[Closed] Your wedding gift is not enough.... caution mumsnet content.

Saw that in the Grauniad and thought WTF!

So bizarre it probably is true....

I think MrsMorton first reply nailed it quite succinctly.

I'd cancel the cheque, and delete them from my life.

I recently attended an ex-colleague's wedding where, in response to a request for cash gifts, I sent what I thought was a pretty decent cheque (£100 if it matters, though I can't help feeling it shouldn't)

Last night I received an email which opened with a few comments about how glad they were to see everybody and how generous they'd all been, then said "we were surprised that your contribution didn't seem to match the warmth of your good wishes on our big day. In view of your own position, if you wanted to send any adjustment it would be thankfully received"

For someone who's not easily shocked I confess I'm utterly gobsmacked by this. So as not to drip feed I'll mention that "your own position" probably refers to a recent inheritance I've had, which maybe they expected something from (and this is an ex-colleague, remember, not a close friend or relative)

Please, anyone, what do I do now? I've never come across anything like this before and still can't quite believe they've done it - but since they have, should I reply, ring them, ignore it or what??

Yeah, I'd be pi$$ed at that!

DrP

If it's real they should just publish the original email with sender's address etc on Twitter.

cancel the cheque 🙂

Wow. I'd be cancelling the cheque.

That's incredible.

"we were surprised that your contribution didn't seem to match the warmth of your good wishes on our big day. In view of your own position, if you wanted to send any adjustment it would be thankfully received"

If they have slats, they're due a hoofing.

She should write back saying "of course you're right, I have cancelled the £100 cheque; please find enclosed an out of date book token, as a suitable replacement"

It's not quite [url= http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/mumsnet_classics/a1875847-Do-you-dunk-your-penis ]penis beaker[/url], but I reckon that one is going to run for a while! Cheeky buggers, I can't even begin to imagine the thought process that led to that email being sent, unbelievable!

MrsMorton, hole in one 🙂

That is astounding.

The only generous explanation I can think of is that they meant it as a joke about the inheritance and worded it [i]really[/i] badly.

But seems just as likely they are entitled muppets.

I find this almost unbelievable. Not least because £100 is a lot of cash for wedding present. Something about this doesn't ring true.

It's unlikely I'll bump into B&G much in the future as I'm retired now, However I've just replied to her email with one sentence:

"I assume this was some sort of mistake?"'

No reply so far apparently.

B&G must know about this by now, it's everywhere...

Well £100 is only one bottle of cheap champagne.

Something about this doesn't ring true.

I assumed that, but the Mumsnet equivalent of Drac/Cougar posted in the thread:

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"we were surprised that your contribution didn't seem to match the warmth of your good wishes on our big day. In view of your own position, if you wanted to send any adjustment it would be thankfully received"

Well £100 is only one bottle of cheap champagne

If they's just sent a greggs voucher to start with non of this would have happened

Hmmm my son is just writing thank-you notes for his birthday.
I'm tempted to have him write this - at least to the ones with a sense of humour.

BTW - to prevent anyone else trawling through that thread looking for updates.
- The check was cashed 😉
- She replied with "I assume this was some sort of mistake?", but hasn't heard back
- She went to another 'do' with some of the same people but not B&G and heard that another guest was also avoiding the bride. Jumped to conclusions.
- She told a friend and is confident that this friend will spread the news everywhere.
- Daily Mail have picked it up, as have other gossip rags.

I think that's it.

well could quite have easy been me the post was pointed at , i normally give over 100 or a gift of equivelent value appropriate for the couple.

not least because before they have invited me to their wedding and ive accepted - then we must be good friends.

Sounds to me like the couple being married were trying to finance the wedding off the gifts.

"we were surprised that your contribution didn't seem to match the warmth of your good wishes on our big day. In view of your own position, if you wanted to send any adjustment it would be thankfully received"

You could almost read that in totally the opposite way, almost sarcastic - ie "we were surprised that you gave us so much money considering you were a total misery and didn't really congratulate us at all on our big day"

Couldn't read all the replies on mumsnet but wonder if anyone suggested that way of looking at it?

Hmmm my son is just writing think you notes for his birthday.

Hopefully he hasn't inherited his dad's way with words 😉

Hopefully he hasn't inherited his dad's way with words

Excellent first response from MrsMorton! 😀

We wanted vouchers to buy new camping equipment for our wedding present and was happy if some one gave us a tenner. Complaining about £100 is slap worthy.

You could almost read that in totally the opposite way, almost sarcastic - ie "we were surprised that you gave us so much money considering you were a total misery and didn't really congratulate us at all on our big day"

You could, but then they ask for a 'adjustment'.

Last time someone asked for money rather than gifts as they already had enough stuff, they got a chocolate teapot from me. Meant in good humour, but I've not seen him since the wedding............

Crikey. I felt uncomfortable that we had a wedding list (to my mind that's asking for presents, my wife insisted people find them helpful, which I can see may be true - I don't, I'm happy buying tools or bike stuff for the happy couple), but that is something else. This can't be real?

I also appreciate that weddings cost money, but when we go to one it invariably costs us internal UK flights x5 plus 2 hotel rooms plus a hire car plus new frocks for the wife and daughter, plus a gift. So it's not not exactly cheap for guests always.

1016 posts in 4 days 😯
We are such lightweights 🙁

we kept getting asked for a list before our wedding despite saying we didnt want owt. - like you i felt uncomfortable asking for stuff.

so we put together a list of stuff we would like to do on honey moon. betwen 5-30 quid. stuff like bike hire , tram tickets , meals out , entry to national park.

Was a good party though 😀 - the one thing that boils my piss about fancy weddings in posh places is drink prices being a fortune. drink prices were the first thing i would check out at a venue 😀

I would write back and suggest that if the gift was not good enough, they please return it so that it could instead be given to someone who would be more grateful

I may have spotted that thread a few days ago.

If anyone has a few hours to kill, they have a special "Classics" forum for their more famous/funny/bizarre threads. We should get the picolax thread and sudocreme cat pushed over in case of another Great Hack.

I think it's a hoax. No one could be that obnoxious, surely?

Assuming it's not a troll,

Aside from the sheer brass neck of bridezilla, in what universe does anyone think a £100 gift is a bit mean?

That first reply is brilliant.

I can only assume that the wedding night was a huge disappointment to the new bride and she had time on her hands after several drinks too many.

It's probably BS, like that famous 'Mother in Law from Hell' story The Heil ran about Castles or something, it was some sort of viral campaign from a Wedding Planning outfit out of London.

Anyway, I didn't even give my own Brother than much, but I don't mind the concept of money gifts - people get married much later in life now. What's the point of giving a shiny new Toaster to help the Bride and Groom start their life together when they're both 32 and flew the nest a decade ago.

The classic threads on mumsnet are awesome!

More interested in the fact that mumsnet has no swear filter 😆

I've learned a new acronym too

FOTTFSOF

Well done mumsnet, you make us look like a knitting circle.

FOTTFSOF

First post was less than 2 minutes after the OP and should have settled it tbh 😆 Authentic scottish advice.

Must admit, a mate of mine had what struck me as a weirdly detailed and specific wedding list, it was like a small child's letter to santa. So I went through it and trolled it basically. "Oh you'd like 6 cups and 6 saucers eh? Well I think you can have 6 saucers but only one cup" Little personal touches like that. I thought his wife was going to glass me, with the cup, and I'd have to defend myself with teh bin lid (without bin)

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Share please!

**** Off To The Far Side Of ****

Although, I initially thought it was **** Off To The ****ing South Of France.

To complete FOTTSOF....

"& when you get there keep fing off.....!"

More interested in the fact that mumsnet has no swear filter

Me too! Are we all children on here, I wonder, or am I missing something?