So, I've recently destroyed my life with some questionable decision making.
I'm now at the 'what do I want from life?' and 'what is going to bring me excitement into old age?' stage.
How was your midlife crisis, and what did you do or learn?
I'm still struggling with childhood.
But I have bought a TVR while drunk before now and just splashed out on a Porsche 911 for no reason other than I am in my 50's but couldn't bring myself to dye my hair and get teeth whitening so took the next option on the Sad Man menu.
I learnt Porsches have very tightly packed engine bays and are a git to work on.
I've learnt that if you are going to have a crack at getting a Black Belt you should probably start in your teens.
I’m still struggling with childhood.
Pretty much me.
I appear to have gone from being "too young" to being "too old" without ever being the right age. And I'm not entirely sure how or when that happened.
My advice to you would be to buy a catering pack of Viagra and shag anything that moves. No-one ever lay on their death bed wishing they'd had less sex.
My life has been a constant, rolling crisis of one form or another, usually self-inflicted, since reaching adulthood
I'm waiting for my kids to go to university, and then I am going to have the mother of all crises. Four years to go.
Porsche 911 here too (best, and least expensive car I’ve ever owned when factoring in depreciation), a few much younger girlfriends (meh, overrated), some questionable fashion choices, therapy, and then self compassion and acceptance.
Overall a very positive experience for me, and helped me to get to a far better place than I was before, when I was really limited by my childhood trauma and repressed anger.
Love it. Change it, Leave it.
I am not sure if that is the mid-life crisis mantra but I have used it throughout my life. If you can't do the first then do the second and if that doesn't work do the third.
No-one ever lay on their death bed wishing they’d had less sex.<br />
I’ve had enough that I realise it’s not the be all and end all that many make it out to be.
i'm still saving up for one.
Well I biked the Annapurna circuit for my 50th,... probably cheaper than a Porsche or a motorbike and better for me!
I'm vaguely planning the Continental Divide for my 60th (2 years off).
I would go for a younger woman but the wife won't let me 😀
are you 'the friend' off of Olly2097's "my friend is having an affair" post?
I started working for a mountain bike magazine, started wearing dungarees, bought a BMX, and got a new husband. Also done a fair bit of therapy. I think it's worked out pretty well all in all. I've learnt to be 'me' rather than someone else's version of me. I look forward to the days immediately ahead rather than dreading the days between now and some mythical future retirement when all good things shall come to pass.
I haven't got the energy for one now! 🙂
Come on OP, what have you done. Still waiting for mine
What is mid-life these days? I took early retirement at 50, was persuaded to work in a bike shop and my life completely changed. I guess that took care of the desire to make another massive change.
'mid-life' for me--assuming I make it to my 80s--was about a decade ago, mega stress at that time from work when I was in my 40s, now into my mid-50s I feel I am slightly more in control of my life rather than my life being in control of me, but it's a long game... fast cars and fancy hols? no chance! everything goes on the mortgage, cost of living etc etc...
Based on the lifespan of my father's father, I'm roundabout midlife at 33.
Spent many hours pouring over used Porsches on autotrader and pistonheads, chickened out and have a fancy Audi instead.
Already got nice bikes and a plenty of free time to spend how I want. Could do with a tad more spending money though.
My advice to you would be to buy a catering pack of Viagra and shag anything that moves. No-one ever lay on their death bed wishing they’d had less sex.
I bet Jeff Epstein wished he'd practised at least a bit of moderation during his final moments...
51 and had a period of about 2 years now where I can feel aches and pains, can't do what I used to and feel the opposite to Tractionman above. Not really feeling in control, not really enjoying myself etc.
Happy with my car though but I'd quite like a house with a pool on a warm island with nothing to do all day other than find a place for lunch & beers. Reality is at least 10 years of work in the UK I suppose.
started wearing dungarees
Steady on!
Mine was mainly having a sulk and spending a small fortune on bike parts when no-one was looking.
Yep although mine was more of a mid life revelation than crisis. Aged 50, got myself a 34 year old girlfriend and a Hope HB916, two of the best decisions I ever made in my life. I also have found myself considering the nature of reality far more deeply. Didn’t feel the need for a sports car or motorbike as I fly a Boeing 737 for a living.
Never been happier, mid life is fantastic.
Have you considered trying some tyre inserts?
I did plenty of skydiving and WW kayaking in my 20s and 30s. And a few ironmans in my 40s. So no need to get into them again (I'm still into Tri).
In my 50s I find myself frequently perusing the Triumph motor bike website. And the websites for numerous guitar makers. Maybe this is a regression back into my teens ? 58 is the new 18 and all that.
Thankfully I have no interest in ebikes or golf.
nope, always been pretty content with my lot, never wishing to look younger, impress anyone or stand out.
nearly 60 now, only buy new clothes when absolutely necessary on a 'one in one out' basis, happy to drive a battered old nissan note, and happy with my wife.
ive even embraced this 'middle-of-the-roadness' by joining the 'dull mens club' on facebook 😂
Chased second cat road race license in my 50's. Bought a Porsche but not a 911
Nope, and not likely to happen either 🙂
Might take a look at that dull men's club 😉
nope, always been pretty content with my lot, never wishing to look younger, impress anyone or stand out.<br />
That’s where I’ve got to after my mid-life crisis.
Comfortable in my own skin.
45. Contemplating a motorbike. I know nothing about motorbikes.
Yep me too, went from a young hedonistic man to a fossil and cannot remember the middle bit (maybe just as well).
I had more than enough excitement and adventure when I was younger,so got a lot of stuff out my system. I'm cool with where and who I am now,so a quiet(ish) life is fine for now,thanks very much 😉 😜
Take my advice and don't wait for retirement to realise your dreams. I got seriously ill in my mid 60s. So glad now that I bought that Elise that nearly bankrupted me in my early 40s, the memories are worth every penny.
What Bin Bins said. Also, as I have no retirement, short of mini 10 becoming successful, I'm just going to keep lurching from one stupid situation to the next. I did buy a Merc. But it's a sensible SUV for taking the fam skiing rather than a fanny magnet for this fat, balding old fool.
Im 51 and i plan on getting a Honda Fireblade - need to pass the test first
Left my wife at 51 for a younger lady (we're still together 17 years later, though), got back into motorbikes at 46 (still keen, 8 bikes later). Don't regret the bikes.
My life is pretty dull and I like it that way!
Very happy with my modest lot.
And also a member of Dull Men's Club on FB.....
Yep, midlife crisis here - I bought a Porsche Berlingo
no, and i dont get the midlife crisis thing either.
just a excuse for a selfish man/woman to act like a **** IMHO.
i got all my idiocy out of my system in my youth, at a cost.
since then i have been a sensible steady away kind of bloke.
Don’t like cars so bought some nice screwdrivers and a few pairs of Nike high-tops. Very happy with my decision.
I've had a sensible midlife crisis....instead of buying flash look at me stuff that I've always done...now I buy what I need.
So I sold my Jag...and got a Abarth...( best car ever, )
I don't buy new clothes any more , I buy used on ebay....now I've a real hunger for old skool rave vinyl records...so I just hunt for bargains..
Is that a crisis
One downside of spending your younger days 'following your dreams' and 'doing what you love' is that you wake up one day in your mid 30's in a shared house with no money, no pension, and no job.
However, the upside is that as a result, being 40 with a sensible job with a pension, where you get paid every single month, even when you're on holiday ffs, and paying a mortgage on your own house that will one day end, feels like great luxury.
So, currently 44 and don't see any MLC on the horizon. But you never know
