[Closed] The day I've always dreaded ... arrived today

I'm so sorry c_g.

Not much more I can say - hope you're ok.

Hugs

Sorry to hear the sad news.

My condolence to you and family.

More hugs.

X

Have a kiss and a hug and take some comfort that he isn't suffering anymore.

Just remember all the good times - he will always be there for you in your memories.

My condolences c_g.

x

Bugger 🙁

Sorry to hear that,I lost my Grandmother a fortnight ago so i can imagine what your feeling.

Best wishes and big hugs.

Oh dear.

Sadness, but also relief, quite a mixture of emotions to deal with 🙁

Sorry to hear that.

Sorry to hear that. Hope he was a ripe age and leaves fond memories.

condolences to you and yours.

cinnamon_girl - my heart goes out to you. I found myself in your situation 8 years ago. I prayed my Father would die (he was very ill) and when it happened it was surreal.
All these years on now and I still miss him every day.

Big hug coming your way, love bunnyhop XX

So sorry to hear that C_G *hugs*

There're a few sexy people congrugating at Swinley if you fancy a gentle pootle Sunday...

Big hugs.

My dad's anniversary is in a few days. Feb 1st. Always gets to me.

He had a long - long term problems. He was glad when he knew it was over. I dont know if that helps, but it does for me and my mum.

So sorry c_g

Sorry to hear that c_g xxx

Sorry to hear your bad news.Just remember to keep talking to friends and family.Take it from me,Bottling feelings up over things like this is never a good idea.

Bugger. 😥

Sorry to hear that - take care.

xx

Take care CG xx. Dads are special.

cinnamon_girl - Member
My beloved father passed away.

So relieved his suffering has ended.

Just feeling quite numb.

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Had exactly the same thing 3 years ago, when my dad died, he was in so much pain, and we had expected him to die a few times,over the years, but he pulled through.

At the end it was a shock and a relief he died, but i still have the memories of him, you have the same, enjoy them as much as you did when dad was alive.

Best wishes and condolances for the future, to you and your family.

Thank you all for your kind words and virtual hugs. You know the day will come (he was 89 years old) and dementia is such a cruel illness. As bunnyhop says, it is surreal.

RIP Dad.

Big hugs to you CG....really sorry x

So sorry CG... remember the good times!

Im crap with words but my thoughts are with you CG .

Knottie

Very sad to hear C_G, at the same time hopefully somewhat of a relief to the family that his suffering has ended.

hope you're OK, give me a shout if there's anything I can do.

kie X

Elaine so sorry to hear this , e mail me if you want a chat i'll give you my phone number and that ride we threatened to do make it soon eh ? x

Hi c_g. As you may recall, I've just been through this too. My feelings were very mixed - grief, obviously but tinged with a certain relief that the pain is now over for him.

Don't be afraid to talk and be prepared to comfort, and be comforted by, others.

Your references to him indicate that you had a very good relationship. Recall that over the coming weeks and months. It's how he would want you to remember him.

PS - hugs

Sorry to hear that CG. Virtual hugs to you & yours.

Dementia is indeed cruel.

project - yes, I remember you posting. It's amazing how the body can keep going despite the ravages of illness. The older generation were so tough.

TSY - could you e-mail the details please and if I feel up to it, I'll join you guys for a bit. Thanks.

condolences CG.

keep your chin up sweetheart..............and a massive hug from me.. 🙁

Sad news
Hugs cg x

So sorry for you, C_G. Lost my mum a year ago and, though it sounds trite, it does get easier. The good stuff stays with you, and the bad stuff gets easier to remember without crying...

God bless...

Stand down C_G Snr.

I lost mine 7 years ago, and not a day goes by without thinking about him..

*Hugs* hon.. I feel ya pain & confusion.

Hugs C_G.

May he lay in peace and watch you from the heavens tearing about swinley like you were still a wee tot.

My deepest condolences, c_g, zen hugs here too.

Sorry to hear that condolences, keep expecting my old man to pop his clogs.

Really sorry to hear your news. Went through this 5 years ago so have every sympathy for you.

I remember this, and how even the idea of wanting to feel better seems wrong. For me, I found that writing down what happened and how I felt, helped a great deal.

Not much else I can say. Take care

I'm sorry for your loss, I don't do hugs, but in the spirit of the internet have one on me.

Comiserations.

my old dear died after a very long struggle. it was a difficult relief when she went. she had no kind of life that was worth the term, come the end. it was a release for her, difficult for those left behind, but you come to terms with it. it's what you have to do, and do do, after all of it.
keep on trucking.
D.

Sorry for your loss c-g. We went through similar circumstances with my grandmother a few years ago, and it's a very harsh illness for the family.

All I can add is that over time you learn to cope with the loss and you will find that instead of the struggles you remember all the good things.

Desperately sorry for you, c_g. My thoughts are very much with you. Stay strong.

commiserations, C_G

remember him as he used to be and be grateful he's free from how he became

RIP

Sorry, thoughts are with you

🙁

XXX

I lost my Dad last August, he was only 67.

It's very strange not having those who you are closest to around any more.

They never leave your heart they will always be there with you wherever you go whatever you do watching over you.

My thoughts go to all those whose lives he was a part of c_g

Sorry to hear CG

Its the downside of life I'm afraid

Thoughts are with you kid

It is really painful now- but a release. It really will get easier (but perhaps not better) as time goes by. Remember good things, in special places, at special times. Sort of works for me.

And don't forget to cry, lots of crying.

Commiserations CG, stay strong.

Sorry to hear this c_g, thoughts are with you and your family.

Sorry CG. Lost my Dad three weeks ago, know what you're going through.

Sorry for your loss x

Sorry to hear that.
Knowing its going to happen doesn't make it any easier!

sounds like he went through a long illness...? I know what you mean. It's a terrible thing to happen but knowing the suffering is over is a relief. I'm right there with you, I think about my dad a lot. It'll get better, think on about the good times.

Sad for your loss CG.

x

Condolences Cinnamon Girl 🙁

Sorry to hear your sad news c_g, my condolences to you and family.

I cared for my Dad through the last four months of his life before the pancreatic cancer finally got him two and a half years ago, and while it was a blessing for him when he finally went, I do miss having the old so-and-so around and still have a natter to him occasionally.

Thank you all for your kind words. It has enabled the tears to flow as they had been pretty much bottled up earlier.

Lots of good memories to cherish.

Sorry to hear that c_g, see you soon. Rusty

Huge hug from me CG, hopefully to be delivered in person when I finally get back out on the bike. The good times will be with you forever, remember them fondly and allow yourself to smile.

Rich
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He'd want you to be happy, and remember him at his best.
He'll always be with you.

RIP your dad.

SB

Still gutted for you c_g 🙁

I'm glad you've had a good cry - this is not a time to feel you have to be "strong" and stiff upper lips are very overrated anyway. A period of intense grieving now will help much further along the road.

It gets easier.

Give us a shout if you fancy a pootle.

Can't imagine not having my Dad, that's horrible. Big hugs.

hugs and condolences from me too

have emailed you about tomorrow 🙂 (well trying to, hotmail is messing me around)

my condolences X

Oh sad sad time, virtual hug and thinking of you and all those who are going through hard times.

I never know what to say under such circumstances, so I'll just to add my condolences to the list and to wish you well.

Elaine, I saw my grandma go through many years of pain. A strong old fashioned lady reduced to such a frail figure. When my dad told me she had died, all I could say was "thank God for that" which sounds cruel but isn't. A persons soul is what they leave behind when they are gone. You'll remember the happy times!

Big hug, you know where we are

Kirsty sends her love

Have a hug from me.

He was one of the main resons you have a chance at life, I hope that you and your loved ones are OK.

All that really matters is how we effect other peoples lives.

What we stand for while we still stand, for shortly we will all fall.

Farewell.

Huge hugs E.

If I can help in any way please ask. I am here 🙂

Thinking of you my friend - you know where I am x

Sorry to hear the news C_G, heart felt thought go out to you and your family.