrations but no-one, no matter the circumstances, could expect someone to be quiet at that time. The running engines at 1am is another matter which you could consider taking action on ( see your council on how to deal with it)

did you apologise to her for 4 hours of crying baby? bet that really pisses off all your neighbours…

Sounds to me like a polite way of saying BTFU

lol

"won't someone please think of the children"

It's taken you all week to get wound up about this?

It's taken you all week to get wound up about this?

I'm guessing he's the other side of the globe

grab yourself a copy of the daily mail and read it.
there's always somebody worse off than yourself.

uplink – Premier Member

I'm guessing he's the other side of the globe

I guess you are right given the reference to V8 fords

You are being unreasonable, I agree with the wife, in saying "Your baby will have to learn to deal with noise" was a very polite way of putting it.

The 1am car thing is wrong though, what do the other neighbours say?

You should probably supply him with a timetable of when your baby will be asleep. That way he'll be able to fit his noise around your schedule. Running an engine at 1am is unreasonable, but a pressure washer at 6-00pm isn't.

Your new baby is obviously the most important thing in your world, but it's no the most important thing in the world.

Your neighbours sound like arseholes. I'd move.

Seriously a polite request for some quiet for a few minutes peace to get the baby back off meets learn to live with it?

Did she have a fag hanging out of her mouth and plently of gold dripping off her. It's not the fact that it probably was as quick to wait for him to finish once the damage was done it's the lack of any manners, no sorry oh dear I'll let him know, nothing, just **** off and deal with it.
If that were one of my neighbours they would have been mortified, embarrassed and apologetic, at the very least saying sorry and asking about the baby.
I'm with you mate I'd have been livid. Oh and as an aside who cleans paintbrushes with a pressure washer FFS.

That's what you get for leaving Scotland to live in NZ.

It should always be OK to ask; many of us would comply just to be helpful.

I used to live next door to a chap that worked nights and opposite us was a chap with a motorbike. The motorbike man liked to work on his bike in the drive sometimes revving it up as motorbike men tend to do. My neighbour would open the window and yell abuse at him. Not sure which one deserves sympathy really.

My next-door neighbours have asked us to stop drilling in the daytime when their child is sleeping, and we've asked them the same probably.

Your neighbours are a***holes, irrespective of whether they have an inalienable right to make noise at 6pm.

slimtubing – Member
I also realise that half six doesnt seem that late but when your tiny little kiddy just wont stop crying for 4 hours and finally drops off only to be woken by a rather exteme alternative to dipping some brushes in a bucket of water, you do take on an irational perspective, oh and IdleJon just using a bit of flowery language is all.

We'll have none of your persiflage around here. 😛

I'm assuming that this 'cleaning paintbrushes at half past 6' happens every Sunday evening……….otherwise it would hardly be worth complaining about.

So yeah, anyone who leads such a regimented life does indeed sound like a nightmare – and an example of excellent material for the TV series Neighbours From Hell.

It should always be OK to ask; many of us would comply just to be helpful.

From the tone of the OP though, I wonder how it was asked.

Are you suggesting this was a one off incident Ernier, surely it's obvious the guy decorates during the week then just waits for slim's kid to be sleeping before cleaning them.

Not once have I approached anyone to say "Do you mind my kids are trying to sleep." you have to accept the world carries on when you have kids.

Parent in thinking the world revolves around his or her baby shocker 🙄

Though, they do sound like not the greatest neighbours. We have two sets of neighbours – one sound as anything, the others absolute w4nkers. They do make your life a misery.

I'm sympathise with slimtubing.
I live next to a petrolhead who insists on turning over his Nissan Skyline FWS (full w@nker spec) with bake bean can exhaust at all times of day. Its a second car he hardly drives it but insists on idling it for 20 mins before and after driving.
It was like hell all those years ago with our baby daughter who couldn't sleep with the noise (she's a fair bit older now). We moved her to a back room.

Within their rights – yes. Neighbourly – No.

I hope the screaming kid isn't disturbing the neighbours…

This thread is very instructive about some people's attitudes. If I was asked to be keep the noise down while a neighbour got their baby to sleep I'd be very happy to. What's wrong with a bit of consideration for other people?

EDIT: In fact I'd like to think I wouldn't need to be asked to keep the noise down in the early evening if there was a tiny baby next door. In fact I might use it as an opportunity to socialise my teenage son by expecting him to turn his music down and stop shouting at his mates on XBox Live for a bit.