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Delighted to hear it fmp, sounds like his going in the right direction, give him a big hug from all of us!


 
Posted : 22/02/2014 8:34 pm
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Pleased everything's going pretty good matey! Those PICU & HDU nurses are awesumz aren't they?

They really are. Everbody from the Doctors, nurses and the support staff and cleaners have been amazing.


 
Posted : 22/02/2014 8:39 pm
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[quoteJust had a 28 weeker. Been in an incubator for weeks.

How is your little one doing, hope he or she it's improving?


 
Posted : 22/02/2014 8:41 pm
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Glad it's getting better. We had something similar though not as extreme and it's hard. The job those people do is amazing, when I have money I will be making some sort of gesture. Ours wouldn't feed, wasn't very responsive and got taken in and onto a drip, Mum couldn't leave the bed so I was down there all beardy and highlandish trying to talk to nurses in Spanish and look like I knew what I was doing holding a sick baby. It was a few long, long days and then everything got better. Thoughts go out for you but seriously those people will look after everything, although it sounds like he is also lucky to have a dad who knows what he is doing. I hope things sort themselves out quickly and you can get home and start enjoying life inside the baby bubble!
Typing one handed as my chubby wee monster is sucking my arm waiting for her bottle! A funny story from our experience... Our was born at 10lbs, in the intensive care all the other babies were less than half that. The looks we got were hilarious, I honestly think people thought wtf is that [i]thing[/i] doing here, is [i]it[/i] going to eat the the babies!


 
Posted : 22/02/2014 8:49 pm
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He starts really screaming and his breathing had changed, so we took him to A and E. His blood sugar wasn't even reading. On the way to the paediatric ward he became unresponsive, went limp and was barely breathing. I had to run to the ward clutching my first baby thinking he was going to die.

That happened to my son, and is how we discovered he was allergic to diary. He's fine now, and 5. It also happened to my 1yo daughter last December 27th, we are working with Great Ormond Street to find out why in her case, as she's fine with diary. Because it's unresolved I currently find it hard to sleep at night worrying that she might seize while I'm asleep and I can't help her. TBH I'm shit scared on a daily basis and I can't believe it's happened with both our kids.

What others have said are correct, they are tougher than you think, and the nurses and medics are very very capable at looking after them. Your little un is in the right place. Good luck fella, I'm sure you little un will be fine and keeping you awake for all the right reasons. Be strong for them.


 
Posted : 22/02/2014 8:57 pm
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Ace news.


 
Posted : 22/02/2014 9:02 pm
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Kryton57, I really hope you find out what's causing issues for your daughter.

Dougbasque, your comment made me chuckle. Chubby babies are the cutest ones though.

He's started to have small issues with his oxygen levels again. Just spent time calming my partner down. Can't begin to imagine how it's been on her. Just been hugging and reassuring her. Will try and get a midwife to come and check up on her soon.

Thanks once again all for the concern, posts and moral support


 
Posted : 22/02/2014 9:18 pm
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Hey.

All the best mate, once they start taking the aid equipment away its onwards and upwards.

My second was born at 33 weeks unexpectedly. Let me just say, if we had 15 minutes of traffic, she wouldve been born in the car. On intensive care for 3 weeks after birth with feeding tube and all the other gadgets.

We managed to take her home with the feeding tube still in use as its really not a massive task. Where are you? Keep pushing for home tube feeding scheme if it comes to that.

Youll treasure him SO much when you're home, sometimes whispering things to him to tell him how precious he is...I certainly did with mine 😀


 
Posted : 22/02/2014 9:19 pm
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Just had a 28 weeker. Been in an incubator for weeks. Shit happens.

27+5er here. Its a rollercoaster and some of the hardest days of my life.

Hope you all come out the other end alright.


 
Posted : 22/02/2014 9:22 pm
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During the 3 weeks ours had ups and downs with various things. Oxygen levels, temperature, gaining weight, losing weight. They monitor it all so closely, they dont miss anything.


 
Posted : 22/02/2014 9:23 pm
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sometimes whispering things to him to tell him how precious he is

Hell, yes! I remember standing on the Atlantic coast, with Little Miss CFH in my arms. I told her how much she means to me, while the waves broke. She looked at me with her stunning blue eyes and smiled. She was six months old at the time. Could she have known what I was saying? Who knows.

Stay strong. It will be worth every tiny little bit of effort.


 
Posted : 22/02/2014 9:28 pm
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Fantastic news, made my day that. Nice work on Mum reassurance too despite your own stresses.

They may have to put a tube in if his intake doesn't improve.

I had that, plus another one to breathe - chicks dig scars so don't worry if that happens 😀


 
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Babies are incredibly tough little buggers. If ours is anything to go by he'll hopefully totally surprise you by going from not being very well at all to awake, alert and ready to go home in the space of a day!

Hang in there, keep talking to the missus, and keep us all posted. Already looking forward to the post where you tell us all you're taking him home.


 
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Thinking of you all. Our first couldn't get oxygen levels up and ended up in theHDU. It was a weird feeling, one min ute you have your new baby n your arms, the next she is whipped away from you.

Hope all is going in the right direction as it did for us.


 
Posted : 22/02/2014 10:40 pm
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All my best wishes to the three of you.


 
Posted : 22/02/2014 10:57 pm
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Best wishes to you three, nice name EBEN


 
Posted : 22/02/2014 11:01 pm
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Had a minor freak out earlier as he wouldn't wake to feed and didn't kick off at all when nappy changing. Lovely Doctor came in, took a good look and said you've only seen him ill / agitated, you may just have a lazy baby. Now setting alarm to prod him awake for the next feed.

Became obsessed with the bloody heart rate / oxygen level meter too. Oxygen kept dropping and setting the alarm off. Turns out they're a tad unreliable!

Can't believe the support you guys are giving. I've been showing my partner some of the posts and she was shocked (in a good way) at how supportive strangers on the internet can be.

Best wishes to all who are going through similar or worse. Can't wait to post a picture of my son from his home.


 
Posted : 22/02/2014 11:49 pm
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Pics from home will be great, but don't rush it fella. Just be there for Missus (as you are doing), post random thoughts on here and when money-bucket is home, then post a pic and we'll all get a bottle of something out to toast you all.


 
Posted : 22/02/2014 11:59 pm
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How's it going this morning OP? Hopefully all good.


 
Posted : 23/02/2014 8:59 am
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That's fatherhood. There is no other feeling like it.

As a new father, I concur. I'm sobbing just fro reading the OP!


 
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Became obsessed with the bloody heart rate / oxygen level meter too. Oxygen kept dropping and setting the alarm off. Turns out they're a tad unreliable!

A week in hospital listening to those and the IV monitors going off every few minutes all night almost drove me nuts 🙁

Got a week old miss blobby jr at home here and she is quite lethargic, needs a good stirring to wake up for feeding a lot of the time. It's not unusual apparently!


 
Posted : 23/02/2014 9:21 am
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Got a week old miss blobby jr at home here and she is quite lethargic, needs a good stirring to wake up for feeding a lot of the time. It's not unusual apparently!

Yes, miniZ seemed to be a narcoleptic when it came to feeding. She seems well enough three weeks later...


 
Posted : 23/02/2014 9:23 am
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A week in hospital listening to those and the IV monitors going off every few minutes all night almost drove me nuts

Miss Kryton Jnrs was the same. After 2 days I'd worked out the difference between a genuine alarm and the ability to reset a false one myself.


 
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I did end up resetting my boys one quite a few times but the other three babies on the ward... 🙁


 
Posted : 23/02/2014 9:57 am
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A week in hospital listening to those and the IV monitors going off every few minutes all night almost drove me nuts

108 days has burnt those alarms into my subconscious. I can hear them from 100yds away.

Hope things are improving.


 
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It's reading posts like these that puts life into perspective.

If I've had a rough day at work or something's not quite gone to plan, I'll occasionally have a moan to the missus about never having any good luck, blah, blah, blah.

The fact is, I've got 3 wonderful healthy kids who have never really given me any health concerns. Granted 2 of them had to have assisted births but that was it. As I said, the OP and some of the others that followed makes me appreciate just how lucky I am.

Great news on the improvements with Eben's condition btw, this time next year you'll probably be praying for him to sit quietly and give you 5 minutes peace! 😀


 
Posted : 23/02/2014 10:28 am
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Overwhelmed by the kindness shown by you all. More good news today! Eben has been for another X-Ray and it showed, what was described as sprinkles of salt throughout his lungs.

This is either an infection or michonium(?) swallowed by him. He was covered in the stuff when he arrived. The midwife said he was the dirtiest baby she had seen in years.

He has so much more colour now, is feeding better and is really alert. Mum has been getting more rest too.

I know I keep mentioning it, but I am genuinely moved by the kindness you have all shown.


 
Posted : 23/02/2014 4:52 pm
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Fantastic news, you can breathe now if you want!!! Pop some photos on when you get chance!


 
Posted : 23/02/2014 5:27 pm
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Great news. Kids bring out the best and worst emotions (as in they bring you such happiness, and occasionally they worry the hell out of you).

Pop some photos on when you get chance!

Agree, everyone loves a baby picture


 
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Those PICU & HDU nurses are awesumz aren't they?

I lived with a couple of PICU nurses for a few years - they were by far the messiest women I've ever met. Washing-up would approach bio-hazard critical levels before it was addressed, the contents of untidy bedrooms would spread far and wide, personal lives & love affairs in constant disarray, etc etc.

But I never felt the slightest inclination to take 'em to task, despite the unending domestic chaos. However grim a shift I had at work ('adult' nursing), it was [i]nothing[/i] compared to what they faced on a bad day. I sure as hell wasn't going to ask them to tidy up. 😀

OP - it might not feel like it right now, but you'll draw strength from these days. All the best to you and your new family.


 
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top news funkmasterp

now that the littleuns on the up, I can say this as it wouldve been in poor taste before

but you shouldve called the thread

'need to vent(ilate)'

igmc


 
Posted : 23/02/2014 7:23 pm
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That made me laugh Kimbers! How do you actually post pictures on here? Staying awake tonight and doing the little guys late feeds. My missus is shattered from the past few days and I am concerned about her mental state. Concerns will be raised, but I think sleep is a good start.


 
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Hi, I've been following your story for the last couple of days - I'm so glad your little one seems to be doing better, as has been noted they are strong little buggers. By recognising how sick he was and getting him to the hossie you saved him, kudos to you my man.

Sleep is good, gives the body and mind time to reboot..

My thoughts are with you, I'll keep looking out for your updates...

Dave


 
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Keep talking to the missus, it's a seriously tough time for mums and they can be all over the place emotionally even without added complications. Hope she's doing ok.


 
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Another one here who can identify with what you are going through..

First daughter was born via unplanned C-Section, and all was good. I went home for a shower and came back to hospital to find she'd been rushed into SCBU due to her blood sugar level plummeting. It was very scary at the time but you'll be surprised how quickly you get your head around it when they are on the mend.

Our second daughters arrival was a different story altogether..
My wife went into labor a month early, and all was good (baby was just about to pop out) when my wife started feeling some crazy pain down one side (had an epidural in but it wasn't working) I thought she was having a stroke.. and then the baby went into distress, with an irregular, faint heart beat.
The next thing I knew we were running down the corridor to Theatre, as my wife went through the doors I was told to get some scrubs on, and they'd give me a shout when I could go in.
I got gowned up, and waited, and waited..
after almost an hour sitting on a plastic chair outside theatre I'd pretty much convinced myself that one or both of them were dead..
Then a group of nurses wheeled an incubator containing a tiny baby out of theatre, and said all was good with the baby, and 'someone would be out to talk to you about your wife in a minute'

I slumped back into the chair, convinced she had died on the table.
another 30 minutes passed, and them a team of people wheeled my wife out of theatre on a bed.
She was still asleep, but still alive.
The first thing the obstetric surgeon said was 'don't have anymore kids'
He then went onto explain that my wife's previous C-section scar had given way during delivery, and the baby had literally fallen out of the uterus inside her, and was drowning in blood.
On a scale of 1-10 for measuring signs of life, the baby had measured 1/10 and needed to be resuscitated repeatedly to bring her back to life.

My wife had over 200 stiches, two blood transfusions and 3 days in HDU.

Our Daughter spent 8 days in SCBU, and had her stomach pumped 15 times due to it being full of blood.
She was starved of oxygen for 8 minutes, but thankfully there was no lasting damage.

The doctors told us that statistically there was only a 1 in 300 chance that both mother and baby would have survived that situation, and it was the first 100% success they'd had at that hospital.

My daughters are now 6 and 3, and you'd never know there had been any issues with either.

Sorry to hijack your post, but it is still good to talk.
Cheers and good luck,

Matt.


 
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OP,

great to see things are on the up. My second was ill after a very traumatic birth, he was in special care for 4 days. He's fitting fit now, 1st birthday in 2 weeks :-).

one word of warning though, make sure you wife is OK. My wife bottled up a lot with regards to the birth and Noah's illness, shes been off work for 3 months now with Post natal depression, it has been very hard on all of us for quite some time now.

maybe suggest she talks to someone, you too maybe?

all the best, kids are great 🙂

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He then went onto explain that my wife's previous C-section scar had given way during delivery, and the baby had literally fallen out of the uterus inside her, and was drowning in blood.

Holy shit that is grim. great to hear they both fully recovered.


 
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Been following this one, nice to see the baby's getting better!

freeagent - 😯


 
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Well, I wasn't expecting this. We have just passed the 6 month mark and this thread has bought on a wave of emotion... erm... dust.

Fantastic news that the littl'un is on the up.


 
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Freeagent... good god that sounds horrific. Relieved to get to the end of that and see it was a good outcome.


 
Posted : 24/02/2014 5:45 pm
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Bloody hell free agent.

Funkmasterp,, I'm glad things are improving.


 
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Our twin boys were born a couple of weeks premature. Both ended up in incubators. Both were quite ill to start with and I remember feeling as you did sat between the two of the thinking how small they were. (4.5lb each)
They are now 13 and a right pair.
They've been through some strife, broken bones, sticks sticking out of legs etc. and they are both perfectly fine and healthy.
One doctor once said to me about children's injuries and ailments " as long as all the parts are in the same room, they'll be fine!"


 
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Going much better today, last bloods came back with normalised infection levels. It's now monitoring to make sure the antibiotics do there job and building his strength up.

Reading what some of you have been through, freeagent in particular, has helped me to realise that in some respects we have been lucky.

The missus is improving too, had a good chat with a midwife today and we have an awesome nurse on shift tonight.

The main things I have taken away from this are how much I adore this little fella. How much I love my partner and how bloody brilliant the staff here at Macclesfield hospital are.

Once again, thanks for the moral support, care, laughs and the sharing of your experiences. They have truly helped me over this last week. Once I figure out how to post photos from my phone I'll do so 🙂


 
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Dirty baby
, he's going to follow in his fathers tracks and ride MTB. A real mudplugger by the sounds of things.

Glad he's on the mend, had a similar (but not quite so heavy) experience with my second at 4 days old, off to hospital, lost bodyweight, limp, lethargic. Turned out Mrs Gogg's (who was breastfeeding thanks to the "breast-nazis") milk hadn't really come in and the poor little soul was being starved.

While we waited in a paediatric A&E, I got a bottle of formula from them and fed her, saved her from being intubated and one night under UV to improve the jaundice, we had her back home. Horrible time, but fortunately it all came good.

Parenting, it's like biking, pleasure and pain in equal measure.


 
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Freeagent - my wife came close to that. She ended up with a planned Cesarian for our second child - they said during it that if she'd have gone into labour she would have suffered a similar problem to your wife as her uterus had stretched so much around the scar tissue from the first cesarian it was paper thin.

Given all the possible problems there are with pregnancy and birth I'm always amazed at how successful humanity has been as a species.


 
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Glad he's on the mend, had a similar (but not quite so heavy) experience with my second at 4 days old, off to hospital, lost bodyweight, limp, lethargic. Turned out Mrs Gogg's (who was breastfeeding thanks to the "breast-nazis") milk hadn't really come in and the poor little soul was being starved.

We had that with our first, and "breast-nazis" is probably the only way to describe how I feel towards those people. We even had a Dr say to us on the ward when we were in whilst he recovered "Well you know breast IS best...", I nearly decked the chump.

Do whatever you need to do to get the little blighter well again, it sounds like you are but just always remember that if you are not sure or happy about something, ask. There may be wrong answers but there are no wrong questions.


 
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