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Due to her lazy 17 year old daughter. Now I do get on with her. But I'm really finding it hard to keep quiet over the fact she does naff all. Uses her mum as a taxi service and turns into a complete twunt if she doesn't get what she wants. I made it quite clear that I would not be funding the horse they have and don't get involved with that. She won't even take plates in the kitchen or tidy up after herself etc. I know this is how some teenagers are but I've come to the end of my tether now. But everytime I say anything to her mum it gets the same line of ill sort it and nothing happens.
I do love my partner but I've had enough, and have Saud in the past if nowt changes I'm leaving, and then it's tears from partner and it will get sorted etc and I give in. I did want to put a deposit down on a house but I'm not having a new house being made into a shit tip.
Do t know what to do, I've tried to grin and bear it and I've had enough now. My partners ex's all left for the exact same reason. It gets to the point where I can't even sit down and watch my own tv which I'm paying for as said daughter is slobbing on the sofa. I'm also due to have another knee arthroscopy next week and can see me hopping around tidying up or going to the shops on crutches like I was when I had knee debridment surgery two months ago and when I fractured my leg in Feb.
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Get yourself outta there.
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Yup. Deal-breaker. If she's happy to live at home / unable to move out, and mum's enabling the spoilt behaviour, there's no reason to think anything is likely to change in the future.
Edit - phone posted on my behalf... Was going to add that we can all hand out life advice but only you know what's going on and whether there's any hope.
Do you live together?
Start removing priviliges from the daughter until she pulls her weight.
Is she fit?
Yup live together not my house. But I have experienced it from daughters pov when I was a teen however I was no where near as lazy, I never give my mum any grief and wasn't my spends, treats etc but I resented her partner as he was a control freak with unrealistic targets and I left and joined the Army she soon got rid of him.
However I like to see myself as approachable and me and said daughter do get on really well. I just can't stand laziness and mess and also rude behavior towards elders, parents etc and the dummy spat out when not getting own way.
I brush things under the carpet for a while and tolerate it but I'm at breaking point now. And I feel unhappy and can't even be mivered with any sort of relationship interaction with the missus as im just so pissed off.
Get gone! Imagine the peace n serenity you'll live while single for a bit. You're gonna love it.
Teenager in 'acting like teenager' shocker... Suck it up for a bit longer, then it'll pass, she'll go off to uni or you can kick her out of your little love nest.
she just lazes around, and this boils your piss hard enough to consider ending your relationship? something is fundamentally not strong.
YOFLO
Life's too short, theres no way i could hang around there in that situation. get out.
Leave her. Let her find someone more supportive, loving and not as selfish.
Teens sometimes come bundled with such first world problems. Within a year she could naturally move out. Her mum has spent 17yrs toiling bringing her up thus far. Would you like to drive her out/drive a lifelong wedge between them?
Man up. Change tact. I say selfish because you obviously cant think much or respect your partner enough. Prove us and yourself wrong.
Its a typical teenager, sadly. When my daughter comes home from uni, the house changes to a pit. Even the wife is glad to send her back. Choice is yours, perhaps live with a mate for a while and let them realise more that you are serious in your meanings of moving out. Or, just put up , but for how long you want to is up to you.
😀Is she fit?
Just explain you can't live under the same roof as her lazy ass daughter but want to keep the relationship going...move out and see how it goes.
So friends with benefits?
I am thinking of leaving my partner because her teenage daughter acts like a teenager. I am trying not to flame you . I appreciate that other peoples children are a pain and especially so during the late teens but surely that was the deal when you took on the relationship with your partner . You can't have expected her to become magically child free. You have not mentioned any issues re your partner.
Decide what you want if it is a relationship with this woman then make her your partner pay your share of the horse expense and buy a house you then have a dog in the game in any argument with the daughter. At the moment you are just some bloke cluttering up what the daughter sees as her home .
Next get away with your partner for a break where you can focus on each other . Accept that while you are away your house will be moderately trashed by teens suck that up it is part of the cycle of life .
It's all rather egocentric. Then again, you may well be the paragon of virtue, a domestic god and forever putting everyone else including your partner before all else...
I get a sense that you might not have as much power and influence as you might like/want/need in the relationships with your partner and her daughter, hence your emotional response.
Just a thought.
EDIT. Your username also alludes to a certain stereotype, but lets not go there 😉
Leave her. Let her find someone more supportive, loving and not as selfish.
This!
What did you think when you started a relationship with somebody with children? Are you 16? Are you going to do a runner from the next partner if things arent quite so?
You both have a teenage daughter so work together.
Move out temporarily. Reflect on what you really want in life.
Come up with a plan to achieve it.
tomhoward, crankboy, slackalice, and surfer sound like they have a handle on life.
OP if you carry on like this then it is likely on your deathbed you will be lying there wondering why you sacrificed love and happiness for a feeling of smug superiority.
I dont think anyone is right or wrong really, but this isnt about the daughter really, if it was, you wouldnt even be thinking about moving out and leaving her.
Its really about how much you do really love her deep down, and I think the daughter thing is just a symptom of the underlying issue.
Time to move on, both for your sake and hers. You both deserve people you can properly commit to.
Tbh you sound pretty damn cold.
You say you love her, but what does this actually mean? That you'll hang around until something pisses you off then leave in the face of her tears? Some folk have a different definition of love to me, it seems.
Maybe she doens't know how to address it, maybe she needs your help to do that?
I'd say if you're thinking of leaving her because her daughter is a lazy disinterested teenager then you probably don't truly love her and that is the real problem. It sounds like you are looking for a reason to leave her as deep down you don't really love her and just simply don't want to be with her.
OP. Are you sure this the only thing that is not for you in this relationship. If you are willing to leave over her daughter surely there is something else contributing...?
Suck it up solider or go MIA
What's it going to be ?
To define 'love':
The will to extend oneself for the purpose of nurturing and developing ones own and another's personal growth.
It's not the cathexis, or an object of desire.
OP if you are waiting for other people(your partner) to change it will never happen . You loved her and she loved you enough to allow you to move into her home, and her daughters home. So if you really love your partner then find a way to make things work. ...maybe all three of you should talk.
Be honest with yourself above all do you really love your partner? Good luck to you whatever you decide to do.
Im with the OP on this having lived with someone who had kids that even into their 20s would do sweet fa to help whilst I did everything.In the end it really starts to get you down !
In my experience people rarely change, if your gut feeling is to walk away, do it. One short life, don't waste a minute of it being unhappy.
It can only get worse! My wife's younger son has just returned to live with us bringing his girlfriend, they are 32!
They are supposed to be doing up a house/ wreck they have bought but we are into the second year and nothing much has been done apart from going to Glastonbury , getting ripped 3 times a week and buying loads of stuff. When we gently point out they could crack on a bit, they tell us that they are desperate to leave but in actual fact we are funding their never ending teenage years. It is like living in a student flat where you have to hide your food. To be fair I have brought him up since he was 5 as his actual father showed no interest so I suppose I can blame myself. His mother does have the habit of telling me to tell him to do things and when I do she then complains I am picking on him.
You went in to the relationship knowing your partner had a child who was one day going to turn in to a teenager and every one of us knows what they can be like!
When you get in to a relationship with someone who has kids you accept that you'll never be top priority and their needs will nearly always come above yours. The fact that you're living in your partners house gives you little say in what goes on especially as far as the daughter is concerned "its not your house" has probably been said more than once I'm guessing by the daughter?
I found that this stops as soon as you and your partner move in to a house which is owned/rented jointly as even if they don't admit it they understand that you ARE paying towards bills/rent/mortgage. Even if you were doing so before it seems to clarify it in the kids mind.
I'd say to look long and hard about how happy you REALLY are with your partner and if you can honestly say you are then you're just going to have to learn to live with it. If not then you know where the door is!
Leave her. Let her find someone more supportive, loving and not as selfish.Teens sometimes come bundled with such first world problems. Within a year she could naturally move out. Her mum has spent 17yrs toiling bringing her up thus far. Would you like to drive her out/drive a lifelong wedge between them?
Man up. Change tact. I say selfish because you obviously cant think much or respect your partner enough. Prove us and yourself wrong.
OK, as someone who has been on both sides of this fence (former step-parent and also a step-child) I can't necessarily agree 100% with this.
Agree that teens come with these problems. But it is the responsibility of their parents/family to teach them that it's not acceptable to sit around and do FA. Believe me, I have a sister that's exactly the same and she is 21, and she has been enabled to do this, in a way that I was not (I lived with my mum, and she has a different POV on parenting to my dad).
Fast forward now, my dad is poorly and can no longer work, so the gravy train my sister has been relying on is going to stop. It's going to be a rude awakening for her. Because neither of her parents wanted to have the "grow up, get off your arse, start helping round the house when you're home and get a job" conversation with her (afraid of ensuing tantrum) I had it, because I give no f***s about overgrown teenage strops. She's now got a part time job to help support her studies, and is applying for postgrad, and intends to apply for a bursary and work part time.
So I don't agree that you should necessarily "put up and shut up" with a spoilt, enabled teen, and a parent who won't do anything about it - it's bad for everyone, not least the teen herself. Circumstances change, as they have done for my dad's second set of kids, and it's done them no favours being infantilised in the way they have been.
If you do get on with your partner's daughter, can you not have a word with her yourself, about how her behaviour is impacting the family? Encourage her to start taking some responsibility and put a positive spin on it?
Where I do agree with hora is that driving a wedge between child and parent will be counterproductive. If ultimately, teen and partner refuse to change, then you will have to make the decision whether you stay or go. As a stepchild, who has had a parent's partner try their best to drive a wedge (and is still doing it now whilst my father is very sick) it is very hurtful, and not something that you want to get into. But that doesn't mean that you put up with all kinds of crappy behaviour just because of the privileged relationship between parent and kiddo.
She's 17 - she'll be gone from the house soon enough. Doesn't sound like you're that keen on your partner if you're willing to bail for that reason. Are you looking for an excuse
You have my sympathy. I have been in much the same situation. My partner's daughter (now my step-daughter) was sulky, whiney, selfish and threw tantrums if she didn't get her own way. She also used to bleed her mother dry financially.
My step-daughter is now nearly 20, and is at University. She does still occasionally exhibit the whiney selfishness, and demands chunks of money on top of her generous allowance, but is much better - a function of growing up really.
We had a bit of a turning point when during a particularly petulant screaming tantrum, I intervened (I usually just let my partner deal with her daughter) and told her she couldn't treat her Mum like that, that we'd cut her a lot of slack, but that she had to grow up, stop treating her Mum like crap, and stop behaving like a spoilt 2 year old. The key to this was pointing out that she was treating her Mum badly, not making about myself.
Anyway the upshot is you have to ask yourself this: "Is you relationship good enough to put up with this crap for another 2(?) years?" It will get better, how much better I can't say, some people remain petulant and selfish as adults. Also don't be too hard on your partner, I used to get infuriated with mine for not cracking down on her daughters dreadful behaviour, but don't forget the guilt factor. My partner (now wife) felt guilty about splitting with her husband (horrible little weasel that he was) and her daughter used this as a weapon to get her own way.
How long have you been together? If it is some years has the daughter always been idle or is this just a 'phase' as they say.
If it is months then maybe part of it is adjusting to living with a teenager, who are scientifically almost as lazy as cats...
I don't mean to muddy the water here but ffs!
My partners exes [b]all[/b] left for the same reason..
Sounds to me like that kid needs some love and support from the male role model in her life, but you just sound like a clueless overgrown boy to me....
Definitely leave them.. They'll be much happier without you, and happiness is the key to this kid turning their life around..
Alternatively, back out, get a hobby, ride the storm with a sile on your face and love in your heart.. Don't get bogged down by your responsibilities..
Love really is the key..
based on what you've said.. MTFU is all i want to say. Stay there and man up. Unless there are other problems between you and her mum then man up.
Teenagers are teenagers, they'll take what they can, we've all been there and done it and clearly the 'custom and practice' has been there a while and now continues.
Sit down with her mum and tell her you're truly fed up and both of you should work towards getting the daughter on her feet and independant, slowly cut the apron strings, this is the responsibility as a parent figure that you have, to make them self sufficient, to support them as they become their own adult.
unless there are other problems between you and the mum...
Start having loud sex
lol ur living in someone else house !
As parents are responsible for their kids until their 18 it basically her house. More her house than urs anyhow.
Same position here, or was.. He left for uni three weeks ago and WOOOHOOOO!!!!
We've decided we're gonna move without telling him.. 😀
Food lasts ages now, the bills have plummeted and its so lovely and quiet, and most of all, when you tidy up it stays tidy for ages and ages..
The point I'm making is if you still love your mrs you have to be in for the long haul, they do move on eventually and when they do life is good..
In the short term tell her (the daughter) how it is and don't take no shit, if she no likey she f'koffee...
Video one of her tants and show it to her, ask is that how someone who wants to be treated as an adult behaves, and threaten to put it on YouTube..
I did and he was mortified and things improved a lot...
Strikes me that you are living in *their* house and don't necessarily have the right to dictate how either of them behave? If you'd invited them into your house maybe the situation would be different. The daughter views you as the addition to her relationship with her mum, whereas in your eyes the daughter is the addition to your relationship with your other half. Tricky.
If you truly love your other half, I would suggest that you'd find a way to work this out, and if she truly loves you, she should be more proactive with her daughter.
Do the thoughts you harbour of bailing, suggest more deeply rooted issues than the laziness/rudeness of your step daughter?
Start having loud sex
GF or daughter? Both?
In defence of the OP, it put a MASSIVE strain on a relationship where step children are involved.
I had to deal with moving in with my OH and 17 twin boys. The testosterone was off the scale in there! It gets very wearing when you have been at work for 12 hours to find the front room a shithole and the kitchen a filthy mess.
When they finally leave its like a massive weight off your shoulders.
After 6 months, my OH got pregnant with our son, and so the cycle continues....
It's a bit harsh telling the OP to man up etc.
We're not living his life and it sounds as if he's very unhappy.
If leaving your partner will improve your life, do it and do it quick.
Start having loud sex as above, also sit next to her watching telly in your Y-fronts, periodically getting up to dance when a good advert comes on.
hora - MemberStart having loud sex
LOL.
Ditch partner, go out with 17 year old daughter, get you ex to run around after both of you.
Start having loud sex with your new partner.
I haven't read all of it, did the OP say how long it's gone on? Sounds like the daughter is set in spoilt brat mode for some time to come.
Don't forget, daughter could still be living at home in ten years. When you have your own place mum can come round to visit, if the relationship is that strong. If not you'll know. So either make the tremendous investment in time, emotion and commitment or get started somewhere new.
It's a bit harsh telling the OP to man up etc.
We're not living his life and it sounds as if he's very unhappy.
If leaving your partner will improve your life, do it and do it quick
based on what he'd said there was no indication of issues with his good lady so no he shouldnt leave, #they# should take responsibility for the position they have agreed to be in, that includes agreeing an approach on the daughter. Running away from it is a piss poor answer unless there is a fundamental issue with the mum. man up.
Hang on, they've already tried to agree on an approach with the daughter and he keeps getting ****ed over. He isn't married and hasn't signed any contract, he is free to do whatever he wants. Sticking around and making himself miserable just to save others from misery is barking mad. It's not even "manning up", quite the opposite. Putting up with it in silence is just being a weak willed sap.
If you truly love your other half, I would suggest that you'd find a way to work this out, and if she truly loves you, she should be more proactive with her daughter.
This.
It's a meeting in the middle. Life as a stepfamily involves compromises on all sides. In fact, life as a family does - I've got plenty of friends who disagree with their SO on parenting matters even when they are both bio parents, and it can cause real friction.
People who think the OP should just "man up" probably haven't been step-parents. It's stressful, especially if you don't get the support from your partner, and they make no effort to understand how their child/ren's behaviour impacts you. Sometimes, even if the parent cannot do anything about the situation, then listening and understanding their partner's point of view goes a long way. But many parents are not prepared to hear things about their children that aren't 100% positive, or act upon bad behaviour, for a variety of reasons (divorce guilt being a number one reason).
littlemisspanda - MemberIf you truly love your other half, I would suggest that you'd find a way to work this out, and if she truly loves you, she should be more proactive with her daughter.
This.
It's a meeting in the middle. Life as a stepfamily involves compromises on all sides. In fact, life as a family does - I've got plenty of friends who disagree with their SO on parenting matters even when they are both bio parents, and it can cause real friction.
People who think the OP should just "man up" probably haven't been step-parents. It's stressful, especially if you don't get the support from your partner, and they make no effort to understand how their child/ren's behaviour impacts you. Sometimes, even if the parent cannot do anything about the situation, then listening and understanding their partner's point of view goes a long way. But many parents are not prepared to hear things about their children that aren't 100% positive, or act upon bad behaviour, for a variety of reasons (divorce guilt being a number one reason).
I'd wager that the Mother's love for her daughter glosses over a fair bit of her spoilt behaviour, blind eyes and all that.
The OP's problem is that he doesn't have this paternal bond, and her actions piss him off.
As you say compromise, and stick at it if you truly love each other, otherwise bugger off and let her and you find the right person.
Difficult for sure.
he is free to do whatever he wants
Umm.. yes but there's another person involved isn't there? His partner.
Or is she not important?
the OP has my sympathy and it might sound harsh saying man up but too many people here were saying to walk away and live his own life. Selfish. There are indeed two other lives involved here, walking away is the easy option but the OP is the one who knows if it is the right option.
Umm.. yes but there's another person involved isn't there? His partner.
She's part of the problem if you ask me (I know you didn't).
The long and short is being with this woman makes him miserable because she hasn't raised her daughter well. The partner has shown that she won't/can't do anything about it, so it seems to me that it's stalemate.
I agree that it's a slight over-reaction to the daughters behaviour but it's obviously upsetting him. We all have different triggers/annoyances.
FFS he doesn't owe them anything and it's not his responsibility to make sure they are happy to the detriment of his own mental well being. It's not being selfish, it's common sense.
When it's say me and daughter on our own it's fine we talk like adults. She asks me if I need anything doing etc and me same for her. And she is a bright kid. But when we''re all in the way she talks to her mum when asked to do something by her is disgusting. And I get the back lash of their arguments which annoys me.
This is the first time I've been in a relationship with a partner with teenage kids as opposed to young kids etc.
I would put my life on the line to protect both partner and daughter. Maybe a lot of it is stemming from my boredom of only doing a two day working week at moment and being stuck in the house.
I would put my life on the line to protect both partner and daughter. Maybe a lot of it is stemming from my boredom of only doing a two day working week at moment and being stuck in the house.
And there you've said the answer yourself. Change that and I bet things will look a lot better. Even if you just get out for a ride/walk a few times a week.
Try it before throwing the towel in as you've got nothing to lose and everything to gain IMO.
FFS he doesn't owe them anything and it's not his responsibility to make sure they are happy
If it's a serious relationship, then he does and it is.
if nowt changes I'm leaving
I would put my life on the line
you've contradicted yourself, clearly its not an easy position, it sounds like you want to stay to me, but you threaten to leave as a bargaining chip. It sounds like you need to do some serious thinking and decide how much these two mean to you and take it from there.
I agree a break from the stress would help enourmously (get out on the bike, back to work) and maybe youre just too close to see the wood for the trees.
Good luck... break a leg doesnt seem the right thing to say 😉
As a parting shot from me. [b][u]I can think of a million good reasons to leave a partner. This is not one of them.[/u] [/b]
I think a lot of the OP is just letting off steam and getting it off his chest. I had to do the same otherwise I'd exploded in a ball of rage back then. (I did a few times and it wasn't nice for any of us!).
If it's a serious relationship, then he does and it is.
If they are doing nothing to make sure he's happy, it's not a serious relationship.
She's a teenager. It's what they do. Deal with it.
I think a lot of the OP is just letting off steam and getting it off his chest.
You mean he's not going to take the advice of random strangers on the internet on whether he should leave his partner ? 🙂
Would it be possible for you and the step daughter to share the house work if your partner is working. On this basis she does it one day you do it the next. On her housework day you could get out on the bike etc. ...Makes you feel good and gives the step daughter some space and responsibility. How is your partner getting on with her daughter when you are working? . As I said good luck
[b]hora[/b] - Member
As a parting shot from me. [b]I can think of a million good reasons to leave a partner. This is not one of them.[/b]
This.
As a father of three daughters now 25, 22 and 19 I can say it's not easy when they are your own, never mind the step child dynamic. As posted above by someone perhaps the daughter is jealous of her mum's relationship with you, perhaps she's still angry at her mum for splitting up, perhaps she's just 17, perhaps all of these and more. I agree totally with @hora don't bail for this reason if you love your partner.
Another no good man thinks a woman is going to put him before her child, at the end of the day to the girl you're just some man that's ****ing her mum.
If you are a decent human being you will except that's the way it is and be grate full you're with her mum, or if you're just another worthless man you will leave.
Men like you are the reason I don't date men.
3dvgirl well said.
When it's say me and daughter on our own it's fine we talk like adults. She asks me if I need anything doing etc and me same for her. And she is a bright kid. But when we''re all in the way she talks to her mum when asked to do something by her is disgusting. And I get the back lash of their arguments which annoys me.
If you guys can talk like adults, maybe you could sit her down at some point and have a conversation about how it upsets you to hear her speak that way to her mum. Maybe ask her what it is that makes her do it - even, is she aware of how she sounds?
I had my moments as a teen for sure, but if I was rude or spoke inappropriately to either parent, their partners would have pulled me up on it, if it happened in front of them.
I always said to my ex-partner, if I am sharing the same space as your kid, then I have some say in what behaviour is and is not acceptable in our home. Parenting decisions, such as what school kiddo went to, or health treatment, etc, were totally left to the parents, but I said, if you want me to live with you, then house rules are my domain as well. If I got the "don't tell me how to raise my kid" I've give him the "don't expect me to live with your kid then". Harsh? Maybe. But as pointed out above, I didn't have the parental blinkers on. If parents don't want to compromise on these things, they either don't hook up with anyone until their kids are grown and flown, or they at least don't get their partner to move in. Unfortunately, that's the reality of post-separation parenting, and relationships, and the minefield that is.
Being rude to anyone, adults or otherwise, is not OK. In the real world, she won't be able to speak to her boss like that, or colleagues (ha - well she can try, but woe betide her if she gets a colleague or boss like me!)
Another no good man thinks a woman is going to put him before her child, at the end of the day to the girl you're just some man that's * her mum.
You know what? My step-parents were both lovely people. I was happy they made my parents happy, because f knows they were miserable when they were married to each other, and my step-parents were nice to me. I say were, as one has now passed away and my dad split up with his 2nd wife (now on to the 3rd). Their money contributed to the household, it bought me stuff I needed and wanted. I could talk to them if I had problems. But I was not allowed to treat them or my own parents like crap.
If you mean that a parent expecting good behaviour from their child, help around the house from a damn near grown adult, and for everyone in the house to be treated with respect, and that's "putting a man before your child" then no wonder there are so many spoilt entitled little brats out there is all I can say.
Not all men are scumbags, let's just clear that up.
+1. I act like a complete dick online/on this forum a fair bit but in real like I understand my responsibility for being a Dad AND a good partner. I grew up when I was still in my 20's.
"Don't tell me how to raise my kid" is simply a defence statement in an argument. Most pepole are happy to talk about raising their kids and will take advice and ideas from other people, in a supportive open conversation.
If you mean that a parent expecting good behaviour from their child, help around the house from a damn near grown adult, and for everyone in the house to be treated with respect, and that's "putting a man before your child" then no wonder there are so many spoilt entitled little brats out there is all I can say.
Just because some one is 18 don't mean they stop being that persons child.
3dvgirl - MemberAnother no good man thinks a woman is going to put him before her child
You didn't appear to recognize the parent-daughter commitment and support in your thread titled :
"ex just turned up with parents, ffs"
He has in no way asked to be put before the kid. He's only wanted a bit of respect between all parties (particularly between mother and daughter). He is in no way worthless if he decides to leave a toxic environment which is causing him distress. I'm not saying that he's not over reacting to teenage behaviour, but he feels what he feels.
Calling a man worthless and no-good just for doing right by himself is disgusting and shameful. He's not married and he's not a parent, he's not signed a contract and should not feel tied to people who make him unhappy.
Just because some one is 18 don't mean they stop being that persons child.
No, they don't. But the expectations of behaviour/responsibility tend to go up as the child approaches adulthood.
Just saying, not tolerating being treated like rubbish/a skivvy by your own children doesn't make you a bad parent. If it does, then mine both suck! 😆
He has in no way asked to be put before the kid. He's only wanted a bit of respect between all parties (particularly between mother and daughter). He is in no way worthless if he decides to leave a toxic environment which is causing him distress. I'm not saying that he's not over reacting to teenage behaviour, but he feels what he feels.
Calling a man worthless and no-good just for doing right by himself is disgusting and shameful. He's not married and he's not a parent, he's not signed a contract and should not feel tied to people who make him unhappy.
That's whats wrong with the world, to many people take the easy way out.
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That's whats wrong with the world, to many people take the easy way out.
Or alternatively, too many stick around in rubbish relationships where they aren't happy. A toxic environment is going to damage everyone in it... eventually.
Teenagers are awful, I know, I used to be one...
Easy has nothing to do with it IMHO.
If nothing changes, the OP could be miserable and angry for years and end up resentful and bitter. That's not good for anyone. The fact that he's considering ending a seemingly well established relationship demonstrates just how much it's affecting him, however arbitrary his reasons may seem to us.