Brother-in-law's stag do – I don't really want to go
Also, I don’t really know him all that well.
You’ll know him (and mates) and darn site better after the event. My bro-in-laws stag doo was similar format – I knew no one before hand, but it made the wedding itself great. And still chat to the mates a few years later/have camping trips etc…Posted 4 years agobinnersSubscriber
Go. Egg all his mates on to force him to shotgun cans of Special Brew, while doing alternate tequila slammers, then bay like a gang of jackals as you force him to sit at the front of a lap dancing club for private dances, then make him drink more until he grand slams and passes out. Then shrink wrap him to the bonnet of Horas carPosted 4 years agoirelanstMember
I’ve been on a couple where future BILs have been asked. Generally they have been fine but one did get a bit uppity when the groom was telling the group about his future wife’s bedroom preferences and later when the groom disappeared for ‘afters’ at a lap dancing place.
I was invited on my BILs before he married my sister, I went karting in the afternoon, then onto a pub for a meal/few beers. I left before things got too raucous, but that was mainly because I didn’t like him or his mates much.
So I guess it depends on how you perceive your sister and how much of a nobber the groom is?Posted 4 years agounknownSubscriber
Had this a couple of years ago. My wife made me go, didn’t know anyone before and didn’t like anyone when I got there! Had a rubbish time, it all went very Jeremy Kyle, and it’s a weekend of my life I’ll never get back. Having said that, I being it up all the time when I don’t want to do something family related and I am still getting passes issued because of it.Posted 4 years agobinnersSubscriber
Actually… don’t go. He’ll only have asked you to be polite, or he’s been forced too. Probably the latter. He’ll now be hoping and paying to god you say you can’t make it. Then he can get upto all sorts of stuff without having anyone directly related to report backPosted 4 years agoswooshMember
So my sis is getting married in August and he fella is having a stag do and I’m invited. I don’t really want to go but my wife says that I should go.
He went to uni in the town where I live so I can’t use that as an excuse. The plan is to go out for drinks on Friday night and an activity on Saturday, I genuinely can’t make the Friday night drinks so I can only make it to the Saturday activity. My wife says I should go but I won’t know anyone apart from the stag and missing the Friday night I feel I’m going to be on the outside from the start. Also, I don’t really know him all that well.
Am I being unreasonable and I should just suck it up, after all it will just be a couple of hours of my life?Posted 4 years agolungeSubscriber
Go. If you’re missing the drinking part then the activity part is a perfect way to “bond” with them. In my eyes, there are a few reasons.
1. You’ll get to know a few other people.
2. You get browny points for basically giving up 1 day, which is nothing for a bit of family harmony
3. You may just enjoy it.
4. Even if you don’t, it’s 1 day, it’s not the end of the world.
I’m a bit biased here in that my stag do was this weekend and I had a wonderful time. As did my dad, my wife to be’s dad and her brother. The latter 2 did not really know anyone when they got there. By the end of the day they were all mucking in together and had a great time.Posted 4 years agomuzzleMember
Why not see if you can drag a mate along with you? I went on my future BiL’s stag do to Les Arcs a few years ago – didn’t know him that well and didn’t know any of his 12 mates who also went. Fortunately, he’d anticipated that and also invited one of my mates who he’d met only a couple of times. Had a great weekend – probably the best stag do I’ve been on, mainly cos it was the first time I tried mountain biking and now me and my mate who tagged along are keen bikers as a result. Also made the wedding much more of a laugh cos I’d met all the lads before.Posted 4 years agoshermer75Member
100% go!! You will DEFINITELY regret it if you don’t, and you will probably end up really enjoying it when you get there anyway. Unless they are all massive plums, in which case you will have to find that out sooner or later. Just don’t get drunker than the stag! (Not speaking from personal experience of course 😳 )Posted 4 years agoandyrmMember
Go – plenty of stag dos I have been on have had numerous people from the stag’s childhood, past, extended family etc etc and it always ends up with everyone gelling and having a good time.
Ultimately it is a bunch of blokes, being allowed out by their respective women to go and do bloke stuff like guns, quad bikes, strippers and drinking. Why would you not go?Posted 4 years agoRscottMember
I[m not going to my brother in laws stag for severalreasons.
1. Its inmunich and way to expensivePosted 4 years ago
2. his mates are all dicks
3. there just getting pissed for the weekend and im not that kind of guy anymore.
4. I’d rather be biking or kayaking,which i will be doing before there wedding too.
5.even though my sister is my twin we ar not close at all soi dont feel bad.Kryton57Subscriber
Just get completely pissed and therefore oblivious.
I didn’t want to go to my brothers stag (based at his house) do with his holier than thou pretentious mates, but convinced him I should bring my best mate. We then alienated ourselves in thier eyes by drinking his entire weekend lager stash on the first Friday night, then getting to lecherous vomiting stage by 1am Saturday night in the pre arrange clubbing event. I think the final straw happened when we returned home at 3am only to accidentally let his new kittens out the door. This of course let to 2 raucous pissheads runninh around shouting “pussy” orientated comments withiin his gated community. Oh how we laughed the next day. 😀
Over the next few days they sipped a couple of martini’s and distances themselves from us. So all in all I had a great time and didnt have to hang out with a bunch of despicable toffs, whilst maintaining the fact I’d made the effort to turn up.Posted 4 years agokcalSubscriber
It’s a weird thing though inviting someone you don’t really know to a weekend of bonding with (usually) folk you do..
My stag do was a weekend of easting, drinking and hill-walking in Glencoe, far removed from Les Arcs or Munich! Everyone there kind of knew everyone else already – directly or knew of them.. I think they all had a great time 🙂Posted 4 years agohoraMember
Do you struggle around strangers or people that you don’t know in social situations OP?
Do you find it hard to go with the flow, take a chance, see how the night develops? Do you need to feel safe and secure in a tiny circle of friends?
Harsh joking aside tbh it sounds like you wouldn’t be a laugh to be around. What if this bloke really likes you? Get to know him.
One day he might be there for you when you really need it.Posted 4 years ago
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