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  • The pronoun thread
  • funkmasterp
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    Since this thread has a a language vibe how can one become woke? It’s a past tense. Surely people are waking up or awake. This shit annoys me and I have no idea why! I’m guessing it originated in America because language massacring ****.

    Cougar
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    You are not gonna make an argument for faith are you?

    I was thinking more something like quantum physics, round Earth or the existence of kangaroos. I didn’t list an example because I couldn’t really think of a good one that wouldn’t immediately become a target to be pulled apart. If you thought I was going to argue in favour of faith then you haven’t read many of my posts over the years.

    This is the basics of the scientific method. Ordered observations of the evidence.

    That’s not how the scientific method works, you don’t get biologists calling out astronomers, or plasterers calling out microbiologists.

    It is simply not possible to understand everything on this planet or beyond. And that’s OK. So the things we don’t understand, we defer to experts in their fields rather than decrying everything they’re telling us because we haven’t seen it.

    Cougar
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    Since this thread has a a language vibe how can one become woke? It’s a past tense.

    Is it not possible to become awakened?

    thisisnotaspoon
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    TINAS – nothing about that article suggest that they were “born in the wrong body” they are born in the body they are born in end of story. They do show a difference from the norm. Is a downs syndrome person born in the wrong body?

    Do you apply that logic by going upto everyone with a disability and claiming they’re faking it because you can’t perceive it first hand?

    funkmasterp
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    Is it not possible to become awakened?

    No, that’s a past participle. You can be awakened but you can’t become awakened, that would be awake. I was awakened by the sound of pronouns everywhere! I am now awake. So right now nobody is woke they are awake. Bastard stupid word. Up there with fake news, just sounds like a **** idiot saying it. Like one of those **** who says myself instead of me.

    You can’t be woke right now, it’s happened in the past. You were woke but not anymore!
    Now you’re awake after having an awakening.
    See! Look what it’s doing to me 😂

    kimbers
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    Times change

    Some people struggle to adapt to it, but language, culture & it seems pronouns are dynamic

    Otherwise we’d all be addressing each other as

    thisisnotaspoon Esquire. (OK technically that’s a postnoun)

    Or Goodwife Cougar….

    Pronouns aren’t just about trans people, plenty of people consider themselves non-binary, I think as much as anything this is a push back against gender norms young’uns are bombarded with:
    The majority of us will never look like the contestants on Love Island, I can’t imagine what it’s like to be a teen growing up in the Instagram world bombarded by impossibly sculpted influencers & porn stars they see 24/7 on their phones & computers

    No wonder the ‘youth’ don’t want to conform to those impossible idealised gender stereotypes.

    The anti-trans debate is something else, but the 2 things are conflated in the ‘pronoun wars’
    And so much of the anti-trans movement has echoes of 70s homophobia- it took many people a long time to accept that people could be gay, some people have never accepted it.

    Cougar
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    Coincidentally, this just popped up on Facebook.

    And of course, dolphins are obviously fish. Lives underwater, has fins, fish.

    politecameraaction
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    Since this thread has a a language vibe how can one become woke? It’s a past tense.

    Because has at least three different meanings in different variants of English:

    – African American Vernacular English, where it means awakened to the real state of things in the polity

    – “standard” American English, where it has come to mean a predeliction to self-evidently ludicrous, fashionable political beliefs

    – many other varients of English where it simply is a past participle of wake

    “stay woke”…or maybe “stay fishy”

    Cougar
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    You can be awakened but you can’t become awakened

    Is it not possible to become awakened to something?

    LAT
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    isn’t woke in that meaning an adjective or a noun rather than a verb? a new word with a meaning separate from the past tense of wake.

    what annoys me about it is that it implies that the woke were ignorant of the plight of others before their awakening.

    what i love about it is that it how much the concept it defines upsets people.

    frankconway
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    I woke up 30 mins ago and will do the same in the morning.

    inkster
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    I know that in some Polynesian societies they have a third gender, callad fafana or something similar, (theres a great film about a trans footballer from American Samoa calld “Last Goal Wins”)

    With the pronoun thing, if the English language could accomadate a phrase that fitted in more easily, both grammatically and phoneticaly then I’m not so sure it would be so contentious.

    It’s hard to impose language on people, language develops of its’ own accord, people tend to adopt words because they fit or flow easily, we’ll either get used to the ‘they’ thing or we’ll come up with something else that sounds better.

    We’ll get there in the end….

    reeksy
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    She doesn’t suffer fool gladly,

    And yet … hmmmm.

    molgrips
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    I am called a terf because I have yet to see evidence that you can be “born in the wrong body”.

    Hmm. People all around you are trying to explain how they feel about themselves, and you are denying their feelings and experiences. You might want to have a think about how important your sense of scientific rectitude actually is in this context. As users of human languages, we try to assemble words that describe how we feel. This is pretty difficult, generally, and to be really good at it requires uncommon mastery. So we tend to use simple phrases to express concepts that are complex and personal. So I don’t think it’s worth trying to reduce the phrase ‘born in the wrong body’ to its most basic interpretation.

    Now, I’m sure you know this. Clearly we employ figurative speech and metaphor every day. I think that you just don’t like this idea. Ok, fine; but it’s not about you. It’s about the people who suffer from this issue. They feel that there is a problem with the way society views them.

    I’m a sciency person, but there is really no value in trying to reduce people’s ideas about themselves, their personality and their view of themselves to cellular biology. I absolutely believe that these things come from the brain ultimately, but that’s something we still know **** all about, really.

    This is the basics of the scientific method. Ordered observations of the evidence.

    Yes, and the fact there are millions of people all over the world talking about this issue is pretty good evidence of a phenomenon of some kind. I don’t see anything anti-scientific going on here – except by the people who are trying to deny the the concept of being trans.

    I was thinking more something like quantum physics, round Earth or the existence of kangaroos. I didn’t list an example because I couldn’t really think of a good one that wouldn’t immediately become a target to be pulled apart.

    What you’re thinking of is commonly referred to as the black swan phenomenon.

    5plusn8
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    Yes, and the fact there are millions of people all over the world talking about this issue is pretty good evidence of a phenomenon of some kind. I don’t see anything anti-scientific going on here – except by the people who are trying to deny the the concept of being trans.

    Billions of people talk about god. Is that evidence of the existence of god?

    I’m all for your interpretation molgrips, However the problem is if you want to take science out ofd it, then why is science being used to attempt to convert these people from one sex to another? And others will try and use science to say you can change someone’s sex.
    Gender is a sociological construct, normally based on bio sex.
    People feel they don’t fit in to that socio norm, I agree with them if that’s what they feel, and I don’t care what they do and how they behave, Why do we need to be thought policed about the bio sex part? You are saying that the science doesn’t matter, so fine, don’t try and convince me that it does.

    kerley
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    plenty of people consider themselves non-binary

    I do and so does my wife. Nearing our 60s we don’t feel particularly like either gender or see the point of gender so we would say we are non-binary in that sense.

    funkmasterp
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    isn’t woke in that meaning an adjective or a noun rather than a verb? a new word with a meaning separate from the past tense of wake.

    what annoys me about it is that it implies that the woke were ignorant of the plight of others before their awakening.

    what i love about it is that it how much the concept it defines upsets people.

    I think this is where I’m coming from. It’s a fantastic thing. I think it just needs a better word for it. For some reason it just sounds a bit dumb to me. Funny when right wing nutters whinge about it yet doesn’t do the issues at the heart of it justice. Just my opinion of course. Like incorrect use of myself it just makes people using it come across as a bit dense to me.

    oceanskipper
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    I can’t help wondering OP, given all the comments here,  why you have started a thread in the bike forum with the words “Hi Guys” …

    Deliberate trolling or just thoughtless?

    politecameraaction
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    I think it just needs a better word for it. For some reason it just sounds a bit dumb to me…it just makes people using it come across as a bit dense to me.

    There are lots of Englishes in the world. AAVE is not (I assume) your English, and the use of woke is grammatically regular there.

    Woke in Standard American English (i.e. as it has been co-opted by the right) is used precisely because it is non-grammatical and jarring – it’s supposed to suggest the thinking behind it is dissonant and perverse (and African-American).

    Maybe neither of these usages is designed to impress you?

    Edit: mildly amusing video of anti-woke warrior failing to define what “woke” means halfway down this article: https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2023/mar/16/woke-definition-conservatives-us

    https://www.vox.com/culture/21437879/stay-woke-wokeness-history-origin-evolution-controversy

    poly
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    The point I am trying to make is that there is no good reason not to respect peoples pro-noun requirements, it is basically easy, but if people muck it up or don’t want to, there is no good reason to vilify them either.

    It’s a little bit like being in a room full of professors.  If you call them all prof nobody will give you a prize.  If you call them all Dr, someone may correct you but nobody will really care, but if you call the men Prof and the women Dr or Mrs you can expect to piss people off.  If someone corrects you and you continue to do it then you are the problem.  If that’s accidental, recognise you have an inherent bias, appologise and try harder.  If you do it intentionally, either to make a point or cause hurt, then vilify away.   Inevitably someone will try to turn that argument around to why anyone should be called prof, and some sort of class or status war.  Those people may have a perfectly valid but totally irrelevant argument – if sometimes you use a title or pronoun, then try to use the right one.  If someone asks you to use something different learn from it rather than joining a culture war.  If someone gets your name or title wrong, if you think they did it intentionally making a drama out of it is probably what they wanted.

    ransos
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    If sometimes you use a title or pronoun, then try to use the right one.

    Well, quite. Someone at work is 6’2″, strongly built and has a five o’clock shadow. They prefer gender neutral pronouns. I don’t understand why but it’s their choice and all it requires of me is a little bit of thought.

    politecameraaction
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    Those people may have a perfectly valid but totally irrelevant argument – if sometimes you use a title or pronoun, then try to use the right one.  If someone asks you to use something different learn from it rather than joining a culture war.  

    I generally agree with you, but I draw the line at titles that are designed to put others in an inferior position or are just spooky. I always call my GP “doctor” because they earned it, but I’m not calling anyone “your highness” or “Father”. Admittedly this has never, ever arisen in real life for me…

    kennyp
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    They prefer gender neutral pronouns. I don’t understand why but it’s their choice and all it requires of me is a little bit of thought.

    Totally agree, you should respect his choice of pronoun or title. However why not tell him you in turn wish to be known as “the almighty one”.

    Silly yes, attention seeking yes, but he started it. It should cut both ways.

    kimbers
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    I work in an office with a large % of millennials and younger. I have encountered none of the things your on about.

    Ive spent the last 15 years working in a research institute thats been part of large universities
    We have quite a few students in the lab too
    I also have encountered none of this (we had one non-binary person in my las lab, they were pretty chill about the pronoun thing)

    ransos
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    Totally agree, you should respect his choice of pronoun or title. However why not tell him you in turn wish to be known as “the almighty one”.

    It’s “they”, not “him”.

    theotherjonv
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    but if people muck it up there is no good reason to vilify them either.

    I agree

    but if people don’t want to, there is no good reason to vilify them either.

    I disagree

    Maybe not vilify, but the lack of decency in respecting someone’s choices makes me sad.

    However why not tell him you in turn wish to be known as “the almighty one”.

    If you really want to, but to me comes in the same category as people who insist that ‘all lives matter’. They know why someone’s pronouns are important to them really and they’re just IMHO being a bit of a dick about it by insisting they identify as a unicorn or want to be known as Almighty One.

    Cougar
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    Totally agree, you should respect his choice of pronoun or title. However why not tell him you in turn wish to be known as “the almighty one”.

    It’s “they”, not “him”.

    It’s “them” not “they”.

    Cougar
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    With the pronoun thing, if the English language could accomadate a phrase that fitted in more easily, both grammatically and phoneticaly then I’m not so sure it would be so contentious.

    We already have perfectly serviceable words. The only reason it’s “contentious” is because some people want to use language as an excuse to punch down on a minority.

    Cougar
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    I’m all for your interpretation molgrips, However the problem is if you want to take science out ofd it,

    No, the problem is that you only want to listen to the “science” which aligns with your opinion.

    funkmasterp
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    Maybe neither of these usages is designed to impress you?

    I’m neither impressed or unimpressed. I just think there should be a better word for it tbh. I do love when impotent angry folk extend it though. Wokerati being a favourite.

    5plusn8
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    No, the problem is that you only want to listen to the “science” which aligns with your opinion.

    So the science matters to you, but not to molgrips, which is it?
    This is just a constant moving of the goalposts to align with your opinion. This is projection on your part,
    There is no scientific proof that you can change bio sex, or that you are born in the wrong body. None.
    As I said I have no objection to the way people dress, present themselves, have sex whatever.
    But you cannot force me to accept a concept I know to false.

    spekkie
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    What has “Ladies & Gentlemen, Boys and Girls – thank you for coming and welcome to the annual school prize giving ceremony” been replaced with?

    Cougar
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    “Hello”?

    Cougar
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    But you cannot force me to accept a concept I know to false.

    We cannot force you to accept a concept you believe to be false.

    Cougar
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    … also,

    For all your crying about science, no scientist worth their salt would ever be bold enough to proclaim that they know anything absolutely. There is a reason that science uses the word “theory.” Even if you weren’t flat out wrong, something might come along tomorrow which presents new evidence.

    As Dara O’Briain once said, “Science doesn’t know everything. But science knows that it doesn’t know everything, otherwise it would stop.”

    kelvin
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    been replaced with?

    “Welcome everybody, and thanks for coming…”

    5plusn8
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    For all your crying about science, no scientist worth their salt would ever be bold enough to proclaim that they know anything absolutely. There is a reason that science uses the word “theory.” Even if you weren’t flat out wrong, something might come along tomorrow which presents new evidence.

    The fact that you would dare to say this means you have not bothered to comprehend a single thing I have written, it show either ridiculous bias for your concept or intellectual dishonesty.
    EG

    I am called a terf because I have yet to see evidence that you can be “born in the wrong body”.

    and

    There is no evidence of a biological sex change, you would have to re-write their DNA. every single cell. (I’m not saying it might not be possible in the future)

    You are letting your bias and rhetoric get in the way of your argument and discussion.

    kelvin
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    It’s interesting that some people can be willing to hide behind DNA in a way others would hide behind religious doctrine to justify their own personal mistrust and lack of acceptance towards people they can’t empathise with. Just be kind and try.

    convert
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    1. I work with teenagers including a small minority of students who prefer different pronouns to those that they had originally. You know what, this 50 year old manages it just fine. Yes – I had to rewire some of my ingrained unthinking assumptions and speech patterns and yes I made the odd mistake along the way. But it’s all good.

    2. Kids in the broader community – they handle it just fine. It’s totally a non issue.

    3. I attended an interesting talk last year – discussing the fact that this might be an interim phase. Basically when we are born and get to an age when we understand ourselves a bit we enter a world full of stereotypes. Our physical and chemical makeup comes with some very significant conscious and unconscious expectations about our future lives – how we might want to behave, who it might be considered conventional to be attracted to, basically where will be placed in the world. The narrative was that as these conventions, expectations and blunt stereotypes are eroded (and the unspoken subtext here was eroded probably equalled the old **** in the room shuffled off this mortal coil) the concept of gender beyond the biological will melt away and with that many of the triggers for gender dysphoria. I think that’s a world I could happily live in.

    Drac
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    But you cannot force me to accept a concept I know to false.

    Can you provide the evidence it’s false, I mean you must have scientific proof.

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