Any older dads?!
Glad somebody started this thread. I am thirty six with my first due in February, mrs funkmaster is thirty. I was worried about age, similar to OP, but reading this is making me feel better. I would have been a terrible parent in my twenties, pretty much lived the lyrics to QOTSA – feel good hit of the summer, that wold have been disastrous 🙂
Now more mature and don’t do anything other than the occasional glass of Bourbon. Have a dog, well small horse, (Newfoundland cross) and can’t wait to introduce them to each other. Growing up with a dog as a friend is one of my fondest memories. Worried and excited about the baby in equal measure, roll on February 😀Posted 4 years agoLenHankieMember
I’d say it’s pretty much the norm isn’t it?…I’m 37 with kids of 1 and 4, which is about the same as all my friends.
My dad was 50 when they had me! (Mum was 42). That is my definition of an older dad – and he was the best dad I could ever have wished for…but I did lose him when I was 21. As he’d done it all before a good 20 years earlier when he had my older brothers and sisters, there was pretty much nothing I did that he hadn’t seen before, so I had quite an easy ride. I loved the fact that he was properly ‘old school’ compared to my friend’s dads, e.g. he wore a tie every day…even once he’d retired…he’d never owned a pair of jeans or trainers either.
His dad had him post 30 as well, which leads to the odd situation that all my grandparents were born in the reign of Queen Victoria and my grandfather fought in WW1!Posted 4 years agoloddrikMember
I’m 40 with 3 and 7 yr old girls. Don’t feel old whatsoever but wouldn’t want any more, not an age thing but never been so skint in my whole life since we had them. The end is in sight when the youngest goes to school and we don’t have to pay nursery fees anymore. No way would I do it all again. They are the best thing in the world though.Posted 4 years agovalleymanMember
i was 35….
to say it’s been easy is a lie, the sleep deprivation killed us, and she is still getting up at 6am on the dot, cant complain as she is down at 7.30pm and we don’t hear a peep.
i do feel old, i am easily the youngest parent down the local park and taking her swimming, but i dont care.
financially it does hit you, she finished child car 2 days a week which was a god send and she start nursery next month.
in hindsight i wish i’d done it younger maybe 30, but it didnt work out that way and i wouldnt have done half the things i’ve done (travelling etc)Posted 4 years agocarlosgMember
I was 34 when my oldest lad (8) was born and 40 when his little brother (2) joined us , we never intended the big gap but nature doesn’t always play fair.
When mrscarlos and I got together in 1989 neither of us was remotely interested in having a family,we enjoyed spending our money on us and generally having a good time. As we turned 30 we started talking about family but never got further than practicing 😈 We still had stuff we wanted to do and as we got older we decided it would be nice to share the experiences with our own family and the rest is history.
At the school my eldest attends the older parents (circa 40ish) seem to be in a majority. I sometimes wish we’d started earlier as my 2 lads are pretty full on for the whole time they’re awake and I’m knackered by the time they get to bed most nights but I love being a dad the good things far outweigh the bad ,just can’t wait till I can get them both out on their bikes for a proper ride.Posted 4 years agomjdccMember
I have to swim against the prevailing consensus. You might tell yourself you are only as young as you feel but ultimately it is wishful thinking.
I have a second on the way and will be 39 when it arrives, was 36 for the first. I swear it is harder, when you are older. However fit you may be your not 25, and the lack of sleep is way harder to deal with.
My partner and I found it really hard. It may be obvious but your relationship fundamentally changes. Wwhatever happens from here on in – whether you live happily together forever or separate at some point (as we considered) – you are forever joined (“forever”) as parents of a child. Accepting that was hard for me, as I have always been the footloose type. Worth it in the end though. Enjoy!Posted 4 years agomattjgSubscriber
44 when my little Pickle was born, she’s nearly 2 1/2 now, I reckon I’m a better dad for being a bit older, but that’s me. I think too young (not ready) would be a lot harder than too old.
Have a slight concern about dealing with a stroppy teenager in my early sixties, but I’ll cross that bridge when I come to it. She’s going to look at me and wonder why her dad’s a wrinkly dinosaur! It’s so unfair!Posted 4 years agodannybgoodeSubscriber
36 for me also (Mrs Danny was a much more sprightly 30!) but I have a cut off of being no more than 40 if / when we have another – I want the house kid free when I retire!!
Hard work but completely worth it. My uncle in his 60’s and his partner is expecting so 36-37 isn’t that old!
Danny BPosted 4 years ago
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