[Closed] How to talk to women pt2

Oh boy, you just opened up the trouble box....

This is a bit tongue in cheek (again, excuse the pun)

Tongue in cheek - you kinky bastard.

It might help if you stop using puns all the time and then drawing attention to the fact that you just used a pun. 😆

I always imagine they're another bloke.

Then chat away as badly/ineptly as I would if it was another chap.

It's not a great technique but I generally avoid causing any offence 🙄

Are you as nervous speaking to 'power' men?

Just perhaps treat them as an equal, somebody to show intrest in, someone who has obviously worked hard to get into the position they now have,ask them about their job, and career and lots more.

Listen to what they say, and remember theyre just like a man without any testicles.

Ps best not to mention charity giving and facebook.

Just perhaps treat them as an equal

Good lord! 😉

Just remember that they have needs, both emotional and physical.

seavers - Member
Are you as nervous speaking to 'power' men?

Actually yes. Despite being a 20 year career professional I am told that I am naive to my own standing in the business - and this manifests itself in not knowing what to say / how it would be received by my seniors when I'm outsider comfort zone.

Ridiculous thread that only goes to show how sexist you are without even realising it!!

Go to gay (not the happy kind) classes, and speak with a lisp. Thus rendering yourself impervious to said female/s

Sorry...I don't mean to offend but your original post...about women is sexist.

Eh?

Is the problem that you frequently use puns/ veiled euphemisms when in conversation with women?

Why is it sexist? The fact that I'm less confident talking to a woman is sexists how? It's just a fact!

The fact that I'm less confident talking to a woman is sexists how?

That's not what you implied. It wasn't just women, but confident women with 'power' that you claim you have a problem with.

That's right, women perceived to be higher ranked / more expert / more successful than i - in fact anyway you wish to describe it.

Am I now being told we can't hold a higher respect for someone becuase they are female? Surely that implication is more sexist than you are claiming I'm being.

Surely that implication is more sexist than you are claiming I'm being.

I haven't claimed that you're sexist. Although I find the fact that you presumably have no problem with weak women who lack confidence rather bizarre.

higher respect

so need some advice about socialising after work with power women without coming across (excuse the pun) that I'm only interested in thier chest/arse/etc

I don't know man...seems like this is getting way too messy.

I'm just giving you my thoughts...you asked for em!

 

Grow a pair. What a ridiculous thread.

I did mention it was a tad tongue in cheek.

Nevermind then.

Biscuits..tea..anyone?

Tea anyone ?

Damn beaten to it lol

The one real high-flyer I remember enjoyed chatter about ordinary things, well away from her high pressure work-related stuff. She'd had enough of that by the end of her working day. Oh, and getting her to laugh seemed to help.

Have you tried standing really tall—so that your knuckles lift off the ground—and imagining you're talking to Richard Branson?
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Why not just chat about the usual stuff going on in peoples lives, work, family, holidays, cycling etc works with all the power women I've chatted too (Mrs K is a Director in the city so I get dragged to things occasionally, I wield no power whatsoever)

If they talk directly to your testes say loudly "Excuse me, I'm up here" whilst pointing at your face.

so need some advice about socialising after work with power women without coming across (excuse the pun) that I'm only interested in thier chest/arse/etc when left on my own to be "entertaining" with such a lady.

So if the woman is a lowly minion then you crack on with staring at her arse and tits?

Ha ha ha you boys make me laugh - this thread makes me think of a robert winston type program when they were looking at differences between male and female behaviours.

In a nut shell we both check out the opposite sex but women are more discreet (manage to keep our tounges in our mouths perhaps!?) .

The real issue is you confidence - learn the art of small talk, im sure there's enough basic networking tips out there online. We are all human you just chat till you find common ground to discuss

But maybe i shouldnt comment as I might not be a power woman - I can get up big hills does that count? 😀

just remember that they have the HR number on quick dial on their phone...

Girls are like boys but they don't like talking about as much cool stuff. 😉

Honestly, don't focus on the fact you're entertaining. Just talk about normal stuff you're interested in. If they don't seem interested then change the subject, find out what they're interested in, be interested.

I really like finding out about business people. Some of them are as dull as anything once you get behind the facade. All they have in their lives is work. Sadly these are the most difficult ones to talk to. The more interesting people will let something go about their personal lives and then you've got something to discuss.

"Oh, you like searing the nipples off badgers? Awesome, tell me all about it", then you pretend to look interested while they waffle on. It's just like being married.

Maybe talk about your children? I don't get this post at all.

Grab her norks and say "honk honk", then get it out on the table.

Failing that, just maintain eye contact and talk normally???! If she bores you; glaze over and make excuses. If she's entertaining, just enjoy the chat.

I may not understand the OP though; I am a bit confused by it....really, not in a smart-arse manner, I am genuinely confused by the scenario.

Chatting to very attractuve ladies can be challenging; makes you go a bit tetchy. However, a man or woman's position in X company has never made a difference to me.

I could be odd though.

The easiest solution would be to get older, that way you realise that worrying about others will get you nowhere in life so you just get on with your own, then you start to take notice of this

Enjoy 😉

Ask them how many men she slept with to get to the top 😉

Hobnob

Confident women require confident handling, so i suggest you act like this at all times around them:

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Lord Flashheart is the answer to everything.

Woof!

You could always ask him directly for advice http://singletrackworld.com/members/captainflashheart/profile/

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For whatever reason I've always got on better with mates' mums than their dads and business women than men. No idea why. I think I feel more relaxed around them, and end up being kind of pally and cheeky yet respectful. I'm also a good listener - I wasn't until I began coaching - and women love the opportunity (and space) to express themselves without being interrupted or talked at/over all the time.

women love the opportunity (and space) to express themselves without being interrupted or talked at/over all the time.

This. So many people unwittingly do this. Some bosses think you exist only to listen to their brain dumps. People like listeners.

When talking to anyone new, the knack is to quickly find common ground. There are often visual clues to their interests. Or get some background info from other people they know. Ask people to explain things as it gives them the chance to shine and feel listened to.

When talking to men, I ask them what they think; with women, how they feel. But not everyone conforms to the gender stereotypes so play it by ear! I prefer to be asked how I feel, for example. But I'm quite feminine for a bloke.

I'd start with "did you see the bake off"