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My thought too.Sounds to me like the couple being married were trying to finance the wedding off the gifts
When we got married the invites basically said that we didn't need any presents as after 18 years we'd pretty much got everything but if anyone did want to give us a gift donations to a nice oak cabinet we'd seen would be really nice and gratefully received.
Never expected the amount folks gave us, and certainly wouldn't have demanded more even if we hadn't been given a thing.
Me too! Are we all children on here, I wonder, or am I missing something?
Well...we can say shit.
*runs off giggling because he said a rude word*
* Off To The Far Side Of *
Oooh. Me like.
Noticed this, well not "this" exactly between irish and uk weddings.
Gifts at a uk wedding are a bottle of plonk/card with £20 stuffed inside it.
Gifts at a irish wedding are minimum 100e if you have been invited, if you know the person well it'll go up to 250e or so that gets stuffed in the card.
I've heard a women offsetting/justifying the cost of the wedding because she'll get about 20,000 in cash.
People hoping that only 6 friends will get married that year.
We just had a list of favourite charities and asked guests to make an anonymous donation if they felt generous.
Have some friends getting married a bit far away so they asked for cash gifts to help fund other friends who couldn't quite afford to make it otherwise. Awesome ^ 1000000
Difficult to believe the post wasn't a troll but it really seems not to be. Can't imagine the brass neck required to do that.
Saccades - Member
Noticed this, well not "this" exactly between irish and uk weddings.
Wasn't at my wedding....Irish BTW.
We asked people not to give gifts - and to give to charity if they felt like giving money. Most of our friends are climbers/paddlers/bikers so it felt wrong that they should spend money to celebrate with us - so we got them fed and drunk instead.
Mostly we were given booze. I'm still drinking my way through it two years later.
Admittedly, our families were not very understanding when even up to a week before we kept telling them we didn't have a wedding list - and no we didn't want anything thanks - and no we have no preference of charity - and no we really don't have a list.
Either way, even at the height of the Celtic Tiger there was zero chance I'd be giving anywhere near 100 Euro to even my best of mates, the scroungy git. Have a lollypop.
They have a member called ****stainwasher. I shit you not.
We didn't really ask for anything, but since our wedding was in the US and we had to fly home, people just gave us money. Since we didn't have a US bank account we ended up with a massive wad of money. Well, massive to us, something like $1500 in twenties. Totally unexpected, we'd really never considered gifts at all.
We used the "presence is presents enough" line but if you want to bung us some cash mr ws has got to do the kitchen ive been waiting 10 years for....
Saw it yesterday, extraordinary. As has been said elsewhere the appropriate responce tomreceiving any gift is Thank You. Their responce was very rude indeed. If the bride and groom where not happy with the amount they should have just sent the cheque back
Ive been to a few weddings where we've given money, the benchmark is to cover the cost of your invite, ie food/wine/venue with something then added on top. On that basis £100 a head may have been generous or not. As we where married in Paris we made sure all the UK guests new we where expecting no gifts as the cost of attending was significant
Noticed this, well not "this" exactly between irish and uk weddings.Gifts at a uk wedding are a bottle of plonk/card with £20 stuffed inside it.
Gifts at a irish wedding are minimum 100e if you have been invited, if you know the person well it'll go up to 250e or so that gets stuffed in the card.
rings true for me. I'm half Irish, and felt quite guilty when i saw what some people had given!
Our wedding was comparatively modest tho. Most of my Irish cousins have incredibly big, elaborate affairs - last one i went to had 200+ guests, a fire eater, a pianist, blah blah. Everyone totally accepting that they'll need a lot of gifts to cover that little lot
I had never thought of a gift as payment for the evening/day before now, never heard of it as that either.
If that's the case, they may as well charge at the door.
trail_ratWas a good party though - the one thing that boils my piss about fancy weddings in posh places is drink prices being a fortune. drink prices were the first thing i would check out at a venue
Stick a litre bottle of vodka / whisky etc. in a gift bag - looks like a present (allegedly) 😉 (remember to take it away - some places are arsety about finding empties like that under tables & charge the happy couple for the equivalent from the bar)
I read about this in The Wail, and thought "What. The. Actual. ****!" 😯
That is utterly shameful, and shameless as well.
vickypea - Member
I think it's a hoax. No one could be that obnoxious, surely?
Oh, I'm pretty sure there are many who could be easily that obnoxious, and grasping!
I had never thought of a gift as payment for the evening/day before now, never heard of it as that either.
If that's the case, they may as well charge at the door.
Guess it's a cultural thing, some circles/places in Ireland it's the norm to kinda cover the cost of the wedding place, more so if your close. Some of the female workmates were aghast that I'd chuck £20 in a card and that was that.
I remember walking back from lunch chatting to one lass who admitted she'd
worked out who was getting married and when and where on her list of friends they were as to amounts of cash required and if she could afford to go (She'd still send a congrats card with 50e or so it it though).
Mental to me but she accepted it as the done thing.
The classic threads on mumsnet are awesome!
Try the Christians Against Dinosaurs thread on there. That was a comedy goldmine all of it's own!
Boiled down to some religious nut claiming that dinosaurs were bad role models for kids cos they were violent and they couldn't have existed anyway because God would never kill off His own creations and the fossil record was one gigantic Victorian hoax.
Absolute genius in its insanity and sadly it wasn't a troll. There is actually a Facebook page called Christians Against Dinosaurs.
Stick a litre bottle of vodka / whisky etc. in a gift bag - looks like a present (allegedly)
Box of wine, my friend, box of wine. Wrapped up in wrapping paper like it's a pressie, with a little flap for the spout. And off you go!
(remember to take it away - some places are arsety about finding empties like that under tables & charge the happy couple for the equivalent from the bar
...and dump the wrapped up empty wine box in the wedding pressie pile for the happy couple to discover the next day 😀
That has to be your doing Rich I can't believe Tor would stoop so low 😉
There is actually a Facebook page called Christians Against Dinosaurs.
It's a piss-take.
It's a piss-take.
It surely is. And I notice there's now a counter- "Dinosaurs Against Christians" group also. (-:
Invite them round for dinner, when they arrive tell them they can't have any pudding.
WT the actual F???
if it was me i'd be cancelling the cheque and then telling them to never darken my doors unless they want slats hoofing/owning with bombers
Rob Hilton - Member
There is actually a Facebook page called Christians Against Dinosaurs.
It's a piss-take.
This isn't: http://www.theflatearthsociety.org/forum/
things i learnt from this
1 some people are greedy arses my own mum gave me £50 as a wedding present and i was pleased.
2 The Daily Mail prints screenshots from mumsnet as an entire article.
3 there is such a delightful phrase as "get the duck to the far side of duck and when you get there keep ducking off"
I had an Irish wedding and we didn't issue any sort of list as they're a bit rude really. However, we did end up with a house full of vases that I'm craftily having to smash my way through every six months or so.
Apparently at Spanish weddings (this may be regional/class related) the guests are expected to contribute to cover the cost of the wedding with extra for gifts. Therefore the gifts are usually in the order of 100's EUR.
We had a wedding list, mainly for family and close friends. We also had just bought a new house so the gifts were gratefully received and actually useful.
Rich_s - MemberBox of wine, my friend, box of wine. Wrapped up in wrapping paper like it's a pressie, with a little flap for the spout. And off you go!
Hat's off - that's good 8)