have you tried cutting his funding? like when he runs out of sticks, how does he pay for new ones? £10 a pair, 10 hrs a week minimum wage isn’t going to go far…
especially if you charge him some rent… presumably:
* he’s using your broadband to download porn
* he’s eating your food
* probably drinking your beer
* costing you 25% more in council tax (no single person discount)
* heating a room etc.
In reality I bet you or his mum are actually giving him cash too, and probably let him drive your car without paying for fuel / insurance etc…
At the very least he needs to be paying the extra costs of him living in your house, but really should be paying a fair share of the total cost. Various ways to work that out (e.g. pro-rata total costs based on net income – then you are not leaving him penniless right now, but also not creating an expectation that it is will be that cheap forever; or just work out what he would have to pay in the real world and break it to him – perhaps giving him till his 20th birthday to work out how he will pay).
If you feel guilty charging him, then put the money in a savings account (don’t tell him) and when he eventually moves out / gets married / etc give it to him as a deposit etc…
Wife’s cousin has only done 6 months work, and 1 yr at college in nearly 20 yrs since he left school. He’s got some basic qualifications and at least notionally has IT skills, but who would employ him? Who’s fault? His mother – she’s bankrolled it and he can’t even be bothered to go and sign on – as its too much hassle…