@lmttm Yes, they go hand in hand. As the bars come closer you can then go wider, it evens out.
This is on a Soul also (small).
If you can scrounge various bars/stems from your mates then try different set ups.
One thing that came out when I was discussing this with a 'conservative' hardtailer friend at the weekend, is to think of this as a handling issue first, with fit second. He was asking "why bother with a shorter stem, I could just move my seat back", that is cart -> horse IMO.
There's a vid on Youtube of Cy Turner talking at an engineer's meeting where he discusses 'trail' which is the distance between where the wheel touches the ground (vertically beneath the axle), and the virtual point where the steering forces are applied. Worth a watch.