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He's a cabbie back home. Got taken out by a woman in a Mondeo, car smashed, even his seat in pieces. He's in hospital, broken neck in 2 places, broken rib(s), brain hemorrhage of unknown as yet seriousness, etc etc etc.
I am sh***ing myself, it was so close to him not being here, damn! And to think that I spoke to him last night on the phone...
I wept like a kid when I realised I didn't know if he was going to be able to walk. I do now, he SHOULD be ok, will know more tomorrow.
I don't know what I should be doing now. Told my mum to ring anytime she wanted to chat, told my wife to leave me alone (I tend to be really nasty when stressed out and there's no need for her suffering), put the kid to bed, cracked a beer open. It all makes me feel a bit better but not much. Hell, I'm so empty-headed right now.
Sorry to have bothered you, I always write when I'm sad. And I really am now.
Fingers crossed for you mate. 🙁
Best wishes. Is back home a long way away?
That's really awful - hope he recovers ok.
[i]I don't know what I should be doing now[/i]
Go see your Dad
Best wishes for a speedy recovery
Good luck to you and your Dad - hope he mends quickly.
Take a deep breath, stop being an arse to your wife, and relax.
It will become clearer over the next 24 hours or so how much damage he has sustained, and in the mean time, lay off the booze, stop panicking and be calm.
I'm an intensive care nurse and i see people in your state and in his state for a living; it's not easy, but try to stop and think rationally.
Despair is a useless emotion, so don't despair....
Wait and see how things work out, aim to provide support to your mum; however bad you feel, she's feeling a hundred times worse, but can't show it to you.
Be calm.
...and give me a shout on here if you want to talk about what you learn when info is available.
Rescue remedy-it sorts out shock. Get some from boots tomo on the way up to see your Dad and try to hold your Mums hand through this.
Alcohol isn't going to help.
How far away is he? Make plans to go see him - NOW!!!
(My dads funeral was on Saturday. Trust me - you don't want to wait.
All the best - as nickc says, go see 'im
Kris - that's such sad news. You must go and see him, and support your mum too.
Give your wife a hug as well.
Do hope that your dad will get through it.
CG
All the best, man. I don't know how I would react if I heard my dad was in that situation. Let us know how it goes, would you? We'll be rooting for your dad making a full and speedy recovery!
Crikey says wise words. Its an awful situation. I hope he will be OK.
My mantra
" if in panic or in doubt
Run in circles scream and shout
Then you go and sort it out"
so you have had your scream and shout now. Hard as it is you are going to need to support your mum. There is nothing you can do for your dad right now but you can do something for your mum - give her support. It all depends on circumstance but perhaps you could consider going to her tonight ( or is she at the bedside? ) maybe she will need you tomorrow. Don't wait to be asked. Give her the support without being asked.
good luck.
Fingers crossed for both you and your Dad
What cg said.
Fingers crossed for you
What cg said.
Fingers crossed for you
In the nicest possible way - MTFU.
[b]crikey[/b] is correct, despair will help no one. Least of all your Dad.
Be strong for your Mum and listen very carfully to the NHS staff when they speak to you. They are the best in the world and will do everything to make your Dad well again.
Sorry to have bothered you, I always write when I'm sad. And I really am now.
Don't be silly, we are all likeminded, caring (well most of us are) folk. When one of our number is down for whatever reason we are here to take the piss. Sorry, i mean help!
Hang in there dude.
It must be very difficult for you if you're far away. Try not to fear the worst, wait and see - the hospital will be doing everything necessary for him. As mentioned, alcohol won't help you. Good luck.
Fingers crossed for all of you - go home, support your family and lay off the booze! Good luck!
Stay positive for your family. I hope for the best for you
I wish I could go and see him, it's some 2000 miles and no plane tickets before Thursday.
I know I shouldn't be panicking, I'm kinda calm but restless. Will ring Mum before she heads back to hospital in the morning.
Alcohol doesn't help, neither does apple juice. It might force me to sleep, unlikely though.
Crickey is bang on, I really appreciate such comments. But just the thought of Him not being here scares me. I'm going to tell him that ASAP.
Thanks guys, I can take a lot of stick/crap/nonsense, but am struggling to compose myself in this situation.
I think I'll have a shower and try to get some sleep. [b]Tomorrow will be a better day.[/b]
So many people in your family are going to need your support, I'm afraid you're going to have to put your feelings aside for just now.
Let it all hang out later.
I think you've got my e-mail address from the Polish boot saga, which is still in progress and going well. Give me an e-mail or if I gave you my number, give me a ring if you want to talk about anything that you learn.
It all gets a bit Zen; things are out of your control, so you can only be reactive, other than trying to support your mum.
All the best fella.
Hope it all works out well! undoubtedly you are restless - anybody would be in such circumstances, especially having to wait a couple of days to get a plane.
Your Dad and Mum will appreciate seeing you when you arrive - be strong for them!
Be strong for your family and use this place to vent your true feelings, if that's what you need to do.
There are some wise people on hear I don't think anyone is going to mind if writing on here helps you in anyway.
Hoping for the best!
Will ring Mum before she heads back to hospital in the morning.
It's probably worth remembering that 'no news' is 'good news'. Your Mum will phone you if there's any developments, so try to stay as relaxed as you can, under the circumstances. Thursday really isn't far away.
jeez sorry to hear, hope he gets well very soon, you hold on in there for him
Yeah, you're ever so right, all of you.
The good news is he can move his arms and legs, and talks sense (kind of unusual for him 😉 ). Oh, and he complaints his broken rib hurts badly.
I don't know why but all those make me think he'll be fine.
I'll talk to him tomorrow if possible. It's difficult to think what I'll say but I need to hear my Dad's voice.Weak or strong, quiet or loud, that's irrelevant. His voice,that's all that matters.
I'm off to bed, to cuddle up and sleep next to the girl I've chosen as my life-time companion. Without being an arse.
Good night, thanks for reading.
oh man. if you need picking up from luton/stanstead let me know if it speeds your return
My thoughts are with you. Make the most of everyone close to you at all times. That's always something to aim for. Hope it all works out.
Hope things start to look a little more positive soon. Sorry to hear of this.
Keep the faith fella. Belief is everything...
Thoughts are with you dude..
Best regards to you and your family.
Hope he's ok.
good luck
Hairychested, hope your dad gets better.
My father had a bad accident a few years ago with similar injuries caused by violent deceleration in a head on.
He bounced back enough to enjoy the compensation. Recovered 99% I'd say. So fingers crossed.........
Nowt to say other than hope your Dads soon on his feet again.
ATB
Get well soon to your Dad, all the best for the next few days.
Thoughts with you, mate. Get to see him soon .
Hairychested- all the best.
STW shows it's true colours once again.
best of luck to your dad, and I hope you manage to visit with him soon,
He's alive, complains about the neck support being uncomfortable, doesn't want to eat as it's not roast meat, wants to go home and have a beer. I should be really pleased I suppose.
It's tough now but the doctors say it will only get better (my auntie's brother is mates with the Dad's doctor as well as the main nurse so we get the real info instead of the usual bull). They reckon he could leave the hospital in a few days' time, we'll see. Physiotherapy is vital so he might have to stay for a while there.
I've seen the TV footage of the accident's scene, the ambulance crew were spectacularly quick and professional. I wish I could see the accident itself, there seem to be mixed opinions whose fault it was. Yesterday I was told it was the other driver, today it's Dad. At the end of the day I don't care, cars will be replaced/fixed, make-ups re-done, ribs will heal.
I'm in a better state tonight, thanks for your warm words, they really helped.
Glad your dads making a recovery and complaining always a good sign.
Best wishes to you and your family.
Glad to hear it.
*offers a hug*
He's alive, complains about the neck support being uncomfortable, doesn't want to eat as it's not roast meat, wants to go home and have a beer. I should be really pleased I suppose.
Damn right you should be pleased - that sound a lot better than yesterday 🙂
Great news dude
If he's moaning he fine, its a man thing.
Hope the good news keeps comin
awesome news!
Here's hoping for a speedy recovery
hope he fixes fast, what a terrible thing to happen! all the best!!
Just spoken to Mum. She's fine-[i]ish[/i].
Dad is becoming rather aggressive, fights with shadows, tells everybody off.
I'm hoping it's the brain recovering, I really am.
It's going to be a hard night again but it'll be better in the morning. New day, new hope.
Sounds like he's got plenty of life in him 8)
I'm no expert, but I wouldn't worry too much about strange behaviour after what he's gone through. I said some strange things in hospital when I was 14, after a car swung in front of me when I was on my bike - and left me with a fractured skull.
Can't imagine what you're going through but from your post today sounds like he's gonna be fine - really hope so! Take care!
Good to hear man, hope you can see him soon mate.
He's swearing all the time, calling everybody names and telling them to f-off, I find it hilarious especially that he never swore, not even once that I could remember. My poor Mum is blushing and apologising to everybody for his behaviour. Good signs according to the doctors.
It's a massive load off my shoulders, will see them in a few days. Thanks for your support!
Kris
high 5 hairychested! could be ways worse 🙂
especially that he never swore, not even once that I could remember.
Really....... a cab driver who's never sworn ? 😯
Well he's obviously got a lot of catching up to do !
Glad to hear that he's on the mend 8)
raaaaayy 😀
Bacardi is flowing, headache tomorrow. Who gives a quack though? 😀
Nice one bud
Spoken to Dad a few minutes ago, he's very weak, much weaker than I hoped he'd be. It's gut-wrenching, really depressing.
I'm crying inside, the sadness is tearing me, can't show it though. Everybody believes I'm the positive one who never gives up, they seem to rely on me being optimistic and saying the right things.
I feel like hitting the bottle, won't as it's pointless. I do believe he'll be fine eventually, it's the bloody feeling of inability to help that's killing me.
Be strong dude we are rooting for you and your dad.
Take a while for him to fight back but he'll get there, sounds like he's had a rough time so he will be weak. Best wishes.
Staying strong is helping your family dude, hang in there buddy!!
Hoping for the best for your Dad and you all, stay strong bud...
It's quite impossible to describe how much all your support means to me, no BS. Thanks a lot.
Glad he's doing well. Have you managed to sort out getting home yet?
Thinking of you all.
Yeah, it's all sorted. Back in Ireland tomorrow but, having actually thought of the whole experience, even 3 days with the folks is worth the hassle.
Time to go back to "serious" issues like tyres and chain oils 🙂
Good luck