[Closed] Tinder, my thoughts...

I recently installed tinder, was quite surprised at the quantity of filtered selfies, lack of photos showing anything below the neck, and lack of profile info.

These filters are good too, the difference between two photo's of the same person could be startling 😯

I mean I knew it was shallow and vain, but you're just swiping based on someone's face and age. Not very keen. I matched a few in the first day, one didn't talk, and the other two* I know one of, and have mutual friends with the other. So may as well have gone to the pub. Deleted it. *I do not live in a city.

Can see it's merit as a hook up thing, but not my scene.

Well asked the normalest (new word needed for this subject) one to grab a coffee next weekend and she said yes so will have to try and not screw that one up might ask the next normalest one as well bit think she prefers things stronger than coffee

I am getting nervous now 😯

Talked to her quite a lot to do and seems really nice but dont want to get my hopes up to much as she might run a mile when she sees me 😆

wiggles - Member
I am getting nervous now

Talked to her quite a lot to do and seems really nice but dont want to get my hopes up to much as she might run a mile when she sees me

Ok I'll just refer to "online dating" as although I'm new to tinder I'm not New to online dating. 😉

Great thing is, she has seen your face. Straight off you know she is at just not turned off by you. Probably quite the opposite mate!

You've already "talked" even if not on the phone? A very good thing, I've broken.

Hell,I once went on date and joked to the lady concerned that I could give her a lift home if she wished as I'd already emptied the seat of the axe and duct tape! Years later we are still in touch... She knew well before the date I had an odd humour but I knew she did too.Lol

Best advice ever is to let her do a lot of the talking. Sounds easy but here is the difficult bit (for some men!) Actually listen to what she is saying, take it in, be genuinely interested.

Also, with the net, there REALLY ARE plenty more fish in the sea. So don't apply pressure to yourself. Have a laugh, talk about your hobbies* and see what happens.

I went on a date once with a pirated DVD of a movie I knew she liked....to be confronted with my date having a lovely bunch of flowers for me!

Initially a bit awkward but we just had a laugh about it! 😀

*Don't talk compulsively about camping, biking, metal detecting or stream punk. A friend, ahem, has been known to do that. 😉

She already made the serial killer joke so dont worry 😆

Thanks for the tips though I have been on dates from online stuff but not tinder and in all honesty previously It wasn't really a case of choosing the best out of the ones I was talking to as going out with the [i]one[/i] that talked to me so that is why im a bit nervous as I`m going into it thinking she is genuinely very nice rather than convincing myself to go because I have no other option.

But yeah big thing is dont put any pressure on it, if it goes tits up and is awful then Just learn from it and move on...

wiggles - Member
She already made the serial killer joke so dont worry

If you pass, give me her details,I like the sense of humour! Lol

Yeah, sorry, didn't mean to try and teach you how to such eggs.

I used to be painfully shy till my letter 30's really. Then a longish relationship ended and I started dating then internet dating and I really don't even get nervous on a date anymore. It is a learning exercise as you say.

I think you're much younger than me? Man,I wish I could go back in time and tell myself not to be so introverted and just enjoy the experience more.

You have time on your side mate, I'm envious! 🙂

Yeah im 27 shes 24. If it goes badly I`ll tell her I know an older guy i vaguely know on the internet that I talked about her to might be interested 😆

My pattern is similar to yours just a bit more compressed... think ive hit the point of realising just see what happens if it doesnt work just start again with someone else.

When I was younger I just kind of felt like I had to latch on like it was my only hope... I`m either more optimistic or more deluded

wiggles - Member
Yeah im 27 shes 24. If it goes badly I`ll tell her I know an older guy i vaguely know on the internet that I talked about her to might be interested

Yeah, what's not to like? 😀

BITD I had a real need to be with someone. Anyone if I'm honest.

Now I'm petty happy being single and a but picky but there are times when life is better shared.

Yeah definitely when you get to the stage of realising it's not all bad being single it makes you understand you can afford to be picky and theirs no rush for anything

The most hypocritical thing is the kids thing though, loads of single mums get freaked out and stop talking to me when they find out I have kids.

But then again, that sort of woman will probably come with other problems best avoided.

Yeah true, but I don't think all women are bitches because of my ex...

Latest matches include a 34 hear old personal trainer but I suspect she is using it as some kind of targeted marketing 😆

Chaps - one of my colleagues is looking for a man. Edinburgh based. Be fun to set her up with one of you. warning - serious roadie cyclist and marathon runner

What has she done to you to deserve that?

she is quicker than me on a bike the bitch!

tj, what are the bids at currently for your friend? 🙂

Does she have any requirements for a man or does she trust you implicitly?

I think she likes 'em tall. Beyond that I have only been joking with her. PM me

Just bumped into my mum's best friends daughter who I used to spend a lot of time with when I was little and our parents joked we would end up getting married...

Well how wrong were they 😆 I'm well... Me and she is an actual professional fashion model now 😆

tjagain - Member
I think she likes 'em tall

Well I'm 6'6" on the phone so I'm yer man. Just got to make sure she and the Wife don't bump into each other...

Funny thread this..

So, a few questions.

When on the site can you filter age/ethnicity/male/female.

So: say, you fancy dating someone a lot older (20+yrs) and maybe of a certain ethnicity... is that possible ? Can you filter for that/those criteria??

Age, you can filter and distance, the rest is done by swiping.

It's a small World. I saw a doctor on Tinder that I'd previously dated, having met on PoF. Some new photos, some of the same.
Hope she get's her man.

Is the part when I find out it's a fake person? 😆

Asked her out she said yes and now she is actually talking to me more and gave me her number 😮

What is wrong with her hmmm 😕

tjagain - Member
Chaps - one of my colleagues is looking for a man. Edinburgh based. Be fun to set her up with one of you. warning - serious roadie cyclist and marathon runner

I can send her my Tinder name...

It's totes truthful with recent pictures.

Only one issue really, though the pics were taken late last summer I've put on 4 stone since then. I'm a power eater.

Hey, it's the net, can't actually put up pictures of what I am like now. I mean,duh?!

Oh, tj, do you get a finders fee or anything?

(Don't say I did that.)

Only one issue really, though the pics were taken late last summer I've put on 4 stone since then. I'm a per eater.

Well done on planning ahead 😀

I literally had a haircut and updated my picture (lost a few pounds but doubt much off my face 😆 ) and I have easily quadrupled the attention Im getting 8)

wiggles - Member
Is the part when I find out it's a fake person?

Asked her out she said yes and now she is actually talking to me more and gave me her number

What is wrong with her hmmm

I've honed that sort of doubt into a fine art mate.

I sometimes just look at the face of a woman and within 60 seconds I've worked out how the relationship would end. Saves a lot of expense though to be honest.

I mean,I got dumped once for wearing shorts too often!

FFS WOMAN, IT WAS THE SUMMER AND I ONLY WORE THEM TO THE RESTAURANT TWICE!

SHOOT ME!

wiggles - Member
Only one issue really, though the pics were taken late last summer I've put on 4 stone since then. I'm a per eater.
Well done on planning ahead

I literally had a haircut and updated my picture (lost a few pounds but doubt much off my face ) and I have easily quadrupled the attention Im getting

To be honest mate, without a triple stomach bypass and a full face transplant I'm peeing into the wind! 😀

Is there a dating site?(sight?) For blind women? 😉

wiggles - Member
Is there a dating site?(sight?) For blind women?

Oh, I'm not going there incase there is an "ism" involved. 😉

My dad's mate is blind and he always has really hot girlfriends... I think it's the dog thats his secret weapon

Bit extreme taking on a pet to let a leg over.

That said, the year is young and by October I'll be queuing outside Battersea Dogs Home no doubt. 😀

wiggles - Member
Is there a dating site?(sight?) For blind women?

Blindr?

Blindr?

well played.

Haha well done 😀

Just posting because I dont want this thread to die as it was too amusing 😀

I have nothing funny to add at this stage, fed up making conversations keep going with most of them so waiting to see how this date turns out saturday to figure out if I need to keep trying 😆

Well....

My months paid for membership ran out yesterday so now I have to "not go on dates tool I've lost the weight" as a mere minion. Lol

I got a like but I see that tinder pixelates the image so you can't see who it is to like back.

However...

Having tried closing one eye and squinting the other I think I can make out the face.

Kind, natural look with a pleasing smile.

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Kind, natural look with a pleasing smile.

Sorry man. She's got a boyfriend and has a heavy pill habit.

wiggles - Member
Is there a dating site?(sight?) For blind women?

Oh, I'm not going there incase there is an "ism" involved.

Jokes like that you really should have seen coming.

P.s. This thread won't die wiggles!

Spring is on the way and young men's minds will inevitably turn to biking, gardening and getting a bunk up...

When that happens this thread, through our determined desire to get laid no matter the personal cost or p*** taking endured will come to the fore.

It shall become the go-to dating resource on STW. Lives will be changed, soulmates/shipmates met and many a pipe shall be cleaned by Louise.

Then we shall still be around to hand out advice on the epidemic of STD's gained by our loyal followers...

We shall always have a role to play my friend. Always.

I actually met my Ex-louise on a forum... (not this one) and look where that got me 👿

I`m still very much in the when am I going to find out the massive fault with this girl stage... attractive, seems nice, smart and able to hold a decent conversation and most importantly finds me attractive 😕

I have already warned her she may see me in person and run away 😆

Then we shall still be around to hand out advice on the epidemic of STD's gained by our loyal followers...

That reminds me I should check the expiry dates... they have been in a wallet for quite a while

EDIT: nope got 2 with 3 years left. That should see me through to my 30`s

Man this thread really got screwed up by the update, for me it's only show half the quotes in quote boxes etc

So much for it being a long term source of knowledge 😆

I mean,I got dumped once for wearing shorts too often!

FFS WOMAN, IT WAS THE SUMMER AND I ONLY WORE THEM TO THE RESTAURANT TWICE!

SHOOT ME!

I probably should say that after going "**** it, I'll give it a go" it does seem that there are a fair number of people there genuinely not just looking for a shag, and I'd never realised you could actually read stuff about them before swiping!

Anyway, back to the humorous posts.

So other than don't wear shorts any tips for my "date" Saturday?

Tips? I’m no expert but I’ve had a bit of success recently, so I’d say:

1. Spruce yourself up befor you go. Nails, nose hair etc.

2. Be the best version of yourself as much as you can. That means relaxing a bit and helping her relax by seeing that you are chilled. It’s only a date, not an arranged marriage 😉

3. Be a gentleman. Even if it’s bombing and you have **** all in common, be nice. If she’s a tit, be kind back to her. If she gets shitfaced and wants to shag you put her in a cab.

4. If it doesn’t work out don’t take it personally. It’s not.

5. Tidy your place up, change your bedsheets and have protection to hand in case you strike oil 😀

thanks, although I'm meeting her during the day for coffee so some of those are probably not relevant 🤔