yet another question on my complicated personal life!
So, i met a girl speed dating.talked to her for ages after the event and got on well.got her number and met her 5 days later for a few drinks when i was out with a mate.we all had a good laugh but i was really tired and not my chirpy self and at the end of the night she went home giving me a peck on the cheek, nothing more.i asked if she wanted to meet up again (cos i was so tired)and that it was fine if she didnt, but she said we should
i really like her, shes such a good laugh, interesting, sexy etc.
shes a bit older than me and single, im single and have two little kids which she doesnt seem bothered by(has dated someone with kids before).
anyhow my dilemma is this, is she interested in me or does she just like me as a friend? my own simplistic outlook on relationships is, if im interested i show it, if im not i dont.simple as that.my mate recons she could well be interested but is just playing it cool and might want to see me doing all the chasing etc.he recons some women are like that.
so have you ever had to do all the chasing with someone who seemed totally uninterested, only for them to then tell you they were actually well keen since you met perhaps?or if somethings gonna happen would you say there would have been a "spark" from the moment we met/got chatting etc and it would have all kicked off instantly??
Difficult to say. HBAHT?
She said she wants to meet up again so meet up again.
Seems straightforward.
Stop complicating things and just go with the flow!
EDIT - CBA, dumb post
oh and for what its worth, because she seemed to be playing it cool, i kind of did the same, and just tried to be a gentleman etc, havent come on to her etc,but i suppose she could be just as confused about me and the signals im giving off?
FFS phone her up and meet her and stop brow beating - we're busy here on other things
Jesus f*cking christ man pull yourself together.
I'd say that you should leave it a bit before jumping back into the frying pan, play with fire by all means but it does burn! (although I understand that ointment is readily available)
so have you ever had to do all the chasing with someone who seemed totally uninterested
Yes & getting married to her did not help either! She still seems totally uninterested 😉
ok, well just tell me your experiences pls...
and i havent got a clue what those abriviations mean...!
why worry if she does or doesn't fancy you?
go for a meal together and be yourself; (by the time the rohipnal has taken effect then it won't matter, unless she has got large hands and an adams apple).
be yourself. when it is right then its right
FFS = for **** sake
are you this indecisive and weak in her company?
ok, ok, blimey.i only wanted some advice.
i dont want to hassle her loads, and her think "hes a real hassle, i cant be doing with this!" i actually have a busy life myself and need my own time anyway.just dont want to give the wrong impresion.plus i only met her the other day....
Just take her out for dinner or something and then ask her back for coffee if she's into you she'll come if not she wont.
Faint heart and all that..
idave. ill be honest, not this bad but probably a bit.i just really like her, thats all.im not obsessing about her, but shes a good one!
FFS ask her, go for the meal then back doors or wee in her shoes depending on outcome HTH
If it is both she is proper dirty
I dont know what Mr sparkles [HBAHT] means weird Darwen webbed finger typo is my guess.
at the end of the night she went home giving me a peck on the cheek
1) How old are both of you?
2) Did you try and kiss her at all?
3) Just forget about it all... go out, have fun and relax and at the end of the night try and kiss her.
Why did you take your mate along with you! That would have put me right off.
HBAHT = How 'Bout A Hand Tug.
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[i]is she interested in me or does she just like me as a friend?[/i]
why don't you ask her? perhaps over lunch?
they're people, women. Y'know, they're not some weird separate species, they're just people...
take her on a picnic but pack nothing but raw meat and gin.
Defo, gaggin' for it
Y'know, they're not some weird separate species, they're just people
easy now there easy seen some crazy stuff on here , bikes with no gears , people saying dont wear helmets , sfb naked but that 😯
I'm with junkyard - I'd like to see the evidence for this assertion...
im 34, she's 40.
i went to kiss her but got an obvious "cheek offered in my direction"
maybee its the kid thing.the guy she was seeing with kids, had his ex go a bit nuts and create when she found out he was seeing her.
youre right, ill try and meet her again and see what she says.just seems a bit like being 15 again, going " i really like you, do you like me?" not really hollywood romance is it?
my mate was there but there was meant to be a big crowd also who then didnt turn up, so it became an uncomfortable three.
LOL at Junkyard
[i]i went to kiss her but got an obvious "cheek offered in my direction"[/i]
On a first date, that's what you get. It don't mean nuffin', what what you expecting? fireworks?
Chill.
What did you expect her to do at the end of the night (with your mate there) , give you tongues?
She said she wants to see you again, that's all you need to know at this stage.
Don't rush into assuming she's perfect - you have only just met her. There is a very good chance she is not. Slow down.
Is this the same woman you wanted to buy a present for the other day?
To be honest I think if you were 'playing it cool/tired' and she still said yeah lets go out for another date that's not really showing disinterest...
What do you guys think girls will just jump on you if they're interested?OyVay. You guys spend too much time egging each other on and living in fantasy worlds. I do hope she's not on her knitting forum talking about how terrible it is you didn't pick her up in a carriage with white horses and your armor gleaming smartly...(get my drift?)
Right... continue going out/making dates. See how goes. See if she continues to show 'quiet' interest in you. One date is hardly enough time to really start thinking about does she really want me...she's probably not her mind up yet.
Is this the same relationship that needed advice over present buying last week, or am I getting confused by all the posts on Relationshipdating track world?
Is this what it would have been like if the fella started talking to the audience in that film "The Truman Show"?
In all honesty you sound a bit neurotic - and in a rush ? It's not that black and white, or not IME (in my experience). Whats the hurry ?
she's 40 and offered you a cheek? forget it she's not interested, women of "a certain age" are ether going or gone, this is why I insist upon having a stocked basement of continually renewed asian/eastern european 18yr olds. Coincidentally the "older" ones tend to make quite good soup.
I do hope she's not on her knitting forum talking about how terrible it is you didn't pick her up in a carriage with white horses and your armor gleaming smartly.
😆
Worse, much worse, just mailed her and she has picked the dress and is planning the menu as we type.
the "older" ones tend to make quite good soup.
As chef or ingredient?
Stop complicating things and just go with the flow!
Haven't read the whole thread. All I want to say is I lost my last woamn through over analysing and overthinking the early stages because it was really important that it worked out. It didn't, and it was me. So like the quote says, just go with the flow. Worry too much and the things you're worrying about will happenn.
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How Big Are Her Toes I think
Torminalis - Memberthe "older" ones tend to make quite good soup.
As chef or ingredient?
Fantastic
Shows how my minds works, I didn't even consider "chef" as an option.
just dont want to give the wrong impresion
What wrong impression is that exactly? If she works out that you want to knock the back out of her, surely that's the correct impression?
In all seriousness, don't worry. She's obviously interested enough to accept a second date, see how it goes from there.
present advise for a bird ive know only 10 days?
Is it the same lady?
Did you buy her something? and are you still planing on paying the mortgage on a house for your other previous / ex wife/ gf and living in the spare room .
Good Luck anyhow hope you get a third date out of it.
What's the problem with getting to know her as a friend first?
Take it easy, chill with her, if things develop further, great, if not it's not meant to be.
So long as you make it clear how much you do like her, that's as much as you should need to do.
In time she my begin to give off signals suggesting you can push for a little more than friendship, look for body language flirty comments.
Making friends with her, need not be a bad thing, if she likes you as a friend, she'll sing your praises to her friends on how much of a nice chap you are.
She'll have single friends too, you may not be her type, but if you're a decent person to her, she may give you one of her fiends to try it with.
Enjoy getting to know her.
sharki, your bang on.frankly if she didnt fancy me id still like to be mates with her, she's such a good laugh.i just didnt want to seem uninterested or like i was wasting her time, but frankly that is my way really,im happy to take my time and get to know her.
ok ill cool it, if it comes my way then fine, if not then fine.
ill see what comes from the next attempt to meet....hopefully something good.we were having quite a flirty chit chat leading up untill the weekend meet, when i was nearly asleep on her!
hey ho, fingers crossed!
I was on a ride with a girl I'm slowly starting to like, she told me she did her ex's barndoors in with a strap on 😯
Does that count as being flirty?
just remember that ALL women are f**cked-up mentalists and you'll be ok
[i]she told me she did her ex's barndoors in with a strap on[/i]
She needs to be unleashed on any STWer who routinely employs the phrase "kick in her backdoors"... 😈
Danny, get amongst it mate seriously.
You have nothing to lose.
when i was nearly asleep on her!
was she aware of this?
I hope this works out well for you, but you are expecting an awful lot from someone you have only met twice! You have a broken relationship and 2 kids trailing behind you and also seem a bit unrealistic and insecure - almost like any woman will do, so long as there is one - and the 'any woman is better than no woman' approach really does not impress women at all.
Of course she is going to be cautious in these circumstances, cautious being normal. Women cant really win can they - if they act at a moderate rate they are 'playing games' or 'not interested' if they sleep with a guy on the first or 2nd date they are viewed as cheap.
As you failed to seal the deal she's probably busy banging your mate
That's exactly right Midnighthour - it's a delicate balance. And IME FWIW she is probably still waiting for confirmation on if you are really still married or not. I need documentary evidence on that one, or at least a house visit.
Faint heart never won fair lady
Old but true.
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I was on a ride with a girl I'm slowly starting to like, she told me she did her ex's barndoors in with a strap onDoes that count as being flirty?
IP you're saying that you like her more since the imparting of that delicate scene?
Midnight hour, thats good advice.its not a case of unrealistic, im happy to date her for months before anything happens...if shes interested.shes worth the wait belive me, but also i dont want to play it cool and she then thinks im not really interested and wasting her time.
Hels.good point also.i could just be lying.she doesnt know if its all true.
anyway shes up for my dinner invite for tommorrow so i hope all goes well!
anyway shes up for my dinner invite for tommorrow so i hope all goes well!
regular 30 minute updates?
fit, single, sane.... pick two.
Auntie C_G here.
I remember your last thread and would suggest you need time to work things out in your head before moving on. Of course if you just want a SB or FB (whatever they're called) then OK.
Give yourself a break, you've had a tough time, and you really don't want to be making bad decisions.
On a first date, that's what you get. It don't mean nuffin', what what you expecting? fireworks?
You'd get fireworks on a good first date...
I just hope she's not a lurker on this forum!
You'd get fireworks on a good first date...
Does anyone know of a good firework retailer in the Newbury area?