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[Closed] Neighbour feeding and stealing our cat WWSTD?

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Nothing wrong with 80s Sierras.

I also thought that Ford should have done a limited edition Sierra Leone and Vauxhall could have responded with the Nova Scotia.


 
Posted : 18/08/2020 1:54 pm
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Nothing wrong with 80s Sierras

That's your opinion, but no-one wants to looks at 5 of the shit boxes every day.


 
Posted : 18/08/2020 1:54 pm
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Get one of those cameras that live feeds from the cats collar. YOu will be able to see exactly where he is going and who he is seeing...


 
Posted : 18/08/2020 1:55 pm
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Just share the cat - make it a Uni-mog.


 
Posted : 18/08/2020 1:55 pm
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Cats choose to live wherever they like the best. They clearly like living there more than in your house with is always going to be difficult to accept. Maybe it is a more peaceful setting for the cat?


 
Posted : 18/08/2020 1:55 pm
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keeps 5 (!) 1980s Sierras on his drive

That explains why he hates you.

He doesn't like your cavalier attitude.


 
Posted : 18/08/2020 1:57 pm
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That explains why he hates you.

He doesn’t like your cavalier attitude.

You need to be escorted off this thread for that.


 
Posted : 18/08/2020 1:58 pm
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Get a new cat. Let him steal that too. And then another one. And another.

Eventually your neighbour will be so overwhelmed by cats he'll be begging you to keep one.


 
Posted : 18/08/2020 1:58 pm
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Scare your neighbour by turning your cat into a ghost cat.

This can be achieved by strapping a slice a buttered toast to it's back to make it float, and then covering it in a white sheet.

How to make a cat float


 
Posted : 18/08/2020 2:03 pm
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You need to be escorted off this thread for that.

Does the op’s neighbour have a collect of Fiesta’s in the house to compliment the cats?


 
Posted : 18/08/2020 2:07 pm
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and despite sometimes being locked in a box (something it hates when going to the vet) when visiting the neighbour it still prefers wandering in there than waiting for you to let it in…

@poly - He hates cat boxes...he was sat in a cardboard box which the neighbour had put down for him. Subtle difference.

This time of year we have a lounge window left open, he and his sister come and go as they please. Well apart from when he's shut in the neighbour's house.

He's booked in for the cat-door microchip next week.

We would use the normal catflap, but as I said if we leave it unlocked the neighbour's other cars invade us and steal our cat food! They also piss everywhere.

Cats choose to live wherever they like the best. They clearly like living there more than in your house with is always going to be difficult to accept. Maybe it is a more peaceful setting for the cat?

@kerley - he's sat on my lap purring like a lion as I type this.
The neighbour is luring him in with food and then shutting the door.
Cats roam yes, but they also think with their tummies.
Our neighbour is going out of his way to feed him and pet him, to try and make him stay in his house.
If he wasn't feeding him then our cat wouldn't be going over there.


 
Posted : 18/08/2020 2:07 pm
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Okay, you keep telling yourself that


 
Posted : 18/08/2020 2:09 pm
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Is it an old Ford Puma?


 
Posted : 18/08/2020 2:10 pm
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@kerley - oh cock off.
I've had him since a kitten, and he's generally very happy.
Will sleep in our daughter's bed at night, and is a very soppy, neutered boy cat.
Not as intelligent as his sister mind 😆
This whole situation is probably confusing the hell out him.
Do you not see anything wrong with the neighbour's behaviour at all?


 
Posted : 18/08/2020 2:15 pm
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Just tell your neighbour that you'll give him a bloody smack if he continues to piss about with your beloved cat.

I'd be considering how to ruin him if it was me. I'm very protective about our outdoor cat (sleeps in at night) especially now he only has one eye.


 
Posted : 18/08/2020 2:22 pm
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That’s your opinion, but no-one wants to looks at 5 of the shit boxes every day.

Your neighbour does, that is at least one person


 
Posted : 18/08/2020 2:22 pm
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Genuine answer.
Firstly if he is locking your cat in his house, against yours and the cats will, then I would think there is an RSPCA or police issue. I would start down this route, including telling him face to face and via letter.
I would definitely go for a collar-tag operated catflap, providing ease of access to 'home' and all the comforts.


 
Posted : 18/08/2020 2:25 pm
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Your neighbour does, that is at least one person

True, at least they're not Audis 😉
Genuinely, the Sierras bother me not in the slightest. It's just a bit odd!

Firstly if he is locking your cat in his house, against yours and the cats will, then I would think there is an RSPCA or police issue. I would start down this route, including telling him face to face and via letter

Yep, I've just been looking this up, and it is an offence under the 1968 Theft Act to purposefully try and steal or deprive someone if their pet.
I think a legal sounding letter through his letter box might help matters along.


 
Posted : 18/08/2020 2:26 pm
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If he wasn't lonely and making a bit of an appeal for attention by feeding him then our cat wouldn’t be going over there.

Perhaps? Sounds like a lonely old guy to me who at least gets some attention from the cats and a bit from their owners too.


 
Posted : 18/08/2020 2:27 pm
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Let him keep it and get a dog, they are far more loyal 😉


 
Posted : 18/08/2020 2:28 pm
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Seriously, I thought that you should try the shouty approach but then thought again. Loneliness is a real issue for older people. Perhaps head over there with a couple of beers or box of biscuits, ask to have a chat and just spend a bit of time with him. Ask how he is doing, explain how his behaviour is upsetting your family, especially your kids. Invite him to come round and see the cat but be firm that you would like him to stop or you will be forced to follow it up with the police.

Perhaps a bit of time and kindness might be all that it needs


 
Posted : 18/08/2020 2:36 pm
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Send my partner round. Had to do this with a neighbour where we used to live. She just kept going round and very politely demanding they return our cat.


 
Posted : 18/08/2020 2:38 pm
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Perhaps head over there with a couple of beers or box of biscuits, ask to have a chat and just spend a bit of time with him.

We get on great with whole close. Elderly neighbours opposite have looked after our girls in the past.
My wife goes on the close 'ladies lunches' (average age 75+).
Had everyone over for BBQs in previous years
I've helped out with gardening and painting jobs in various houses.

We've tried being friendly to him, but he never comes to any of the close events or BBQs and mostly stays in his house, apart from when I see him out driving one of his cars.

Yes, I suspect he is lonely, but he seems to like it like that and doesn't really interact much with anyone else on the close...

Apart from printed off and annotated planning applications he disagrees with (this happened last week) Not our application I hasten to add!


 
Posted : 18/08/2020 2:44 pm
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Nothing wrong with 80s Sierras.

A collection of Fiestas and Escorts would have been better.


 
Posted : 18/08/2020 3:00 pm
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neighbour’s other cars invade us

You clearly need to get a Jensen Interceptor


 
Posted : 18/08/2020 3:02 pm
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This presents the perfect opportunity to get a dog instead. Or just rename the cat Arthur, that’s what my friend did when his started spending half its time at the neighbours.


 
Posted : 18/08/2020 3:04 pm
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Next time you go to retrieve the cat, take his telly. When he complains tell him you thought it was lonely because he wasn't watching it.


 
Posted : 18/08/2020 3:04 pm
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This presents the perfect opportunity to get a dog instead.

...or a bigger cat.


 
Posted : 18/08/2020 3:07 pm
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From the OP it sounds like his motivation is that he thinks the cat isn't being looked after properly and he's doing it a favour.

Cat ownership aside, the problem (and one that probably hasn't even occurred to him) is that either the cat gets fed twice what it should be eating and gets overweight, or it's off its food when it comes home and you think it might be ill. I had exactly this years ago, my cat wasn't eating to the point where I was getting really worried and considering a trip to the vets for a check up, then I caught the old woman next door feeding her. (She was feeding her random nonsense like cornflakes but that's another story.)

If his motivation were wanting a(nother) cat, he could just get one from all manner of places. I once did a site visit at an RSPCA branch in Yorkshire, they took a phone call about once every ten minutes and the vast, vast majority of calls were "can you take a cat?" to which the answer was "no, we're full up with the buggers." Half an hour before the office closed some mouth-breather dropped off a box of kittens in the car park, one of the staff ended up taking them home as there was nothing else they could do with them. There's no shortage of, gag me with a spoon, "fur babies looking for their forever home."

Could just be that he's losing his marbles of course.


 
Posted : 18/08/2020 3:23 pm
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Bum your neighbour with a hammered sausage...?


 
Posted : 18/08/2020 3:26 pm
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Bum your neighbour with a hammered sausage…?

Too late. He already has a garden full of bangers.


 
Posted : 18/08/2020 3:28 pm
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Send my partner round. Had to do this with a neighbour where we used to live. She just kept going round and very politely demanding they return our cat.

That strategy backfires when the neighbour starts feeding your partner.


 
Posted : 18/08/2020 3:42 pm
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Park a Unimog in his drive?


 
Posted : 18/08/2020 3:43 pm
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Sell the cat and buy a dog! Oh and train it to growl at the neighbour too! 😉


 
Posted : 18/08/2020 3:52 pm
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So you let your property wander the neighborhood, shitting where it likes and killing the the local wildlife and then wonder why it's popped off to someone who's feeding it.

You may think you're the owner in fact your just a member of it's staff.

Either keep it indoors or realise it does what it wants.

I find it bizarre that cat owners seem to think it's fine to allow their little predators roam the streets.  If someone did the same with dogs or even sheep their would be outcry.


 
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From the OP it sounds like his motivation is that he thinks the cat isn’t being looked after properly and he’s doing it a favour.

Thats probably more the cat than the neighbour. They are excellent at pretending to be destitute even when they are obviously well kept and well fed. At one time our cats were leaning on at least five other households for food every day - on a warm day with the windows open you could hear them whining for food and being fed by people in every direction who thought they were in someway hungry and neglected (despite being really quite portly) and who were unaware that the cats were just happy to eat until they puked and then go and bother someone else for a bit.

But if the cat is doing more than just getting a few tidbits and being treated as a regular visitors just talk to the neighbour about other costs - if there are insurances or other costs then if they are treating the cat like its theirs then explain that they have to take the responsibility too. Tell them insurances are due for renewal or that check ups or precriptions are due and ask them what percentage of the bills they want to pay if the cat is spending large amounts of time at their house.


 
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Edit: ignore me, wrong thread to be a joyless Victor Meldrew in!


 
Posted : 18/08/2020 4:05 pm
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Are the Sierra's all VED'd and insured if they're scattered on the close?


 
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Fyi for the grumpy amongst you, Our cats are pretty good pooing and hunting wise.

Even though they're both outdoor cats they got used to using a litter tray at a previous house, so both do most (though I admit probably not all!) Of their poos in the tray.
The rest seems to be done in our herb garden based on what I find in there.

Boy cat has never in 14 years brought in a kill. He either kills em away from the house and eats the catch, or (I think this is more likely) is a terrible hunter.

His sister seems to exclusively hunt rats!
There is a small holding over the road, and she trots over there regularly and brings back rats nearly as big as her. Then eats the heads. Yuck.


 
Posted : 18/08/2020 4:28 pm
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Keep it indoors?


 
Posted : 18/08/2020 4:35 pm
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Yep, I’ve just been looking this up, and it is an offence under the 1968 Theft Act to purposefully try and steal or deprive someone if their pet.
I think a legal sounding letter through his letter box might help matters along.

no neighbourhood dispute in the history of time has ever been helpfully resolved with a letter highlighting an Act of parliament. Especially when the law has been determined from the internet...

We’ve tried being friendly to him, but he never comes to any of the close events or BBQs and mostly stays in his house, apart from when I see him out driving one of his cars.

Yes, I suspect he is lonely, but he seems to like it like that and doesn’t really interact much with anyone else on the close…

You seem to have decided that your version of normal is the convention he should conform to.


 
Posted : 18/08/2020 4:41 pm
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Keep it indoors

We will now for a week or two.
He's an old boy, enjoys chilling out on the windowsills in the sun.


 
Posted : 18/08/2020 4:41 pm
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You seem to have decided that your version of normal is the convention he should conform to.

I really don't give a hoot. He can conform or not conform to any social conventions he likes.
I was only pointing out we'd tried being friendly.

The only thing I want him to stop doing is feeding my bloody cat!

Oh and not feeding seagulls. But I imagine even you would agree with that one.


 
Posted : 18/08/2020 4:44 pm
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The only thing I want him to stop doing is feeding my bloody cat!

Perhaps the only thing he wanted was for the neighbourhood cats to stop crapping on his lawn and to enjoy some seagull spotting in the privacy of his own garden?

At least this way he's enjoying some feline companionship, even if his lawn is still littered with turds and he has to dispose of the occasional seagull head from his doormat.

/devil's advocate


 
Posted : 18/08/2020 4:55 pm
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I doubt the cat feeding is going to stop because you say please.

Legal route beckons.

Plus, that proximity activated cat flap doodah.

Are all them Sierras MOT'd / taxed / insured? Isn't that a DVLA public service these days?


 
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