[Closed] Heres a bloody conundrum - Dying ex content

Can't do much harm to have a chat - you can always walk away.

Run.

Wish her the best of health, block her from seeing your status.

Go & listen

How many years ago?

I'm with Drac.

Two questions:

1. Are you desperate for some?
2. Are you psychologically stable/sufficiently heartless enough to deal with the fallout of nobbing her and leaving her to die?

If the answer to both of the above is 'yes' then go for it.

I'd steer well clear, her motives may not be what they seem.

Say 15 years ago or so

Tell her to email you.

Actually I remembered I'm 45 so thats 20 years ago - ****, time flies 😀

Listen to the Auntie!

run...

Or - Let her know you've moved on and feel no bad feelings about her but beware being sucked in. I get to deal with a lot of dying people, they don't necessarily become nicer less manipulative people.

Just tell her your new partner isn't keen on the idea and you aren't prepared to risk upsetting her.

sounds odd, i'm noot sure I'd want to hear it to be honest.

wish her the best, let her know you're not bitter, but not up for dragging up old ghosts. Then ignore

What wrongs does she want to right and how?? Seems odd! Oh and if you're in a relaationship now it may raise a few "issues" no?

Thats too long ago

Tell her you have no problems with anything that happened back then but that you are sorry to hear of her problems now

Run a mile. Just delete her from FB.

I get to deal with a lot of dying people, they don't necessarily become nicer less manipulative people.

All other things aside, if someone I hadn't seen in 20 years (and didn't particularly like back when I did) messaged me out of the blue going, "I'm dying, you're my soulmate, I really need to see you" I'd be giving serious consideration to running very fast in the opposite direction.

She's had 19 non-dying years to get in touch, so it's obviously been at the forefront of her mind.

Psycho Hose Beast - Run Fast Now.

I really have no idea what she would want to talk about other than her being a knob years ago. I have no issues with that now just wanted to get a feeling of how people would handle this kind of thing.

Gut feeling is to ignore the whole thing 😕

[b]Surrounded By Zulus[/b] in which direction? 😉

If she's fit, and your available, what is there to lose? The worst she could do is haunt you.

if you go to see her, you will wake up with a very nasty scar and a kidney missing........ 😉

Run*

*unless she's rich and hasn't written a will.

James G - FTW - thank you

Shes not a facebook friend as I have declined twice in the last year - it seems you are able to send a message to someone without being a friend though

Maybe she will introduce you to your kid.

Is she dying of AIDS and wants you to die too?

+1 on the running option. I knew an ex who made a miraculous recovery from cancer when her 6 months to live were up.

She couldn't have kids then, part of her problem I suspect

Aids however is a possibility 😈

What's FTW Plum?

For the win - eg - I'm going to use your idea as it seems the right thing to do

Thank you

If your joint history is as poor as you say but she still wants to get in touch and right the wrongs with her soulmate; she sounds like she might be a scared woman trying to fix her mistakes from all those years ago.

Frankly I think hiding is weak and perhaps the least you could do is hear the wishes of a dying woman. It's not going to cost you anything but might mean the world to her.

If she has an interesting disease that makes her shake a lot it could be fun

Go and see her.
Listen to what she has to say.

You might not care about her now, but you obviously did once - she's dying, it's the least you can do.

I'm with the runners - as fast as you can in the opposite direction.

No good can possibly come out of it, especially if you have a partner.

Lord knows what I was on about earlier...

What I meant to say was...

Pee in her backdoor through some bombers!

Thank god for that Mintman - I was beginning to doubt myself. I agree with all you've said there.

I would go and listen. It may be confessional or apologetic or it might desperate and manipulative but you won't know if you don't go. Sometimes people don't realise how much being a shit affects the lives of others til a lot of time and reflection has passed. Recently people have confessed things to me that they have held within them for a long time. Doesn't necessarily clear anything though.

Incidentally,

Do you have any mutual friends who can corroborate her story? Does her profile page back it up, even?

i'm not a good person.

i assume that most of my exes will die before i see them again.

(i assume i'll never see them again - i'm not necessarily happy about that, but it's probably true isn't it.)

would it bother you if she died and you hadn't seen her?

if not, don't bother.

i'm not a good person.

I would be happy to listen to her online. I very much doubt I would see her in real life.

This has alarm bells all over it to me.

so e-mail her back, say that you are listening but not unhappy over what happened 20 yrs ago. don't get involved in real life.

You might be able to give solace to a dying woman, you might be about to have your bunnies boiled, So chose the route that gives as much as you can to her while protecting you

Heck no .. from another woman's perspective as TSY said she is a psycho hose beast! 20 years ago I mean come on move on! If you don't want to feel guilty then maybe wish her all the best but I'd be like "not interested". I bet the men say meet up with her as you're all intruiged if she is still a fittie 😉

I wouldn't see her.
If she needs to unload her baggage, then ask her to write it in a letter, or if you don't want to give her your address, then an email.
Does it take a deathbed for her to realise what a shit she's been?

I'd go just out of idle curiosity if not to give a dying person her last wish...
what's the worst that could happen?
life's too mundane, in general, to pass up an opportunity like this - it might give you some content for a chapter of your memoirs