A "friend" of mine recently got dumped, quite abruptly, no blame on his or her part it's just the way it goes sometimes. He is getting over it now but for future reference do you have any tips for getting through this with as little pain as possible.
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How do you mend a broken heart?
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No, just deal with it
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Gaffa tape and Leonard Cohen
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Pull a slapper - genuinely works wonders for the ego (and the body). I have been the 'slapper' for others (girls) before now, and didn't mind at all
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As user-removed says, or shag her mates ( guarenteed they'll be one of them up for it)
Have fun with your pals, forget about her, ride your bike, get drunk, and realise life goes on either with or without youPosted 11 months ago # -
But seriously though, having given it a bit of thought, I do remember how it feels and stavromuller
No, just deal with it
is actually spot on. There's no quick fix (unless grovelling and begging works).I still remember staggering through a family reunion after being dumped in a strange city an hour beforehand. All I wanted to do was curl up in a dark room, but you've just got to struggle through I'm afraid.
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Yep, you've got to just keep going. Been there myself and it's a pretty screwed up place to be. It's a cliche but time IS a great healer. Everyone reacts to things in their own way but i guess that time is the one thing that helps everone recover. Well, for the vast majority of us anyway. Glad to hear your mate's getting through it.
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Man the f*ck up and smile. Chin up and walk proud. You are still yourself and if you became so involved you lost self then thrive in the enjoyment of finding yourself again. Doing things for you and loving the world because it is fun as f*ck to be more jolly than all the miserable bar stewards out there. Mwahahahahaha smile mother *****r!
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Boffing her best friend is a great way to make yourself feel better.
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"Life is painful; suffering is optional." Sylvia Boorstein
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Yep crack on. The universe has a strange way of directing you towards good stuff, you just have to read the signs.
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Time. Knee deep in clunge helps.
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12 hours w***athon?
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get laid
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"Life is painful; suffering is optional." Sylvia Boorstein
"Nail a hooker." Silvio Berlusconi
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give it time and shag EVERYTHING.
funny as hell and also a bit shallow but its getting me through it
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Supertramp....... are you sure it wasn't you who got dumped?
Was it a long relationship?
If it's any comfort I have in the last six months come out of a 3 year relationship and am so fooking relieved as I no longer have to put up with her domestic abuse, humiliation & criticism! And she also came between me and my Biking!
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Stop being dumb dumbs, most people focus on what they've lost all of the good shit, **** that! just get a list of all the bad shit.
Crap at blowjobs, farts a lot when beer is consumed, wants to talk rubbish after sex, shurrup moron I'm trying to relax and **** sleep
Joking aside, just write a list of all the crap stuff and every time your feeling down, get it out and see if you can add to it or just go over what's on it, if the person you've just lost is perfect, then give yourself a slap with a fish, hard and start over
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Keep busy. Be patient.
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What kaesae said. Me and the other half split after 17yrs after i i **** up. I started going through the pish things in the relationship - and there were numerous - which made it easier to move on. I even had people tell me they thought the ex was a nippy cow!!
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dont know - but if you find out please let me know as I think mine is about to break.
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some very interesting replies, thanks!
I will pass them on to my 'friend'
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if you find out please let me know as I think mine is about to break.
Mine just did, headsup. It's what I wanted too and now's it's happened I'm falling apart.
Hope you and supertramp get through.Posted 11 months ago # -
Lots of ego-massage sex, and gin*
* but seriously it's a total headfuck, the only thing I can say is that over time, it gets easier**
** but the first thing too
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http://www.soyouvebeendumped.com
Thanks cynic-al. That really helped, until the end when I realised I was a good 10 year older than Matt. But it still helped a bit anyway. Cheers.Posted 11 months ago # -
time
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As pitduck sez; time. Simple as. Broke up with one girl for what seemed to be good reasons, found out later there were no good reasons in that if I'd just talked to her everything could have been sorted. Broke her heart, and mine too. That was twenty three years ago, and I still regret what I did and mourn what I lost. Time heals, but the scar never fades.
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Balls deep is the only way to go.
That & beer & time. Lots of beer, lots of time.
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The beer thing (or wine) apparenty made things worse (or at tleast no better) and my friend isn't a casual sex sort of bloke - sleeping with her best friend is a no-no (it's a man).
So, Stavromullers advice, though at first it appears a bit harsh, it seems the only way and it is what i'll suggest.
I have feedback on this and Kaesae, your list of bad points, my 'friend' asks 'do you know her?'
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in true stw fashion ....mtfu go on a camping trip with real mates really opens your eyes at what u have missed out on.
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Sorry to come late to this, I so wanted to contribute but needed to think about how to communicate what I wanted to say. Then it came to me…
Firstly a disclaimer: We all feel things differently, what you call love might not be what I call love, and my experience tells me that very few people actually feel that life encompassing all consuming love. If you are one of them, I am both happy for you and very sorry for you. A part of you has lived a life few are lucky enough to live. But a part of you has now died too.
Years ago I had a motocross accident and broke the navicular bone in my foot. Initially misdiagnosed as a sprained ankle, a week later I was held overnight for an emergency operation to pin it in the morning. I was off work for three months recovering, and living alone as I did I was suffering mentally too. To cut a long story short I eventually lost my job, and consequently my house. Years down the line I’m now fully recovered and very happy, but you know, on some days I get a little twinge…the foot plays up occasionally.
I think having a broken heart is pretty similar. At first the healing process is very slow, very painful, and takes a long time. One day you will be over it though, but that’s not to say that your heart is 100% mended, you may still have moments.
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TuckerUK, a good analogy
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Best way over a woman is under another.
Seriously. It works.
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Have fun, drink high quality booze, see all your mates and live life to the full.
Then one day the gods will smile on you and you'll be driving out of the carpark with your bike in the boot and she'll walk past on her way to work, looking rough, having an argument with her new boyfriend in the piss down rain...
... and that my friend, feels awesome.
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