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Clearly you have been up too long junky - even by your standards, that last post made absolutely no sense.
The last throw of a desperate man who cannot argue his point succesfully acting confused - remember you keep saying I am the dim one
Toys - sorry sidetracked and actually I have thought about what you have said since reading - You raise some interesting point and I [genuinely] see your point re the listener making a choice on response re your scenario. I find it to be somewhat of a paradox though
Someone means to offend you using offensive language but it is your choice to be offended or not seems odd - not sure it would be legal view re defamation /slander etc.
I think part of it would be that the statement would be said in acontext with some style - ie if response a is elicited then it is more likely io said it in a screaming contorted angry manner, b in my best leslie Philips voice DING DONG and c would be offensive banter between mates.
I do get yourpoint though and [logically] I can see it as reasonable if misguided/wrong mm notsure of the rigth word there.
It reminded me of the Buddha and just how far I have fallen
One day Buddha was walking through a village. A very angry and rude young man came up and began insulting him. "You have no right teaching others," he shouted. "You are as stupid as everyone else. You are nothing but a fake."
Buddha was not upset by these insults. Instead he asked the young man "Tell me, if you buy a gift for someone, and that person does not take it, to whom does the gift belong?"
The man was surprised to be asked such a strange question and answered, "It would belong to me, because I bought the gift."
The Buddha smiled and said, "That is correct. And it is exactly the same with your anger. If you become angry with me and I do not get insulted, then the anger falls back on you. You are then the only one who becomes unhappy, not me. All you have done is hurt yourself."
"If you want to stop hurting yourself, you must get rid of your anger and become loving instead. When you hate others, you yourself become unhappy. But when you love others, everyone is happy."
You can reasonably claim to not understand this somewhat waffling and unclear response but I am still considering what you have said but yes I have/am in the process of changing my mind reconsidering my position
STW'er changing mind SHOCKER - not sure how much I will change but yes I see your point up to a point.
There are still many words I would not use
There are still many words I would not use
Me too, but that's my choice. I still don't support any suppression of others use of "offensive" terms, even if I wouldn't use them.
Anyway it is a challenging problem..
I am not saying I would ban them either but perhaps we could discuss the issues around using them - why use a derogatory terms for a homosexual if you do not have a negative view of homosexuals? Why use the n word if you are not a racist etcI
I find it paradoxical that I can decide to be rude and offensive and use words solely for this effect BUT you get to decide if it is actually rude and offensive not me. I see your point re this but it still seems odd/wrong
Indeed a challenging probelm. I have debated this a few times you made me think/refelct/ change
Chapeau