[Closed] Ladies what does this mean???

Welcome to the friendship zone.

Population you.

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Could mean a variety of things.

Have you ever gone further than the friend zone with her or has she ever indicated to you that she might have romantic feelings towards you?

You don't need to do anything, all she wanted you to do was listen.

We have done things which I would not do with a friend, however we have never done it.

It was just the abrupt end of the call, no goodbye or anything, my plan was to do nothing but i'm rubbish at these things. I really need to get over her

To all intensive purposes she is the one that got away, and she is the person who I care about most.

Intensive purposes? Based on meeting every 20 months you have seen her about 7 or 8 times and then don't have any contact for well over a year in between. Seems a very odd 'relationship' if you get on so well.

Why didn't you call her back and is the relationship with her boyfriend (same one for 10 years?) rocky?

Lastly, she's a women and I'm just being nosey and have absolutely no idea what could be going on in her head ❓

I admire those who play the long game.

I was obsessed with a girl called Wendy at sixth form college, I eventually pulled her at a house party in September 1996 followed by some pretty disappointing foreplay. Well, I think foreplay is a misnomer given that it didn't precede anything.

Fast forward to January 2010 and I happened to run into her in London. We went back to her house and had some pretty disappointing sex.

It just goes to show, dreams can come true! 😕

She'd probably just had a bust up, got a bit pissed, and needed to unload, You're a mate: you got it.

What do you do know?

As with any mate, give it a while; send a text or call her and ask her if she's OK

To all intensive purposes

<looks for sharp object to cut wrists>

<looks for sharp object to cut wrists>

Don't be such a damp squid. ...

She simply sees you as her special 'gay' friend that she can tell anything too?

just a thought 😉

depends on if you want to **** her, be a friend or marry her

Well for the first 3 years we were at school, then a gap year, we saw each other slot, then when we went to seperate unis we startedeeting less and less.

Right I'm not a woman but I consider myself a bit of an expert in this field....

It definitely means she wants you, very much like the way the cashier in Tesco Express said 'any fuel sir' and smiled at me this morning, she clearly wanted me too.

She sees you more as a crutch and less as a crotch.

we saw each other slot

Bad speeeeling/tzping, or is this a lesbian relationship ?

It definitely means she wants you, very much like the way the cashier in Tesco Express said 'any fuel sir' and smiled at me this morning, she clearly wanted me too.

, we saw each other slot,

me thinks you want to **** her!!

You saw her slot?

It definitely means she wants you, very much like the way the cashier in Tesco Express said 'any fuel sir' and smiled at me this morning, she clearly wanted me too.

You get that too? It's embarrassing really. The other day some women took my order in the sandwich shop and I had to explain to her I just wasn't ready for marriage.

Just my 2p (as a girl) she's probably having a hard time and just needs someone to talk to.

As advised above, drop her a text today and just ask if she's ok. Leave it at that.

[i]Right I'm not a woman but I consider myself a bit of an expert in this field....

It definitely means she wants you, very much like the way the cashier in Tesco Express said 'any fuel sir' and smiled at me this morning, she clearly wanted me too.
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Brilliant 🙂

EDIT: I think Cranberry has it right. [i]She sees you more as a crutch and less as a crotch[/i]

She sees you as her gay friend and knows she can trust you not to let her stray.

Well it is obvious she sees you as a really good friend and someone 'safe' to talk with... now it could be because she fantasises about you. Or it could be because you're just always there. I have a really great friend that I only see once in a blue moon (less really) but when we do talk it's like you've said, no time seems to have passed.
I would suggest calling or giving her a text to ask her how she's doing. And if you really like her then I'd also say give it a go. (But slowly) Try to make the 'every 20 months' an every 20 weeks and then every 20 days and then maybe you can get to every 20 minutes 😉
If a woman sees you safe enough to unload emotional baggage onto then she sees you as a proper 'good guy' and it's something you can use to your advantage -as long as you don't mess it up by being a donkey!!...My 'good guy' 'emotionally safe' outlet has become my husband in part because he made sure he didn't get pushed out of my life. (Girls need to get over the idea/fantasy that they need mega macho men who whisk them off their feet and ravage them in bed every night leaving them sore in the morning just like men need to get over thinking they need to be with playboy models and women they can **** without giving something back)

Right I'm not a woman but I consider myself a bit of an expert in this field....

It definitely means she wants you, very much like the way the cashier in Tesco Express said 'any fuel sir' and smiled at me this morning, she clearly wanted me too.

I nearly fainted this morning when the 'late middle aged' cashier in Sainsburys asked if "I'd like to slip it in"
Then I realised she meant for me to put by credit card in the machine 🙂

As for the OP, text her and take it from there

having been in a similar situation, a simple text saying that you hope she is ok, and that she can contact you at any time, is the best option.

Yep, what hungry monkey said. Please don't leave it and just do nothing.

any decent human let alone friend would check that she's ok today...

(attach a nob pic to the txt msg also)

Slight thread hijack: Do you have a sister called Lucy??

Slight thread hijack: Do you have a sister called Lucy??

I believe this was when the thread went officially off topic.

It depends. Is your name Craig?

anagallis_arvensis - Member
depends on if you want to **** her, be a friend or marry her
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lol ok so what are the three different responses for the three different situations.

Perhaps I've not done this right, however I've tried on purpose not to become her friend Staying distant and not chatting about day to day stuff but letting her know that I'm always there for her, last night was the first time she has taken me up on the offer, after I kind of assumed she had moved on.

I will text her today to check and strangley I actually know what to write.

And according to the comments above it seems to me I'm universally wanted in petrol stations accross the country

I will text her today to check and strangley I actually know what to write.

what you gonna say

"hi there, would a shag make you feel better ? "

Write:

I've been thinking about you slot.

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Ian, send her a nice text asking if she's ok today and if she wants to meet up for a chat over coffee then she just needs to ask.
If you get a nice text back call her and talk.
Don't be too distant or pushy though.

You had your chance last night and you blew it, now she has gone back to her cruel unloving boyfriend for a life of knocking out sprogs and domestic violence. While you have nothing left to do but buy a tent and a pair of cowboy boots and try to find love by recreating scenes from brokeback mountain.

While you have nothing left to do but buy a tent and a pair of cowboy boots and try to find love by recreating scenes from brokeback mountain.

Talk to Hora he'll help you with this bit.

Go round to her house, put your willy through her letterbox and shout loudly through the door that she's the one and the call last night confirmed to you that she's madly in love with you and should get to the door now.

This approach doesn't work so well if she has a dog that collects the post

I was obsessed with a girl called Wendy

That's not the one that's been in the news recently is it?

mrsgrips

You're not [b]really[/b] a 'Mrs' are you ? Far too sensible but obviously in touch with your feminine side. My money is on you being a gay social worker called Lucian 😉

& LOL @ the OP's spelling mistakes, very Freudian eg. slot, strangley, startedeeting, intensive purposes !!!

I'm good with numbers, not so good with English, though I did get a free laptop out of it 😉

and I'm on my iPhone so sometimes it likes to correct my mistakes with random words

Go round to her house, put your willy through her letterbox

That's no good, she'll see you coming.

This approach doesn't work so well if she has a dog that collects the post

ianpinder - organise an evening of wine at her or your house to discuss her 'problems'.

You know where this will lead to. I expect to hear you ruined her in every conceivable way.

The girl in question may not realise she fancies you or not be aware that you might like her....

Woody
I am a Mrs. I am married to Molgrips. 🙂 My real name is not Lucian. Though I do have the letter 'L' in at least one of them 🙂

I did wonder if people would think your username related to a company called M.R.S. Grips making bar grips. 🙂

If you fancy her then you've got to put it to her - simple as that. If you don't, then you may never take the opportunity. The worst that can happen is she'll say "no," at which point you'll know where you stand and can move on from there.

If you don't fancy her then you've nothing to worry about - just get on with the next 20 months of your life.

EDIT: I spent 6 years "seeing" someone even though we weren't technically going out with each other, and we both had other proper relationships for much of that time anyway. We never crossed the line, but we were always there for each other (emotionally as well as for going out and just having loads of fun). In the end I asked if she thought we should have a go at it ourselves, but she declined - it made perfect sense and would never have worked. Nothing changed between us and we carried on "seeing" each other up until we both settled down.

PMSL @ cougar !!

I am a Mrs. I am married to Molgrips.

Pah - you don't fool me. Admit it, the 20 minute gap between posts was enough for the alter ego to take over 😆

mrsgrips - member

molgrips - Member

Oh lordy there is two of them now. Will jnrgrips be making an appearance soon?

If it was me, I'd imagine my schlong is a small/compact yet lethal Uzzi 9mm. I'd let her in then shout YAAARRRRR Whilst spraying in a wide arch. She will either:

A). Be impressed
B). Be impressed
or
C). Stop her 20monthly visits to tell her metrosexual friend about her life.

Will jnrgrips be making an appearance soon?

Nah, she's far too mature for this silliness 🙂

20 months......many many years.....You should have slam dunked that along time ago mate. Do it or get over it. Lifes too short.

Her: Friends/pals/mates maybe if she was single who knows.

You: Confused P£nis.

You risk telling her and losing pal forever unless she flirts like hell with you.

Use your head, no the other one you think with. Forget it, get a GF and be happy.

Any pics of her 😀

I think MrsGrips earlier post made a lot of sense but now I think you need to think tactically...

What was H complaining to you about, was it her fella? You’ll to need to act cunningly.
Empathise with the problems she’s having, nad if you can start subtly pointing out his deficiencies (without her taking offense) then you’re half way there. The master stroke is being able to get her to realise that you have none of these weaknesses, you can’t directly point this out though, she must come to the conclusion through the way you act.

This could all backfire though, you look like a sly ****, her macho fella gets wind of it and you become intimate friends with his fists.

her macho fella gets wind of it and you become intimate friends with his fists.

A man who doesn't keep his goats tethered tends to lose his flock.

Indeed Hora. No way I'd let a Mrs of mine go off for 'fun days out' with another man. Unless he was as much of a sexual threat as Gok Wan.

She doesn't take you off shopping does she Ian?

A man who doesn't keep his goats tethered tends to lose his flock.

Easy Confucius.

hora - Member

her macho fella gets wind of it and you become intimate friends with his fists.

A man who doesn't keep his goats tethered tends to lose his flock.

A moral victory may not be much to hang onto, when he is lying on the floor in a pool of claret wondering why his legs bend the wrong way at the kneecaps.

Depends how good one is at begging or how quickly the Police can respond 😀

If it was me, I'd imagine my schlong is a small/compact yet lethal Uzzi 9mm.

So you only need to imagine the uzzi part then.

No way I'd let a Mrs of mine go off for 'fun days out' with another man. Unless he was as much of a sexual threat as Gok Wan.

PMSL
Although i must say the amount he touches up all the ladies on his show i might have to 'have words' anyway

You risk telling her and losing pal forever unless she flirts like hell with you.

She might already be flirting with you.....

what do you want from the relatiohsnip for the future?

I think someone once said that you can get any woman into bed if you are willing to listen to her problems until 3 in the morning.

TSY she doesn't like shopping except for motor bikes and climbing stuff.

The conversation had lots to do with mental disibilties in parents and child carers.

No I am not in anyway going to start bad mouthing her bf, to her face, it can only end badly and I don't want to be the one who ended their relationship.

My god I need to get a grip

I need to get a grip

Sounds like that's all you be getting on this occasion 🙁

My god I need to get a grip

mol and mrs grips to the thread again please.

I got a two word reply to my txt which I thought was very fitting and sums up our relationship.

And no I'm not scared of her pathetic bf

deadlydarcy- someone called? 😉

ianpinder- quite agree get a grip. Text and let be if that's what you need to do. Stay calm cool and collected and don't let anyone rush you into something/anything. You sound like a nice down to earth guy. Keep it like that; you'll find that even if nothing ever happens with this girl another will come along. As others have pointed out we've all lusted/fantasied about someone one time or another. And sometimes we do think 'what if...' but when things are right to happen they do happen. Go with the flow and listen to what your brain is telling you as well as your heart (they sound like they're pretty much saying the same thing).
😛 A lot of cliche mumbo jumbo but *shrug*

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jon1973 - Member

I was obsessed with a girl called Wendy

That's not the one that's been in the news recently is it?
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Ha!

...'at sixth-form college', rules out the delectable Miss Lewis 😛

I got a two word reply to my txt which I thought was very fitting and sums up our relationship.

Do we have to guess?

...k off, love you, I'm fine, ding dong, can't wait, cu 2012................??

and I don't want to be the one who ended their relationship.

Sometimes (not particularly infrequently) people need to be nudged out of their relationships. I have no idea if this is one of those though.

So I've learnt how to spell some words and I've realised that if it's meant to happen then it will. The situation as it is now is not something which can be sorted out in the next month, so I guess I'm in this for the long term, which is good, and at least it's good that she is coming to me for support rather then going to her boyfriend.

I'll still be on the look out for others but with H I feel safe and content, which is not something I have experienced with anyone else, but that's not to say I won't providing I keep looking. Though it's going to take someone truely amasing to eclipse her.

Thanks for all the advice particulally to the grips, I think I just needed to work through it with an independent (ish) point of view as I can become quite narrow minded and silly at times.

So I have the cowboy boots, ky and horse whip, now all I need is tj, or a guy called dave 🙂

[b]FFS WHAT DID THE TEXT SAY?[/b]

[i]Sometimes (not particularly infrequently) people need to be nudged out of their relationships[/i]

WTF? seriously WTF?

Sometimes (not particularly infrequently) people need to be nudged out of their relationships

Oh yeah - OP please tell bigyinn what the txt said, he's getting fractious 😉

Just a simple thank you.

it didnt say thank you,all that and she just says thank you,shes a woman after all.