- Any older dads?!
Older? I was expecting you to be in your 50’s!
I’m 35 and have three kids, never feel like I am too old.
FWIW, of all of my school mates, I am the only one who has any kids. Not sure what the national average ag is for first time Dads but 37 sounds fine!
You will make it through. Its no big deal, just a complete change of life.Posted 4 years agoampthillSubscriber
Second child mid 30s for me. My eldest got their gcse results today and I’m 47.But you are really not that old. Best mate became a dad at 48. I have worked with 2 dads who have retired while they had kids in primary school.
It’ll be great. All these things have pros and cons but older parents have experience. presumably you have some basics sorted: house, partner job etc?
PS I was terrified of parent hood but I’ve loved itPosted 4 years agomrblobbyMember
40 now, Blobby Jr is 18 months and the next one due Feb.
Reckon I’ve aged more in the first year of Blobby Jr’s life than I did in the previous ten years!
Edit: … oh and yes, congratulations! Despite the hard work and tiredness… it is the best thing ever… well it is once you get past the first 12 months 😉Posted 4 years agonachoMember
47 here, kids are 5 and 6, it’s great! I had a whale of a time in my younger days when some were having kids, wasn’t a particular choice to have them late, just happened that way. It is demanding as you don’t ahve the same energy as in your 20’s but I think it will help keep me younger and fitter as I want to experience things with them as they grow, riding bikes, kayaking, etc.Posted 4 years agoJake25Subscriber
I am 38 and am trying to cope with being a new father, never thought of myself as being an older Dad though. My wife is 29, just for reference.
Tiny is now 3 weeks old. There is defiantly a lack of sleep going on but I think it is worse for my wife. We are both getting between 4-5 hours at night, sleeping in shifts, but I have to wake her for feeds where as I get to sleep through. I am back at work now after taking the first 2 weeks off as a holiday. My wife is still on Maternity Leave and is trying to nap through the day but it is not easy.
We have a Boxer dog and 2 cats but they just ignore us most of the time. Our Boxer has a sniff at Tiny now and then but that is all, she is a very submissive dog though.
Best advice I can give is to do as much as is possible for your partner, be that house hold chores, cooking, changing nappies or whatever. Buy ready meals, they make life much easier in the short term. Give yourself time and try and be patient as possible. Above all else make sure not to loose touch with each other. Hug when possible and make the most of whatever time you have with each other.
I won’t lie, this will change your life. In the first few weeks though the only thing that matters is the baby, the wife and you in that order. There will be time for everything else later on.
All that said though I still think it is the best thing we have done. 🙂Posted 4 years agojambalayaSubscriber
37 isn’t an old Dad. Whether you’ll “survive” depends on you.
Congratulations it’s the best thing in the world, at times infuriating, exhausting, painful but the good parts more than make up for it
I had my first at 25, she’s getting married in a couple of weeks. There is no formula or norm. It’s all good.Posted 4 years agoyunkiMember
As far as I can make out it’s actually an advantage, although as a stay at home dad of 40, with two pre-school boys I find myself flagging occasionally.. Working Dads don’t have a clue..Posted 4 years ago
It’ll be a piece of piss really though, just remember to love them and then love them some moretonydMember
I was 38 when the first arrived, 39 when the second arrived! You’re not old but you will feel it 🙂 The only real disadvantage I can see is that you suffer more with lack of sleep when you’re older (well, I seem to). I also sometimes feel a bit gutted when I realise I’ll be approaching my 60s by the time they’re hitting 20s but such is life.
My sister had hers when she was young (first at 17) so I can see arguments for having them young and old, but that’s irrelevant really. Enjoy him/her as much as possible, that’s the main thing.
And congratulations!Posted 4 years agoinstant hitMember
I am 50 (wife is quite a bit younger) with a 7 and 5 year old. Think i have more patience and am a better dad than i would have been in my twenties.Posted 4 years ago
Means i get to go to theme parks, make sandcastles, and be a child currently both learning to body board so having to join them at that too.
The only downside is they come to the LBS with me and always remind me “daddy no more bikes”.
I’m 37. Not exactly over the hill but on my way up it I’d say.
People have kids later these days. I’m 35, with a two year old and another on the way. I’m probably one of the younger dads at the nursery.
Anyway, we’re poor, tired but mostly very, very happy. You’ll have a blast.Posted 4 years agoKryton57Subscriber
41, I have a 4yo and a 10month old baby.
The first baby/few months IS hard, regardless of your age, because of the lifestyle changes and sacrifices you have to learn to make, not to mention the lack of sleep – but all for the right reasons.
Its my own opinion that being this “old” and having a family is a good thing, as we are better equipped in life skills and perhaps financially to cope.Posted 4 years agohot_fiatSubscriber
I and the o/h are 37, and we’re due in the next few days. It’s going to be cool. Though I think it’s sending the o/h quite insane – she’s currently cleaning the fridge by dismantling it. Hopefully she’ll leave the stickers alone.
I have friends who had children in their twenties, early thirties and late thirties. TBH they all seem fine. We (as in humans) are pretty good at coping. I’m more worried that the dog’s going to feel put out: she’s become very clingy and protective toward the o/h.
I suspect the upcoming period of broken sleep will be an eye opener, but again, we’ll cope. I work in IT and my manager is in Detroit, but I look after stuff from Sinagapore through to the mid-atlantic so I’m used to weird sleep and working patterns.
I’m really excited. The house is full of new and shiny gadgets (the buggy is a work of engineering genius), I can’t wait to take it out for a walk along the sea front. It’s gonna be amazing.
One of the pros of being slightly older is that I’m pretty comfortable in my job, it’s a bit dull but I get to work from home, have a bit more disposable income and am generally more worldly wise. I used to travel loads (like 35k per year in the UK & hundreds of European & worldwide flights). That has happily been consigned to the “job roles I’ll never consider again” pile, but it was something I had to do. If I’d done that and had a child at the same time I think I’d be pretty miserable.Posted 4 years ago
Thanks all. Its Been great reading these . Not to mention entertaining .
I realise its a bit early to be scanning the classifieds for trailers and kids bikes already but I can’t seem to help having a peek 🙂
Has anybody any experience of a newborn with dogs around?Posted 4 years ago
We have to young (1&2) Labradors we need to work around too so we know we are in for that extra bit of work from day one but pretty sure we will cope. Simple fact is we will have to!
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