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Brutal truth? It will make no difference to you if she dies, given that she's not been in contact for 20 years and you had no intent to contact her again. Have a bit of Facebook chatter, share some old pics then move on, its sad when people die, but this person is no longer part of your life.
Ive been on the arse end of a 'dying stalky ex', despite her only having 6 months to live she made me miserable for years.
IMO if she just wanted to apologise she could have just done so, no need to wait so long, or mention her illness come to that, and if you truly are her 'soulmate' wheres she been all this time, the manipulation has already started.
If you do meet her, dont tell your partner, take her.
This is exactly why I wont go near facebook.
Th fact that as a woman she has [b][i]admitted to being in the wrong[/b][/i] sets off major alarm bells for me. IME this only happens if there is a sinister ulterior motive.
I am only half-joking.
My advice: avoid.
Th fact that as a woman she has admitted to being in the wrong sets off major alarm bells for me. IME this only happens if there is a sinister ulterior motive.
She didn't admit it, she said she wanted to 'right some wrongs'. She didn't say who committed the wrongs. 😛
She's an ex, and ex who is about to become an Ex-ex.
It's been a long time - I'd just send wishes and leave it at that.
TBH - it does sound very odd. I'd be more than my normal paranoid if any of my ex's contacted me with such a story.
I do wonder, if she's got the means to message you to tell you all this stuff, why she can't use the same medium to tell you what she wants to say rather than trying to heap you with emotional baggage that, being mercenary about it, simply isn't your problem or responsibility.
If it's genuine and I were in her position, I'd probably ask for your email address so I could say my piece. Dragging an ex back into my life would be out of order, IMHO.
Wow - I really thought this thread had finished last night, however, I wanted to say thank you to those of you who had clearly put a lot of thought into your replies.
Gary G has hit the nail on the head, I never mean for this to be taken so seriously otherwise I wouldn't have put on an open forum, it was just to promote some thought from the hive mind that is STW
So in closing I have decided that once a manipulative bitch always a manipulative bitch and I really wouldn't put it passed her to be making this up anyway. I won't be making any response to the message and I'm fine with that.
I am putting more thought into closing my facebook account though.
Sweez - you n me babe, how about it?
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