@hora - I posted a reply to this some three pages ago. The cessation of intimacy was not just post childbirth. It started many years before, when we were first married (1990!). The 7 years refers to the last time!
Holy moly, life is too short to be wasted this way!
On the plus side you're obviously extremely patient so at least channel the time into making progress with counselling. IMO though you should be prepared to declare you won't tolerate a future where you're this frustrated and unhappy, so ultimately you would leave or openly play away. If someone loves you they shouldn't put you in this position in the first place, but they should at least try to respond if you get serious about it and try to work patiently towards an outcome that works for both of you. You deserve better than this! Everybody does.
Different circumstances for me, I was starting from a good situation but wanted more. Anyway what worked was texting not just about fantasies, but suggesting opportunities to be briefly intimate with tasters. This demonstrated I'd put some thought into it and that I really desired her. That boosted her confidence so much so that she has since become the more sexually voracious and experimental of us.
Wait for it...
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