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Sorry to hear O.P.
My mother has non Hodgkins lymphoma B cell type.
Losing her as the cancer is not affected the chemo.
Very tough on the family.
I see from your profile that you are based in the greatest city in the country. You could contact Cavendish Cancer Care http://cavcare.org.uk/ They are based near the Hallamshire, and they specialise in dealing with how cancer affects the whole family. They have play therapy: a massive room full of toys that your kid can play with, and trained counsellors who can gently talk things through over several weeks. My daughter went to them when she was 5 after her closest friend was diagnosed with brain cancer, and I think Cavendish really helped her.
You can say that again. My mums primary is as a sneaky a shit as they come. Apparently on the 'silent' but if the panceas. No primary symptons show and its generally not until the secondaries start making their presence known and you're already *ed do you get to find out.Evil
* of a disease...
Amen to that. My stepdad was diagnosed in October, as with many pancreatic cancers, symptom free until too late to do anything. Secondaries in his lungs, went for tests when a cough wouldn't go away.
Oncologist said two to four months life expectancy without treatment, six to nine months with chemotherapy . He was lucky in that he got onto the treatment regime the day before NICE (ironic name eh?) axed abraxane. He's doing ok at the moment but he doesn't expect to see another Christmas 🙁
We lost my brother in law to it September 2014. He did present with symptoms - jaundice - but even with a whipple he only lasted a year
Thoughts are with you OP
This^ Desperate news for anyone.
I lost a grandparent at that age...I really can't remember anything about it, as it's such a young age. The kids will be upset but ultimately fine.
Sorry to hear about your mum.
So sorry Dannyb. So very sorry.
When I was in a similar place - I did my best to be clear and simple. I said my dad was really sick and that soon he would die and they wouldn't be able to see him anymore. They took it on board easily. Dealing with the sadness, meant giving them a lot of cuddles and talking about my dad and answering their questions. I also told them that I was upset and needed to cuddle them and talk about it too - this meant they knew it was ok to need it themselves.
Never, ever tell your boy that your mum is going to sleep. That will make him worry about sleep.