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rob2 · 2018-11-11T06:03:23Z

just looking for some Singletrack hive advice as I suspect people have been through this. about 4 weeks ago I found the text messages on my wife’s phone on Saturday morning as I got the kids breakfast ready. They flashed up on the screen while it was charging. A man who she works with. Pretty hard core (literally) stuff going on. we have two kids (8 and 10). I’ve moved out as she thinks that’s better for the kids. She said she did it because she liked the attention from him and until the last year hadn’t ever looked at anyone but me. She’s not interested in trying with me (we had one counselling session) and is moving into rented accommodation in December and starting divorce proceedings. Apparently he’s not interested in her now. Whether that’s true I don’t know. How on earth do you get through this? The people I’m most upset for are the kids. They’ll go from a family and a home, to two family’s and two homes. Financially we’ll both be screwed as we can’t afford to buy each other out the current house and houses prices are such that we’ll both be mortgaged to the hilt. I’m 45 and she’s 38. It’s a monumental mess. I’m told it gets better but does anyone have any advice?

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Posted : 14/11/2018 5:32 pm

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how is it better for the kids? If you have moved out you are still paying a mortgage and paying rent so you're financially crippled because of your wife having the affair. I'd not move out if it was me but then I do the bulk of the childcare. Seems like your wife is getting all the benefits. .

Posted : 14/11/2018 6:05 pm

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friends with benefits as well.!

Posted : 14/11/2018 10:22 pm

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