[Closed] Is this rude?

I'm guessing you'd hate the idea, but your wife is quite keen to get you out of the car? 😀

No issue at all for me so long as you don't arrive late or leave early

Get the rest of them on bikes. You get to ride over, your missus has the pleasure of you arriving on time, everyone's a winner.

Nah that's legit to me, as long as you don't arrive a sweaty mess and make MIL sofa smelly it's okay.

I find kids are at their most tolerable when they're strapped in place, driving is easy 😉

I've done similar quite a few times
Bike in the car on the way there, change into kit there, leave at the same time as the missus, cycle home

That's perfectly acceptable and indeed has happened in my extended family, without a raised eyebrow. Just be on time, and send a strava beacon just in case

What are your wife's thoughts on This?

Go on bike "get lost" do a 50 miler & deal with the consequencies later

You monster, how could you even consider such a thing?

Let's see how many match my wife's opinion...

If she thinks it's not acceptable, then I'm guessing none.

Nah, i do it all the time. My in laws are quite used to me turning up muddy.

Yeah, Mrs Yak does this a bit and often goes the long way and turns up late. No one minds.

Crack on.

Tbh, I thought this was standard practice for the time-strapped family cyclist in need of a few more miles.

I'm not even sure why this is a question. Just ride your bike meet them there.

Can't see an issue, tbh.

Having done this once but getting slightly lost I still have to live with the consequences.

In my defence it was a nice sunny night and I found some new trails on my way across so had to be done.

Mate of mine did this. Only he rode from Tadcaster to Stockport haha.

Just leave on the bike and never come back. Maybe send a postcard from Laos instructing her to sell your possessions/kids etc.

SSXC - sort that out first 😉

How many bikes do you have now? Adjusted anthem aside do you like any of them?

What are your wife's thoughts on This?

She played it right out of the Wife 101 manual. Her reply was "Well, mum knows what your like..." with an agnostic expression. Tyoically then leaving me ion a position where perhaps neither of the options will be the correct one... maybe.

😕

Ask your wife as you are not having sex with the people above.

Unless you haven't told us.

Ask your wife as you are not having sex with the people above.

Or the wife by the sound of it 😆

And just think of all the money you'll save by taking your bike...
🙂

Just leave on the bike and never come back. Maybe send a postcard from Laos instructing her to sell your possessions/kids etc.

Can you get to Laos overland?

If MIL knows what you are like, ride and sit in sweaty lycra - you are already doomed, so go down in flames

It depends.

If you already spend little time with your family them it might be argued this is eating into some of that.

On the other hand, if this frees up some time otherwise taken up for training then it could be a win/win.

She played it right out of the Wife 101 manual. Her reply was "Well, mum knows what your like..." with an agnostic expression.

Ah! You're MIL knows that you do whatever your wife tells you.

On the other hand, if this frees up some time otherwise taken up for training then it could be a win/win.

Yep, it replaces a recovery ride I've lost so far today as I've been out with the kids, and there tomorrow night reminds free within which I can do the school runs, homework and bedtime stories with them.

Cool, sorted.

By leaving the kids with your wife alone it will be like any other day of the week 😉

Bike it, wife and kids in car, open 4 litres of vino (from the box in the utility room (next to the washing basket and under the shelf where GIL's tool box is))
Drink and eat heavily, burp and fart at inconsiderate occasions.. tell bordy jokes about immigrants and the state of Laos is in, remain steadfast in political debates you bring up, have a "whack around" the garden digging divots up with GIL's golf clubs..
Sweat profusely whilst finishing off the cheese course, scratch intimate places with cheesy finger syndrome.

Ride home.

Pack bags.

Head to Laos.

garden digging divots up with GIL's golf clubs

Golf? Good grief no, my intention was to demonstrating CX racing on the lawn before I parked the bike in the hall way.

😆

Muddy wheelie in the hallway, on the new beige carpet it is then..
Bunny hop up the stairs will give you a hell of a lot of "jump or get off" the barriers segment in a CX race.

Practice Son, think of the practice.

Enjoy lunch.

Your outlaws must be much keener on seeing you than mine have ever been! I have often cycled to theirs with the wife and children , sat and had a coffee, then left them to it for a couple of hours. Returning to meet and leave with the family later.
On further thought, it would depend somewhat on the age of the children.

Yep. Do it regularly. Rock up and have a shower at the outlaws . Boss brings a change of clothes for me with her in the car.

Don't see a problem with this. Regular occurrence in our house. Ride/run one way each quite often.

All sorts of distances up to Sheffield-Liverpool for family lunch. That's fine but needs a 5am start

Do it a lot. Good use of time.

The more you do it the more they will accept it.

I've arrived! And a cold beer was waiting and boy did I need it - 42/16 on a gravel baseband headwind.

I get this gravel thing now, just go anywhere. Great.

I get this gravel thing now, just go anywhere. Great

Just like a hardtail but not as competent then.

Just riding bikes innit.

Without the pressure of competition they can be great fun 😆

I did type "wheelie" in the hallway.. let's hope you didn't read that as "weewee" 😉

Just like a hardtail but not as competent then.

A little bit more competent on the road or farm track type things, a little less competent on anything more demanding. All bikes are compromised, it just depends on where you make the compromise.

On the original post scenario- I do not believe so as I do a similar thing. In laws 62 miles away. I leave early on the road bike and meet my Wife and Daughter at the in laws at the same. Spend day st the inland and then bike on the rack and all drive home together.

She played it right out of the Wife 101 manual. Her reply was "Well, mum knows what your like..."

The response to which is, "cool, then it'll be perfectly alright then."

Personally I think it's very noble of you to be giving up a valuable weekend afternoon to spend with your mum's parents when you could be out riding your bike all day instead.

I do this a fair bit, 130+ miles from here to the in-laws though so means an early start for me

The great thing is - and now that I've scoped the route I'm happy about this - my son wants to come with me next time.

And I've seen some parts of London I've never seen before. Some of the canal boats with people chilling out with a BBQ and small glasses of beer lounging in deck chairs.

Sums up why riding bikes is ace there.

Sums up why riding bikes is ace there.

Although this sums up why riding bikes in London is rubbish -

Some of the canal boats with people chilling out with a BBQ and small glasses of beer lounging in deck chairs.

😆

(Joking btw! I walked through Bushy Park last week and saw more wildlife than I have for a long time.)

Although this sums up why riding bikes in London is rubbish -

I did one through London a few years back, was great fun.

Lee Valley Canal out from Limehouse all the way to Harlow is flippin excellent.

Don't do it on a sunny Sunday, it's a bit busy.

The only "dodgy" bit is coming past Hackney Wick where there are a lot of moored Canal boats and some occasional drunks snoozing across the path 😆
And just before it, there were some yoofs ganging up on cyclists to nick thier bikes.. they'd have a spotter who'd phone the group further along to notify em' a nice bike was on its way.. huge crackdown by Plod happened and its quieter now just avoid dusk..
I used to ride it an awful lot a couple of years ago, me and mates used it as CXer routes out of town..

[url= https://canalrivertrust.org.uk/enjoy-the-waterways/canal-and-river-network/lee-navigation ]Lee Valley route and info[/url]

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On the other hand, if this frees up some time otherwise taken up for training then it could be a win/win.

Yep, it replaces a recovery ride I've lost so far today as I've been out with the kids, and there tomorrow night reminds free within which I can do the school runs, homework and bedtime stories with them.

Cool, sorted.

Somebody seems to be thinking a bike is a toy rather than an efficient mode of transport.

Mrs BigJohn & I were invited to a "dress up nicely afternoon tea birthday party" (FFS) today. About 3 miles away. As we guessed we wouldn't be in a driveable state coming home we rode. Good job she went on her e-bike as there was a brisk southerly breeze in our faces, so she paced me all the way.

Except when her stilettos slipped off the SPDs.

i do this a lot. so often that i know where the MILs deodorant is as i've forgotten mine a couple of times!

As we guessed we wouldn't be in a driveable state coming home we rode.

😯

Much to their mirth as it started pissing down as I went out the back gate and they got in the car, I enjoyed that ride back. Saw some Moorhens, Geese and a Swan, not much out I guess due to the rain. Boy I want that 18t to turn up in the post though.

I was 36:15 fixed. A bugger chasing Mrs BigJohn up the railway bridge on her Giant Dirt-e, as she was chasing a young roadie.

Google reckons it'd take me 7 hours to cycle to the outlaws. Reckon it'd be a nice cycle for at least part the way though (London to near Wellingborough).

Honestly, life's to short to be doing what someone else wants you to do.. It's all about the harmony, if your wife doesn't want you to and you want to there's no harmony. If you don't mind going in the car with said wife there's harmony..I'm sure you'll work it out.
As to the original question.. no, it's not rude.

I do this all the time, albeit to my own parents. it's about an 80 mile road ride, so I tell them to give me a 2 hour head start and then I race. I've beaten them a couple of times. Kids find it fun 🙂 It's a way of getting a 4.5 hour ride in whilst only losing 2 hours of family time. Which are usually spent with the kids playing Minecraft early in the morning anyway.

A bit late to the party, but in for a penny....

I just asked The Wife to OPs question. "Yep, crack on. Will you want a shower when you get there?"

I love my Wife.