My wife has gone bonkers these last few days nothing I do is right !
Is it the sudden cold snap or are other people experiencing this phenomena?
Please feel free to air off here !
for 1 month of every year i have been married (20yrs), i feel like divorcing my wife, and going to live by myself in a cave.
the other 11 months of the year everything is cool.
after being married a long time, you get used to it........ 😀
yes its going to one of those few week moods...wheres this cave ? has it got central heating ?
Jan/Feb are always bad months it's cold, people are inside more, get ill more often as well as cash being tighter with them having to pay off Christmas.
So yes generally people seem more stressed/short tempered.
My wife and I are both mentalists anyway 😀
^ I am with ton. 18 years of marriage, she is ace, but every now and then one/both of us feels like giving up. BUT, that is commitment, innit? Worth it.
Mind, a heated cave sounds nice. Does it have a bike rack?
Yip. We are going to a 30th tomorrow night. I fully expect the night to end with us walking down opposite sides of the street, getting on separate buses and sleeping in separate beds. But hey, we love each other. 😀
Yeah mine seems to be possessed by something at the moment.
being trapped inside doesn't help. making up afterwards is cool though 😉
2 days ago I asked my girlfriend to marry me. She said 'yes'.
Bonkers, she could do far better. I'm happy though 🙂
emsz speaketh the truth............ 8)
Not only you. Any more room in that cave?
...round 48 !
Spent 3 hrs making dinner (goulash) put boys to bed cleared up (as I do every night) eats dinner okay for 5 mins then back at being possessed !
If I had a local that I wasn't afraid to go to Id be there now !
That is lovely 🙂2 days ago I asked my girlfriend to marry me. She said 'yes'.
Bonkers, she could do far better. I'm happy though
As a wife myself, hubby regularly tells me that he can't do anything right in my view. This is all year though and not just February.
Better be nice to him now otherwise they'll be no St. Valentines pressy. Oh hang on a minute, that's something he never does too.
Only joking darling, you know I love you very much xxxxx
yes
I get 12 months of it.
Mental Welsh bird see, innit?
I raise you workshop, to add to cave, heating and bike rack 😯
Thanks bunnyhop 🙂
Any room in this cave? I'm a good cook and can help build the bike shed 😀
We have patches where I shake my head and wonder what goes on in her head. But 90% of the time she is the greatest. Luckily we are going through a great patch.
a big cave could be needed !
spooky.. was just about to start a thread titled wifes are mental... must be something with tonight.
Only mentioned I wanted to stay out next Wednesday night as I didnt realise that the Jedi coarse on Thursday was frikin miles from Sheffield and she went bonkers... I mean, its not like I've spent £12k on bikes or anything is it....
A mate and I have a plan to buy a cheap terrace nearby for these moments - referred to as the "DadPad". Big telly in the front room, bike workshop in the back room.
Mine's been better the last couple of months - returned to part time work after 8 years of childcare, started a bit of jogging to get ready for the sport relief mile, finally agreed to change my car, been quite nice. Mind you, I'm doing way more helping round the house/school runs etc now she is working, which is screwing my own work into the ground, big time!
Mind you, she went off on a random one at the weekend, saying if I bought another bike she'd leave me and the kids - normally she just threatens to throw me out, so at least the terms have improved.
And this time there were witnesses!
My missus is walking around ranting at the moment about everyone taking her for granted
Don't know what's keeping her though, she normally brings me a tea before now when I'm in my office
It's like group therapy. No longer do I feel alone.
*Virtual hugs and reassuring pats on the shoulders all round*
any room in this cave for me
I can tell stories about Norway and know how to hunt
She's not pregnant is she? There's nothing so nuts as a newly pregnant wife.
I can bring beer to the cave if there's room for one more.
I had the silent treatment yesterday evening because on Thursday night after getting the kids to bed I spent the rest of the evening in the kitchen washing up, cleaning and doing all the ironing, she stomped in at about 9:45 and said if I couldn't be bothered to sit with her (probably in silence in the living room while she watches some dross on tv) then she may as well go to bed. I wouldn't mind so much but at xmas she moaned that I never helped round the house and just sat in front of the telly all night!
After 15 years together I still have no idea how her mind works.
After 15 years together I still have no idea how her mind works.
Study carefully
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I hears ya MikeG, although my Mrs is non-stop cleaning & tidying etc but when she watches tv it'll be anything cookery related, followed by soaps, reality tv and then CSI type stuff none of which I'd particularly want to see. She's a nightmare when she's had a drink, doesn't like mtb etc and turns into a fvckin dragon with PMT.
But we still have loads in common and get along great most of the time.
Quick tip from 25 yearer here
Just tell them to "calm down" when they get a bit boisterous, they'll take your advice on board and be back to normal in no time
Trust me
Reading this I'm feeling really quite lucky!
I have a mental week about once a month. Top tip, when you are getting grief, don't turn around and say 'awwwww got the painters in?!' - it will only lead to more grief.
Walking off and leaving her to stew seems to be a workable short-term solution here. Yet to work out a legal longer-term solution....
she is definitely not pregnant !
mine goes mental about not tidying up after myself when cooking or something - she doesn't even give me chance to finish what I am doing before haiving a moan about said mess!
'Tidy as you go', she says.
I prefer to tidy when finished eating!
My wife really did go bonkers. On the anti-psychotics now 🙁
High Climber - You need to leave her to do the cleaning if she does that. She'll soon learn that cleaning up after your've finished eating is far better than not cleaning up at all. If she doesnt learn then its win win.
Mine is very nice about going nuts for a week per month and takes evening primrose which actually does seem to help her. I have the code red app on my phone which helps me enormously!
She's normally brilliant but she's 6 months pregnant now so she's all over the place
Oh well normality will soon return. I just head out on my bike if she gets too stressed cause for some reason she doesn't mind me riding????
I realise am in for a bad time when I wake up on a Sunday morning and the wife is making our bed when am in it.
there has to be more to life than this treatment... today was worse TBH.
FFS, I make £50+k per year, nice house - holiday every year, survived all that through recession, don't go on the piss with mates (ever), honestly I think I'm pretty OK but the treatment is getting shitty. I just wanna ride once a week and do 1 or 2 weekends away a year...but that appears to be intolerable behaviour akin to wife beating.
New spreadsheet started : House value - Mortgage outstanding / 2 = amount left for my own house.
Got a bollocking the other day for being gash at DIY. Even though I have put up loads of shelves. Fixed the slow water drainage in the bath, sticky on off switch in the shower. Really hacked me off tbh. And I do all.the cooking and wash the pots lol.
How long before someone comes on and tells me to mtfu :0)
simonm, thursday? as in this week??
Reasoning and common sense straight out of the window. Decides not to come home from London until it had been snowing for hours. Then moans that her car is stuck and the battery is flat and that I have to go and get her.
My "ultimate driving machine" is clearly sheeeeeit in the snow and I've left it buried nose first in a hedge
I'm going back to bed!
Ahhh the joys of two human beings, I used to think that a good relationship wasn't about the disagreements, they are inevitable and part of life, I used to think it was down to how you go about resolving those arguments.. Now, right now, if it wasn't thick snow I'd be digging up my patio and considering how deep the hole needs to be. 😉 Sod evening primrose or code red... Where's my shotgun.
... Only joking love, be right up in a tick.
TBF mine's pretty good she as a moan now and again, but i get to do most thing's without getting to much ear ache.she really is one in a million
Simonm - don't forget to factor in the solicitors costs, and maintenance for any kids.....
(From a man who was threatened with divorce for spending half of HIS maturing insurance policy on a bike and leaving the other half in the joint account!)
All wimmin are bat-shit crazy. They just need to be wrangled correctly, however, I've no idea how to do that.
Just have to work out whether:
(poon+personality) > t(mental)
Women - Can't live with them. Can't shoot them!
Mine is pretty good tbh. We live apart (weekend relationship) and I still got 2 weekends in Wales during January.
Brilliant post. You gotta love 'em, but they can be as crazy as batshit
My last relationship finished when she decided she wanted me to come to Paris for the weekend, because she was working there on the Thursday/Friday
It didn't matter that i'd organised, 3 months earlier, to go to Exmoor with the with a group of mates and we'd both been to Paris earlier in the year
Exmoor was awesome though 😆
Jedi - next Thursday 16th.
She caved in today.. "i'm so selfish...yada..(but I'd make life hell for 2 days firs) but you can go"
🙂
Pat her on the top of the head and say "don't worry your little head about it dear" then run You can follow this up with "You're cute when you're mad" if you really have a deathwish
Its not just you...
I just have to keep reminding myself that my dearly beloved is 28wks pregnant so is entiled to be even more random than normal......
Not easy though when every single thing you do is wrong 🙄
My missus went mental last night when I didn't phone her to tell her I'd arrived safely at my parents.
..........didn't hear from you for 5 hours....... atrocious conditions........worrried........specificaly told you top text me when you get there...........
She clearly didn't put 2+2 together and realise that once the roads were frozen and covered in snow that the 3 hour journey might take me 4 hours (5 was exagerated)!
3 options:
The funny one: after the third missed call, send her a text telling here that they've tried to contact her 3 times and they need to know who my dentist was so they can identify the body.
The logical one: point out that I had to drive slowly.
The sensible one: ignore it.
Yup, mental.
The weather and the house move have not helped either, nor did the boiler leak yesterday, but it's definitely "stepping on eggshells" territory right now.
I blame the hormones, and I have a damned good reason for saying that (before anyone jumps in about it...).
Love mine to bits but she went in to her bi-annual 'we can't afford this old house, we need to move to a modern property to save money' rant/panic last night.
I now know that saying, 'so what is it about employing estate agents and solicitors that will exactly f#####g save us money', is not conflict resolution.
Live and learn.
unfitgeez - this thread might have just saved me from going mental. She's up and down like a brides nightie. Coming up to 10years in August.
+1 for the cave in Eggshell City
Ahh yes, mine went away this weekend so I:
Painted the hall, stairs and landing in a colour she had selected 3 months ago but we had not had time to do.
Did all the washing, ironing and shopping.
Generally did a big tidy up
Fixed a leak in the bathroom.
However, we should have done the painting together as it is our house and apparently she doesn't like the colour now.
I shouldn't have done the washing as she has stuff that needs doing.
I've moved everything whilst tidying so she can;t find anything.
That leak has been there ages, why didn't I do it before?
I then get told she hasn't seen me all weekend and it would be nice to catch, so we head to the sofa where she immediately falls asleep. Brilliant.
Room in the cave for a (not very) little one?
My mrs just handed in her notice without a job to go to.
Surprisingly rational behaviour.
Where can I find one of these "wives"? They sound like magical creatures.
the storm is calming ! but for how long ? wouldn't mind if it was to do with the decorators but its not !
thinking this cave might need some lecci and some wifi !
Simple expedient of lowering my wifes expectations to the floor years ago, so anything above that is above target. You only have to go though the pain of 3 forgotten bithdays/aniversaries then it becomes the norm. To be sure, I maintain the propoganda that all men are rubbish, but she's lucky because I am a little less rubbish than the rest. 😉
She's a darling she is (but dont tell her I said so or you will spoil the ruse).
Simple expedient of lowering my wifes expectations to the floor years ago, so anything above that is above target
Wish I'd realised that years ago. It's far more painful having to lower them later on.
The early morning cup of tea that is now expected...
The after meal washing up that is now expected regardless of who cooked...
The phone call every night when away...
My girlfriend decided to give my galaxy S a nudge while I was checking an email, phone flew out of hand and smashed the screen.
It was my fault for checking an email. 🙄
Like I said...bat-shit crazy.
Treat em mean, keep em keen.
My last relationship finished when she decided she wanted me to come to Paris for the weekend, because she was working there on the Thursday/FridayIt didn't matter that i'd organised, 3 months earlier, to go to Exmoor with the with a group of mates and we'd both been to Paris earlier in the year
On a similar note, for my 30th birthday weekend I'd checked with my now ex that she was happy for me to spend the saturday with friends, and the sunday (actual day of birthday) with her. I did this months )(literally!) in advance. Organised bike trip with mates for the Saturday. The Friday of the weekend comes round. She goes batshit mental about me not wanting to spend my birthday with her etc. Go biking as friends had come from all over the country to see me etc.
Got dumped on the Sunday for "unreasonable behaviour"
Yay 😐
Dumped on your birthday - charming
I hope you went out the following Saturday, bought a new bike, and then found a good fatty to ride later that night
I must say, since doing the Exmoor ride, i've got shed loads more money to spend on my bike and my extra training has really helped my riding
In every cloud.... 😀
Now, where do i find a less mental woman who is passionate about riding rather than shoes???
My missus is cool. She rides more than I do, wins races, even does mechanic stuff too - got her to bleed my brakes last month.
She does my washing and cooks me food. Can't ask for more really. And she doesn't nag... even convinced me to buy a shock bushing tool last night.
There are bonuses to being a toy boy.
WIN.
You do know that you lot can be just as annoying and bat shit crazy and you can't even blame it on hormones, you men are just weird
men are just weird
Pot, Kettle 😛
My definition of the perfect partner is someone who will put up with me!
Mrs Grips is a different class of amazing, however she does like to leave every dirty dish or pan to 'soak' in the sink, regardless of what's in it. And then she leaves it for several days (when I'm not home I should add). I'm sure the incredible range of bacterial growths have probably had time to evolve drugs to cure cancer and the common cold at the same time before I pour them down the sink.
Ahh yes, mine went away this weekend so I:
Painted the hall, stairs and landing in a colour she had selected 3 months ago but we had not had time to do.
Did all the washing, ironing and shopping.
Generally did a big tidy up
Fixed a leak in the bathroom.However, we should have done the painting together as it is our house and apparently she doesn't like the colour now.
I shouldn't have done the washing as she has stuff that needs doing.
I've moved everything whilst tidying so she can;t find anything.
That leak has been there ages, why didn't I do it before?I then get told she hasn't seen me all weekend and it would be nice to catch, so we head to the sofa where she immediately falls asleep. Brilliant.
I was going to have a moan about the ridiculousness of this thread, but luckily this made me chuckle.
You do know that you lot can be just as annoying and bat shit crazy and you can't even blame it on hormones, you men are just weird
Thing is, we are as simple as it gets (well, I am)-we keep being expected to grow up but there's no fun in that. We want, nay NEED, our toys, space and childishness otherwise we may as well give up on life and buy a people carrier and look miserable.
You do know that you lot can be just as annoying and bat shit crazy and you can't even blame it on hormones, you men are just weird
GCSE Biology - both sexes have hormones. HTH
On the flip-side, (most) women don't have testicles, so we can blame our (very rare) irrational behaviour on those 😆
gentlemen.
do your part, contribute, share the burden.
show her your love, show her your loins.
when it all goes shit-shaped.
ignore her.
easy.
My wife's friend earns more money than Mrs 10. This is my fault.
gentlemen.
do your part, contribute, share the burden.
show her your love, show her your loins.
when it all goes shit-shaped.
[s]ignore her[/s][u]take all the blame[/u].
easy.
FTFY
show her your love, show her your loins
Brave move that.
oh dear its gone all men are this and that ! The clue is in the title...partners in general be they be male female ? so females you are free to air off as well !