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A cigarette isn't a fail, it's a lapse. Keep trying to give up. Keep on going! Saying "I'll try again another time" is an excuse [s]ya big jessie[/s]. It's a minor set back as opposed to the end of it all.
I gave up many, many times. The giving up became more frequent and the lapses less frequent. I managed to finally give up for good with several lapses but still viewing it as the same 'attempt' or multiple back-to-back attempts.
I managed without patches or nicotine replacement of anything. I listened to Alan Carr's book, the main thrust of which is that you aren't giving anything up, you're gaining time, money and health. I then got very, very, very drunk. Smoked 40+ cigarettes and cut my hand climbing in through the kitchen window despite the front door being unlocked. The thought of smoking made me gag for a good 24 hours. After that it quickly became much easier.
On the 20th Dec I'll have stopped smoking for 8 years with 4 1/2 cigarette lapses. The half was when I knew I'd finally kicked it. It was a disgusting experience, not the treat I'd imagined.
YES!!!
A momentary lapse/relapse
Makes perfect sense... this is an ongoing thing 🙂
Greengo tobacco substitute is my lapse remedy. It gives you the satisfaction of rolling and by the time you have smoked half of it the itch has been scratched and you remember it's all pointless anyway. I have about two a year I think.
Oh **** it - I'm going to join you brother. Been meaning to quit for ages. First one to have a fag has to touch a poo.
You still have to touch a poo though!
OP firstly my very best wishes, giving up may damage hmrc revenues but its good for you so I'll chose that every time.
I've been with my wife 4 years and she has given up twice, this latter time for 7 months now. She is a vaper and always did this alongside smoking, she stopped the real cigs (cold turkey) and reduced the vaper strength to zero over a few weeks. Even if you don't stop completely the vaping will help reducing the negative impacts and make the "journey" easier.
How about putting the money you are not spending into an account to pay for a holiday / stuff for your kids. That way it has a strong positive and very visible value ? (Note this could backfire I guess if you start again and feel very guilty)
One other comment if I may using vallium instead of vaping is in my (uninformed bloke in the pub) opinion total madness.
After many years of toiling back and forth, finally I properly stopped in January of this year. Read the Allen Carr book, but took my time - including a purposeful stop over Christmas - and it seemed to work well for me. Can see why the method of the book wouldn't be everyone's cup of tea.
What I remember most that helped;
- To help keep myself focused I wrote and kept close a little list of the reasons why I wanted to stop and looked at it lots.
- I kept myself and specifically my hands busy (not a euphemism - but hey if the hat fits!) stuff like washing up, doing little jobs at home.
- Keep telling yourself you are doing something amazing that will free you from an addiction, sounds cheesy but it really helped me.
- Remember you are playing a long game - there won't be a 'boom' moment when you no longer smoke - one day you will just catch yourself thinking "It's been ages since I wanted a cig" and it rolls on from there.
Best of luck.
RM.
Well Yunki? Any news?