[Closed] Why why why do people get married in churches?

There is one big advantage of a church wedding if you're atheist.

You do not have to honour the vows because they are meaningless to you, so you can get started on the bridesmaids right away...

There is one big advantage of a church wedding if you're atheist.

You do not have to honour the vows because they are meaningless to you, so you can get started on the bridesmaids right away...

Then you're also a hypocrite as well.....

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Actually, now I think about it, doubly so in fact

I 100% agree with the OP - I refused to have a church wedding as I knew I could not possibly say the vows and mean them as I 100% do not believe in any god. Fortunately my wife felt pretty much the same way.

All of our families were quite happy with our decision although, quite oddly, my mum appears to be not very impressed with us not Christening our daughters 😕

Why to two non-believers get married in a church? because it's traditional, like spending 15k on a meal for 100 people, or £3k on some photos they may look at once.

As a friend you could suggest something alternative, lots of ideas on this thread, but be careful, it's what they want that's important so don't critise them for chosing something that seems illogical

Personally I went for the registry office option. I wanted to get married because I was making a committment to my Mrs. Knowing both of us, an easy-out realtionship would not have lasted, so instead we've opted for plenty of making up over the years, once we've got over the intital issue whatever it might have been.

Her Mum was a Church Warden and had real issues with our approach. My response was:-

a) If my Mrs wanted me to marry her in Church I would be prepared to do that , but only if she asked me to, and not for anyone else.
b) I did not want to start my married life off with a lie.

Wifey never asked, and we did our thing in the R.O. We are having our 30th anniversary next month, and I highly recommend as a result that anyone planning on getting married thinks it through and makes decisions based on their beliefs and no one elses.

Surprised nobody's mentioned the same people that "re-discover" their faith 5+/- X years later when the kids "just have" to attend the church run school!!

We got married in a park on the side of the Puget Sound in the US (my wife lived there when we got married). Neither of us are religious and the setting was perfect for us. Friends who were religious loved their church wedding.

I think the only important thing is to do what you feel is right rather than what is the cool thing to do at the moment.

PeterPoddy - Member
Then you're also a hypocrite as well.....

🙂

Not really. I refused to marry in a church for the reason that any vow I made based on religion would be meaningless. That caused major upset in both families back in those days. (Free Presbyterian if that means anything to you)

Still married, still keeping the promise I made in the registry office.

(Should have added a smiley first time round)

To be ironic.

Why why why do people get married in churches?

Because if you don't, god gets quite irate.

Mr Woppit - Member

Why why why do people get married in churches?

Because if you don't, god gets quite irate.

But I thought,(could be wrong tho')you said God doesn't exist?

All of our families were quite happy with our decision although, quite oddly, my mum appears to be not very impressed with us not Christening our daughters

Seems odd to christen your daughters when you don't believe in God now doesn't it?

duckman - Member

Mr Woppit - Member

Why why why do people get married in churches?

Because if you don't, god gets quite irate.

But I thought,(could be wrong tho')you said God doesn't exist?

You're not very bright, are you?

What's the big deal? Why such a fuss over what other people want to do? If they want to get married in a church, it's up to them.

Too many people on here think everyone should do what [i]they[/i] think is right.

Who cares if they're hypocrites or not? What's it got to do with you? **** all, so shut up.

Thats not very nice woppit,I just couldn't remember if you had previously shared the odd negative opinion about religion.Sorry if I am mistaking you for somebody else.

im getting married in church, as its my parish church there is no requirement to attend services regularly.

if i wanted to be married in a church outside my parish, i would have to butter up the vicar

and if i wanted to be married in the catholic church i would have to ditch the divorcee and find a new burd.

Thats not very nice woppit

That's our Woppit 🙂

Just OOI, How does the Catholic Church find out the future Mrs SooBalis is a Divorcee?

That's our Woppit

yes, judging my some of his posts today, he didn't get his full quote of sleep last night.

My dad used to call them 4 wheel Christians - they'd only ever turn up in a pram, limo or hearse....

Why do people get married? 😉

I got married in church as my wife is a believer, we had to go to a 'wedding preparation day' with the vicar with about 6 other couples, firs question he asked was "who here believes in god?" all the other 13 people in attendance put their hands up, I didn't so he asked me "If you dont believe in god what are you doing here?", I responded "because my parner does and I respect fer views"

his reply "well at least your honest.........."

I quite enjoy a good church wedding and can understand why people would want one (although didn't have one myself). It's an opportunity to see friends and family, have a bit of a sing song and listen to a story or two. I just opt out of the praying.

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They both hate the idea of church and it fills them with fear.

It was the nearest wedding place to a beach...

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While it's not my parish church, this would be my choice of venue. It's St. Nicholas' church, in Slaughterford in Wiltshire. Destroyed by Cromwell's troops on their way to Bristol, before causing generations of havoc in N. Ireland, it was rebuilt in Victorian times. The grave you can just see in the lower left corner is that of my Great Grandparents. A much nicer spot than an anonymous office in a 1960's extension, I'm sure most would agree.

Most people do it because they think thats what a wedding should be like.

It part of the amusing spend £20k to have a your own unique big day, where you spend more time meeting relatives you didnt know, cringing when you mates assault older relatives on the dance floor and generally worry about everyone else.
After all that hassle, planning and finding the local church; to the average onlooker its a carbon copy of the last wedding they went to.

btw I haven't got married yet!