[Closed] How do you deal with bullies at children's parties ?

Slats.
Hoofage.

get in first, bully the bully.

get in first, bully the bully

This I would love to do. But he's a 9 year old child and I'm a lot older and bigger.

And he might come for me when he's 18...

Naughty step.

or water boarding

No pudding surely?

Keep a closeceye on your nephew. If he is getting a hard time extract him quick. If he is getting the upper hand look the other way!!!

But he's a 9 year old child and I'm a lot older and bigger.

you politely, firmly, and quite openly, confront and challenge the inappropriate behavior.

Works for both kids and adults.

Sounds simple, but weirdly it has become one of those skills many have lost.

I wouldn't intervene with someone else's kid.
Play it by ear but remonstrate with the person who invited ye bully.

I don't put up with bad behaviour in my house. I will have words and if necessary discipline* anyone's child who's disruptive or taking the fun out of the day for others. I will do it in front of their parents. I do the same on the rugby pitch where I coach/manage 25+ of the little darlings.

Invariably, the parents either turn away and ignore the matter, as they don't have the balls to do it themselves and are somewhat embarrassed that they have never given their child a discipline structure in the first place, or they give a nod indicating that it's fine and more-or-less what they would do themselves.

* time out, removed to play somewhere else, stern words etc. I've not smacked one....yet.

Ask your brother/sister what their policy is and make sure all the adults stick to it.

I wouldn't intervene with someone else's kid.

In my home I would, however if that isn't appropriate/convenient or whatever, I'd address the parents directly.
The situation isn't complicated, our perception and interpretation of social etiquette is what makes it complicated.

Once you've set one on fire, the others will respect boundaries

Agreed with Stoner and Barkm. Or indeed slats hoofage

If his parents are vegan feed him Macdonalds.
That should get him in trouble and stop him coming to more parties

[b]Scotch bonnet chilies ... [/b]

Serve the naughty boy that without him knowing. Squeeze into liquid and apply to food ...

As a kid we/I get that treatment when we were naughty ... but we got them rub directly into our mouth unlike you lot pampered puss.

Yaaahhhh ... burnnnn baby burn!!! 😈

When the kid screams ... it will be very funny! I can imagine that in my head now ... as a kid we screamed ... very funny! 😆

No you are NOT going to die you pampered puss.

edit: but we started eating hot chilies age 5 then everyday age 6 ... as food.

edit edit: when they cry and try to wipe tears of their eyes ... bingo! They got hit second time ... now they are half blind. 😆

You only have to kill one as an example to the others.

Would it not be easier to just uninvite the bully, telling his parents the truth?

trademark - Member
Would it not be easier to just uninvite the bully, telling his parents the truth?

Best option ^^^

Otherwise Scotch bonnet chilies option ... you will have the most exciting time of your life that is memorable for as long as you live. I kid you not.

its a good opportunity to improve the scrote's discipline. Take it.
And he/she may even be well behaved anyway, and you're assuming he's guilty before he's had a chance.

Nuke them from orbit

Has someone called social services about chewkw?

Why - has he been allowed out again?

If he start acting up, warn once, then ring his parents and tell them to come and get him. (I assume it's a him)

+1 Stoner, call 'em out, confront directly. If you can justify your actions you have nothing to fear

I'm a Beavers leader, it really is amazing how few adults will step into situations of bad behavior (including their own Children).

Feels a bit uncomfortable the first time you give someone elses's kid a bollocking. You get used to it.

You get used to it.

it's addictive 😈

(I assume it's a him)

Some of the nastiest pieces of work I've seen have been girls.

Get nephews brother/cousin to sort bully...

cynic-al - Member
Has someone called social services about chewkw?

scotroutes - Member
Why - has he been allowed out again?

Stoner - Member
Some of the nastiest pieces of work I've seen have been girls.

No difference ... when the chilies burn they scream ...

No difference ... when the chilies burn they scream ...

Pure GOLD

Slip him some picolax

Edit:just before he leaves!

My g/f reckons my sense of humour is unique ...

C'mon ... have some fun. Really try it. It will be so funny you will remember forever.

... apparently not 😈

chewkw - Member
Scotch bonnet chilies ...

Serve the naughty boy that without him knowing. Squeeze into liquid and apply to food ...
As a kid we/I get that treatment when we were naughty ... but we got them rub directly into our mouth unlike you lot pampered puss.
Yaaahhhh ... burnnnn baby burn!!!
When the kid screams ... it will be very funny! I can imagine that in my head now ... as a kid we screamed ... very funny!
No you are NOT going to die you pampered puss.
edit: but we started eating hot chilies age 5 then everyday age 6 ... as food.
edit edit: when they cry and try to wipe tears of their eyes ... bingo! They got hit second time ... now they are half blind.
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Never has LOL been more appropriate.

Slip him some picolax

Edit:just before he leaves!

I was going to suggest my usual go-to of punching in the face but this. Definitely this.

It's simple. One warning then out the door.

I assume we've had this but in case not,

Headlock:Chinese burn

+1 Stoner, call 'em out, confront directly. If you can justify your actions you have nothing to fear

This. And if it continues, as tthew said, exclude them and get the parents to come and collect them. If the parents kick off, hoof them in the slats for being unable to properly discipline a 9 year old because they'll deserve it as much as him.

Why's he been invited? Hmmmm.......been there as well; how much say should we as parents have over who your kids mix with / invite to their parties. My daughter mixes with a known troublemaker who we'd prefer she didn't mix with but have to allow her to find her own way and make her own mistakes. Or maybe the parents are actually very nice but just not very good at the discipline side. Or maybe he's well fit, and your nephew's mum...... 😉

Seriously - not all 'bad' kids come from 'bad' parents per se; sometimes they are perfectly nice people who just don't have the skills to deal with their beloved's problems. Bad parenting isn't always from bad people.

Bombers and pooing through their letterbox.

I've often found that the worst kids are the ones with parents who believe their child can do no wrong.

Have had this a few times before.

I ask the parents to deal with the incident that has just happened (loud enough for others to hear) before I have to step in and sort it. This gives them the chance.

Unfortunately there are many parents who choose to ignore rather than deal with their own children.

I have 3 and they are not angels but know mum and dad will sort them out anywhere but also there for their protection aswell.

One warning then its a trip through the hit tunnel.
They soon get the message.

I'm looking at this with interest. For me it's my 5 year old nieces party on Saturday and there's a couple of known (sit on their own at lunch at school, always have someone watching them in the playground) trouble makers. I'm amazed that it gets to that at such an early age but clearly it does.
I'm quite ready to wade in, especially as my 2 and 5 year old will be there. If is causes problems with the other parents, then no problem, I've got a thick skin.

Good to see Chewkw is as demented as ever.

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