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I want to ask some questions on here but worried family members might come across the thread whilst searching google so might seem a bit obtuse about my wording. I'm interested if anyone knows of any condition of the mind that might cause someone to take their own life unexpectedly, or any websites that people could direct me to. Lady in mid thirties seemingly okay & good life etc ended it all, written diary that had rapidly deteriorated & last note that is not readable just a scrawl. Distraught family looking for answers* Lady in question had previously been in forces but I don't know her deployment history if that could have any bearing.
*my limited experience is that there often aren't answers,but just in case I am wrong would like some pointers, thanks
Im not a professional but the things that spring to mind for me are the suicide of a friends sister, she had no history of previous mental health problems but took her life after becoming distressed oer a short period of time. Strangely her sister hadsuffered significant mh problems for a long time but was rarely suicidal.
[Url] http://www.nejm.org/doi/full/10.1056/NEJM198911023211801 [/url] this article shows and increase in suicidal ideation with panic symptoms.
My brother has suffered depression and various problems over the years but was only suicidal on one occasion. There seemed to be almost a switch that was flicked inside him, luckily he was stopped
However the other thing that springs to mind is Larium - MOD have been criticised for their use of this antimalarial. Maybe worth looking into if she was given it
People are very good at hiding their mental health issues until they can no longer do so, which means it often appears out of the blue to others. I walked out of a job one day, finished a board meeting and then told the CEO I was having a nervous breakdown and walked out. Had been very ill for months and if I stayed much longer I was sure the job was going to kill me. No one at work had any idea and thought I was joking until someone told them afterwards that I was hospitalised the next day...
Feeling suicidal isn't something people share with others. I was feeling that way for a large part of the past 2 and a half years until this summer, and couldn't tell anyone. Frankly, most people don't want to know when you're suffering like that so you don't tell anyone.
Unfortunately it is a lot more common than people think.
Im a manic depressive and can go to bed feeling ok but can wake up in the middle of the night in a place that makes the pits of hell look wonderful. For myself I have no sense of reality at this time and your own mind can be the most cruel, evil b****** that ever graced this planet and you cant turn it off! This can last for weeks/months.
I kept this hidden from the outside world (a divorce, lost friends etc etc shows I wasn't any good at it) but one day in my mid thirties I woke up in hospital after attempting suicide and not being able to remember doing it.
I was lucky having had wonderful help since but the initial part of admitting you have have a mental health problem kept me from seeking help years ago as even though you know something is wrong you tell yourself to man up and get on with it!
Basically you will never know the true reason for suicide as the fragility of the mind once a downward spiral starts can be terrifying and trying to find answers at this stage can be very difficult for the relatives as they will never truly find them.
The charity "mind" are worth a call if you want any more help and I believe they offer counselling for relatives.
Thank you all for taking time to respond, much as I thought really, very hard on relatives & will pass on suggestion to contact Mind, stay safe one & all & thanks again for sharing experiences.