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Have you considered fostering? Lots of rescue charities offer this. Sometimes it’s just a day or two, sometimes several months. We do this and while it’s hard to let them go it’s great to see them get a forever home.
So much this (my wife's 3rd sector role above is part of this). Very much the new model to try and get animals out of charity's arcs as so much better for them (and animal charities are on their knees financially trying to keep up). See also the Cinnamon Trust that do amazing work. https://cinnamon.org.uk/
So I read the first post only and surmised the obvious:
You've still not got missus a Christmas pressie yet have you OP.
Three pages of displacement later that situation has not improved has it...
I've just started reading a book "A life without ties" About a guy who seemingly has it all, but realised he wasn't happy. decided to go travelling for 6 months to re find himself, but14 years later, hes still at it.
His story is pretty extreme, but as myti put
I’m feeling like I’ve ticked off a list of life achievements marriage, house, job has peaked, all the stuff I need to do my hobbies etc and now am feeling a bit what is next and I’m only halfway through my life hopefully.
I do like the idea of buggering off for a bit with no plan but to go and see places that I want to see without thinking about any time restraints.
Owning expensive stuff in “not making you happy” shocker!
Oh, I dunno, there's a joy to be had in having things that are well made, function well, even uniquely. Those things tend to be expensive. A friend of mine has a rule that the more you use things from a hourly, daily weekly, through to monthly or occasionally should be the indicator of how much the budget for those things should be i.e.. if you're going to use it a lot, then buy the thing that will fulfil every need, and make sure it does it well enough so that using it is a good time, not a PITA. and the thing you use only occasionally should be where you spend less.
It may well be an excuse for buying nice bikes for all I know though
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Although if you really want to be skint and scrabbling for the rest of your miserable existence I could sell you my house?
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I managed to a a decent jump the other day and got a pic. Well pleased, makes you buzz. Even though mine is small beer.
Some more here from Wentwood Forest. And it was dry 🙂 Super rare at this time of year. IYKYK
Car shopping and a watch collection would equal peak dullness for a way to spend a life.
We don’t have children (by choice) so I was thinking that was partly it but seems this can happen regardless of having children (OP)
Its certainly not a childless thing. Kids grow up and move out which in a strange way makes the feeling of "what now?" even stronger.
Unless you have lots of kids much later in life, in which case you will have far bigger problems to deal with and can only dream of the OPs musings.
if everything you owned burnt to the ground, what would you buy again?
Fire extinguisher that worked! FIFY 🙂
Unless you have lots of kids much later in life, in which case you will have far bigger problems to deal with and can only dream of the OPs musings.
Amen to that. It depends what you mean by 'much' though. Our first child was born when I was in my early 40s, but I've never seen that as a problem - far from it. It has meant that we've always been ok financially and have more time to spend with them now that obsessions over career progression have receded a bit. A decade ago I wouldn't have used all my annual leave in the push for promotion, the next grant, or that breakthrough paper. Now I use it all and spend it with my family doing nice things, be that holidays or MTB trips.
Having pre-teens when I'm in my 50s has also meant that I'm fitter and healthier at this age than I would have been if we'd had kids earlier and they'd fled the nest by now. Even one year ago I wouldn't have thought about entering a race, yet as my eldest was keen I went along to support him and then eventually entered myself. Funny thing was, at one of the Eastgate TTs, as we were lining up one of the other entrants asked "anyone else doing this because you're here to support your kids?", and it turned out we all were. But, yes, I can only dream of the OP's musings!
In a similar fashion to the op Recently I realized that I actually don’t want anything.
I put this down to a few of things; growing up, realizing in an epiphany-like flash that ultimately such things didn’t really matter to me and finally, having an 8 year old who is always talking about things he wants (not nagging, he’s just fascinated by all the new things in the shops)
I am content. And I’m grateful that I wasn’t paralyzed in a horrible accident I had earlier in the year and that there is money in the bank to cover our living costs without having to worry about it on a daily basis.
Krypton, perhaps you are content with your position rather than accepting of it. Embrace your acceptance.
are we just wired to not accept the status quo? Are we really that addicted to Dopamine?
My opinion, We are addicted to dopamine and our hunter-gatherer instincts have been replace by either shopping or saving any spare cash. The people who shop are possibly more susceptible to dopamine addiction than those who save. If you can, obviously.
Just checking in - it's been a while since we've seen you here. Hope all is OK.
Forum seems to be playing ball now and even the watch thread is back! 🙂