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Awful news. My thoughts are with you and those close to your Dad.
my condolences to you and your family 😞
It's never easy losing a parent, hopefully it sounds like a peacfull passing so there is that to take some small solace in.
All the best.
Terrible blow for you and your family.
Hopefully when the shock has eased you will be able to look back on many happy times.
My condolences, Northwind, try to remember the good times. RIP.
So sorry to read this Northwind. Thoughts are with you.
🙁
Tough times
Try and get through xmas unscaved and take it one day at a time after that
Lots of paperwork to do which is tough but has to be done
Funeral will be hard, they always are. Do what you think is fitting
A good few years since my dad died of heart attack in hospital , 3 months after being admitted witha twisted colon . A couple of ops, sepsis , mrsa, induced coma , IV antibiotics then pulled through , out of ICU, onto recovery ward then 0300 one morning heart gave up.
I think your Dad was one of the good ones , keep the memories
I'm available for bikes rides and sympathetic grunting for the foreseeable future. Cancer can get tae ****.
Sorry to hear that Northwind
Virtual hugs dude
I don’t know who you are....or where you are....
But your choice of Mint is so emotive it’d be a hard bastard who isn’t moved...
Look after your closest NW - they are going to need you....Mint has your back..
I’m really sorry for your loss. I think we might have met once so are basically two strangers. If you fancy a pint in the Riccy or the flat roof Abbot or even one of the nice ones nearby then please give me a shout.
rotten time of year for it. my condolences.
Sorry to hear this. My dad died a few years back and I wasn’t right for quite some time after. Look after yourself.
My condolences to you Northwind. I too lost my dad a few weeks ago to pancreatic cancer. He insisted on staying at home until the end. It was kind of a relief at the time as it was horrible to see him so ill.
Phyllis Tuckwell nurses helped a great deal near the end, coming several times a day and even at night for the last few days. Whatever these people get paid, it's not enough.
Things will get easier. Remember the good times.
Hey Northwind, to echo Stevens comments
If you ever fancy watch me fall off my bike in any number of ways give me a shout.
Horrible time of year not that its ever going to be a good time but I hope you take some time for yourself.
Sorry for your loss Northwind. My dad can irritate me to fury, when he dies I will choose to remember the better times, there are some after he remarried too. In the meantime here's another Mint for those of us who had dad's buy the first bike.
All the best to you and your family.
Sorry to hear about your loss.
I'm genuinely sorry to hear that Northwind. You be as much of a **** as you want to on here mate.
It's all been said, but gutted for your loss.
Remember the good stuff, don't dwell on the bad, and celebrate a life lived well.
Life can be shite. Condolences to you and yours. Keep an eye on yourself as it’s easy to go into “just get on with it” mode, particularly at this time of the year, and then struggle in 6months time.
That's shite.
We watched my mother in law die in a hospice. Same deal, took a chest infection which just utterly knackered her and gave up in a matter of weeks.
If you can take any comfort though it's that your dad went peacefully and nobody had to watch him, I wouldn't wish our experience on anyone.
Paulneenan76 speaks wise words, my missus took about 3 years to get it out her system after she just "got on with it". If you get offered bereavement counselling I'd seriously consider taking it, otherwise I can probably dig out the Scottish web link my missus used.
All the best to you and yours.
Sorry for your loss Northwind, my condolences to you and your family.
Condolences. Went through pretty much the same thing in Feb.
That’s pants. Sincere condolences to you and your family.
Sorry to hear that Northwind. Look after yourself and your family.
Northwind I'm very sorry for your loss, it was at this time of year 21 years ago I lost my father, you never stop missing them but as time passes it hurts just a bit less & you will find yourself having a little smile to yourself about something he said or did.
Be there for your mum & don't worry about crying together, honestly it helps don't bottle it up.
Sadly I know from experience having now lost my Father, Mother 3 years ago and now my wife this year, keeping it all in tears you apart.
Try and celebrate his life if only for the fact that without him you wouldn't be here.
Northwind. sorry to hear that. Folk will ask if you're OK in the next fortnight even month; its the months after you need to watch out for.
My dad died (12 years ago, a bit over 80) in hospital, kind of a long slow decline. My mum (last year) died at 'home' - or in her sheltered housing home. Both peacefully more or less which is a relief of sorts.
Hope you can get out for a spin today. I did (on both occasions) and it helped a lot.
My condolences, Northwind.
I don't do platitudes, but I'll just say this.
My dad basically ignored me my entire life. When he passed a couple of years ago my emotion was mostly "meh." It sounds like you were more fortunate, try not to dwell and instead relish the good memories.
My mum died last year in hospital after several bouts of chemo thanks to leukemia. The hardest part was watching her gasping for breath and willing her to take her last one. Thinking "finally!" and then suddenly she starts gasping again! Gut wrenching.
It sucks, but ultimately something that most of us are going to deal with.
In many ways it's a relief and a weight of our collective shoulders.
Still have the odd moments where I'm standing in the workshop with tears rolling down my cheeks.
Look after yourself. Chin up. Carry on.
So sorry. And now it's got a bit dusty thanks to Sandwich.
Sorry for your loss Northwind
Sincere condolences NW, you are one of the good guys on here and I'm sure that's a reflection on your Dad.
RIP
Love and strength to you and your family.
I also second Richmtb's sentiments above.
I’m truly sorry for your loss Northwind.
Condolences to you and your family, especially at this time of year. Mint sauce says it all. He'll be there in the woods, watching you ride.
So sorry to hear that. You must be devastated. Take care.
NW - It probably doesn't mean much from an internet random, but i just wanted to offer my condolences. Sorry to hear about your loss.
I hope you have people close to you over the coming days, weeks and months who can offer a listening ear and a strong shoulder?
Best Wishes.
Sorry to hear that. I found out over the weekend that my Dad has terminal liver cancer (1 yr at best) and am struggling to process it all, as I haven't spoken to him for 3 years.
Obviously I'm going to see him but it keeps going over how much of a waste the whole time was
My condolences for everyone who has lost or are losing there parents. If you are lucky your parents just seem to go on forever. My dad was brilliant. He passed at 90 after a long active live and good health until his last year. There was an article in UK climbing about him the year he died. I worked with a guy once who mentioned in passing how he hadn't spoken to his dad in years. It hadn't occurred to me that not everyone has great parents.
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https://www.ukclimbing.com/articles/features/john_cullen_creagh_dhu_climber-9547
Very sorry to hear this. My deepest sympathies:(
Thanks a lot folks, I usually like to respond to individuals but I can't do that just now... But I printed these all out and went through them with my mum, who's feeling really isolated right now, and she was really touched. Not just by well wishes but also by the "been there done that's". It really means a lot.
You're not bad, singletrackworld.
Well done Northwind that's just the thing to do for your mum your a great son 🙂
Obviously your father was someone you both loved and you have risen to the challenge of being the man to look after your family.