I think it does help if you relax.
I’ve been told the grip the top tube with your knees story before, but I’ve no idea if it works.
But my conclusion is that some bikes have a tendency to do it, and some don’t. That may involve bike and rider combinations being responsible, whereas other riders on the same bike will be ok. I’ve had two bikes in the past ten years that did it to me, while I’ve owned and ridden loads of others that have given me no worries whatsoever.
One of the offenders was a road bike and it dented my confidence so much it was spoiling my enjoyment of all bikes, so I sold it. The other was a CX bike made up as a hybrid. I bought a 2nd hand cheap carbon alternative frame, swapped all the parts over and rode all the same descents without a hint of a problem. Lakeland Passes that were a nightmare became a joy to descend again.
No idea why.
If you continue to get a problem…SELL the thing and get something else. Or do a frame swap like me.
Don’t let it rule you.