Been with the latest SO for 9 weeks, we get on a really well and enjoy each other's company.
She lives far away and our relationship involves one of us (depending who's house we are at) getting up at stupid o'clock to go to work.
That's cool.
To make things easier I left a spare iPhone charger, a toothbrush and a can of Lynx shower gel at hers in case I forgot one of these essential items for an overnight stay.
She stayed at mine last night and left me a bag with the said belongings in it muttering that leaving these things in her house "freaked her out a little".
Either she is about to dump me or wtf is going on?
After all she did tell me that she likes me a lot.
Advice appreciated!
She's a woman.. they're all nuts.
Accept she's nuts and move forward.
a can of Lynx shower gel
There's your answer right there.
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Hmm sounds like she's worried someone will notice the male toiletries in her house.
I'm a little old fashioned, but still wonder at the wisdom of rushing to the staying over stage in just 9 weeks. Far better to take the time to get all these things straight before the hormones cause you to try and run before you can walk.
Can I point out that once or twice in tbe dim and distant past I ignored my own advice. It was always fun at first and then very unpleasant and nasty shortly afterwards.
What tomd said.
You need to think about these things like lesbians do, on a second date. Never mind taking a toothbrush and your stud throb spray, take your cat. If you don't have one, buy a kitten.
Then you'll know where you stand
Women are all nuts, no doubt about it. Just laughing at the comments.
Do you think she has another bloke in the house?
Lynx is all I can afford btw
you moved in. she moved you back out.
forget about it.
enjoy the monkey-sex while it lasts.
I have a revolutionary approach to these things that i can recommend
[b]SPEAK TO HER[/b]
no offence but you want strangers to guess the motives of a stranger based on very limited information
all of these are plausible
1. she genuinely thought you left them there
2. you are moving to quick
3. its just casual fun and that is a step too far
4. you are moving too fast
5. she sleeps around and does not want to be caught out
There is only one person who can answer this and it is not the hive mind
IF it helps when i was young i used to over think things it rarely helped.
Do you think she has another bloke in the house?
Not when you're there no.
But maybe as you live millions of miles away and she's out on the alcopops with the girls.
@Joe, from your post I think you declined to ask her if that was OK ? IMO that was your mistake. Just keep at it. You could do the American type thing and ask her how she feels about how things are going, and the "are we exclusive" question having said first you'd like to be.
Yes @weeksy wins the internet with his nail-on-the-head explanation.
those are small items - keep them in your car/commuter bag and as Del said... enjoy what is currently on offer and be on the look out for other blokes stuff in her place 😛
Del and Junkyard are spot on.
and be on the look out for other blokes stuff in her place
you mean like stirring another mans porridge?
you mean like stirring another mans porridge?
She has a Spurtle for that 😉
Use her toothbrush/charger/shower gel - she'll soon change her tune.
Either that or, as above shes seeing someone else/doesn't want you there any more.
HTH
yip, will be awkward for her when her other boyfriends spot these! 😆tomd - Member
Hmm sounds like she's worried someone will notice the male toiletries in her house.
May I ask how you met this mysterious temptress?
Did you leave a beaker there as well?
Oh god, I'd forgotten the beaker story.
Acid fanjo 🙂
Did you leave a beaker there as well?
Oh comedy gold resurrection....
http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/mumsnet_classics/a1875847-Do-you-dunk-your-penis
stw is slacking....
We need PICS to assess wether it's worth staying with her.
Enjoy it while you can. Your toiletries may freak her out right now, but keep the multiple O's coming and before you know it you'll have half a ton of her shite at your gaff and she'll have a key...that's how it works.
We need PICS to assess wether it's worth staying with her.
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^ Tea very much on keyboard, desk and half the monitor!
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Next time you're round her gaff, tip your concrete in her shreddies draw, and carefully observe her reaction. Report back and we can score your chances for you
Worry is the interest paid on trouble before it is due!
She's made you feel like crap...
dump her.
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She's made you [s]feel like crap[/s] ask for advice about girls on STW...dump [s]her[/s] yourself.
Freak her out by redirecting some of your stuff to her house, or ask her if she should be paying full council tax now that you're 'living together'.
Brilliant @ Chip !
Some people who live alone like their place tp be filled with only their crap. Its a territory thing.
why not keep your carrier bag of bloke maintenance stuff in the back of your car?
Also, as has been said, keep your eye out for 'not yours' pubes around her place.
and
.. wheres the picture, man??
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Is this her?
Are there any bushes, trees or shrubberies around her place? All the best relationships involve sitting hiding in them overnight with a flask of coffee and a pair of binoculars. I've actually graduated on to night vision goggles nowadays
Thing is Binners, the OP is really having a relationship with the girl. Not just in his imagination.... 🙄
Is this her ?
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She is still in the stage of assessing you. i.e. decision stage.
I say get your money worth while you can in the event that you are not the one. Do it crazy ... I mean bang her crazy.
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Just talk to her. She might have had some weirdo freak ex boyfriend? Started out with lynx ( stinks BTW ) then moved himself in?
Or she's running 2 of you just for sport
Took my ex litterly ages to let me have a bit of space at hers. TBF she did live in a teeny room though
Wheres Hora when you need him? I think this thread needs his thoughtful, sensitive, insightful and considered opinion on human relationships.
As said above women are nuts.
As much as I abhor reverse psychology, it tends to win out in these nutty situations.
So, start suggesting that you are unsure where the relationship is going, say that things are too fast, etc.
If you just suck up her early whinging you will be dumped within the week.
If you're using Lynx showergel, she might be concerned someone will find out she's dating a 13yr old.
Also bear in mind that she's discussed all this on TwistedOldHagTrackWorld.com with a bunch of random embittered spinsters and lezzers, who've told her to "dump that zero" or whatever the cliché is these days.
As this is the geezer equivalent, my advice is to ignore her and go ride your bike. What better gift can a bird give a man, than the opportunity (through dumping) to ride / masturbate / watch Wheeler Dealers / pick nose & arse as much as you like?
Ignore most of the piss taking above!*
OP, I would ask her why it freaked her out and go from there.
*They are generally a good bunch but like their bit of fun!
emsz - MemberTook my ex litterly ages to let me have a bit of space at hers.
Whaaaattt! You need to beg her for space? No wonder s/he is your ex and you should see that coming.
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p/s: did you do it crazy before that ... I mean money worth?
Some great advice here guys.
Wheres Hora when you need him? I think this thread needs his thoughtful, sensitive, insightful and considered opinion on human relationships.
Good God,did the brain transplant work ?
Say his name three times backwards, then slap a small bald old man on the head, and he will appear
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Does the detergent get moved to the kitchen windowsill when you leave?
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Like BFITH said use her shit that's what I do...
slap a small bald old man on the head,
Euphemism?
(In order)
1. Label all women 'crazy' if they don't suit your idea of things as you want them to be.
2. Ensure you get all the sexual gratification that you can before you ditch them, or else push any buttons that you suspect will make them ditch you.
3. Go back to 1.
4. Talk it through with her openly and respectfully.
Source - 'lad banter'. (See 'chauvinism')
Like BFITH said use her shit that's what I do...
As shower gel and toothpaste?! 😆
I have a revolutionary approach to these things that i can recommendSPEAK TO HER
DUDE WTF??!! ARE YOU CRAZY?!! If you speak to them they use their magic powers to harness your brane and make you do all sorts of crazy sh1t. Before you know it you'll be in Ikea............ 
Leaving your toiletries is stage 1 of moving in together. Perhaps she just thought it was bit soon. Either that or having found out that you use stinky Lynx she is dumping you slowly.
Leaving your toiletries is stage 1 of moving in together. Perhaps she just thought it was bit soon.
That, I reckon.
Comments re. Lynx and 13 year olds - also spot on.
Look, some people are just scared to commit.
They like the idea of a relationship, and for a bit it makes. Them happy and its genuinely what they want ( to be with someone) but after a bit, they just don't want that anymore, its like a switch goes off and your just an inconvenience in their lives. It's nothing you've done or said, its just them and the sort of person they are.
Give it a few months and they've come round again and it starts over. You have to think about whether you want to put up with the shitty bits to enjoy the good bits. I found the whole hot/cold thing a bit hard, and the only way I finally dealt with it was to remove that person from my life. Lynx an all....
Before you know it you'll be in Ikea...
at least the wi fi works here
HELP ME ..shit she's coming [ and not in a good way] got to go
It's the 'freaked out' bit which sounds worrying...
You could always make her feel special/guilty/freaky - maybe buy her a nice travel set of toiletries (Molton Brown?) and a can of Lynx Attract, and say that you've been thinking she might find them convenient when she visits, and that you'd be happy to make space for them at yours if she'd prefer not have to schlep them there and back every time.
emsz: only way I finally dealt with it was to remove that person from my life. Lynx an all....
Lesbians in Lynx? Seriously, they're the worst of the lot...
Rachel
CaptainFlashheart - Memberslap a small bald old man on the head,Euphemism?
no with his penis
emsz - Member
You have to think about whether you want to put up with the shitty bits to enjoy the good bits.
Generally speaking ... applying to all species ... If you can't pull and don't get any what choice do you have eh? Put up with it and get the money worth so long as both are willing parties. 🙄
Lesbians in Lynx? Seriously, they're the worst of the lot...
Covert operations.
Listen to natrix & junky, Ikea is a nightmare! don't go there. The store is designed so that you go round and round like a rat in a maze until you either lose your mind and buy something or have an argument, mostly the latter. She'll have your balls and I don't mean the off tasting meaty ones they serve there.
The chocolate one. Bleeerrgghhh
Kills flies ( true)
Probs best not to mention that BTW
Kills flies? Before or after you use it in conjunction with a lighter?
fionap - MemberComments re. Lynx and 13 year olds - also spot on.
Hmmm. I bought some Lynx shower gel recently because it was reduced in Tesco and I got twice the amount I normally get for about a quid.
My wife reckons it smells really nice. Is she secretly plotting to divorce me based on my shower gel choice?
My current Right Guard shower gel was also bought based on the fact it was reduce to about a quid. Have I got my buying priorities wrong?!
As said above women are nuts.
Emsz' sound advice clearly shows that they aren't and that it's some of the blokes on here that are misogynistic nuts.
Emsz' sound advice clearly shows that they aren't and that it's some of the blokes on here that are misogynistic nuts.
Your girlfriend is watching you type isnt she?
I've had exes that have had similar attitudes and approaches to things - i.e. they try to make you feel uncomfortable (saying it "freaked her out a bit") in order to stop you doing things rather than talking about it like adults.
I would give her the benefit of the doubt for now, but if I was you (which I'm not) I'd be looking out for further evidence of her being like this. I found it quite disrespectful and insulting to be honest. Good luck not getting too smelly when you stay over!
next time leave some Brut 😆
Jesus, just take a wash bag and a change of pants!
Sounds like she feels like it's moving too fast for her liking. CTFO and just enjoy yourself!
Hmmm. I bought some Lynx shower gel recently because it was reduced in Tesco and I got twice the amount I normally get for about a quid.
My wife reckons it smells really nice. Is she secretly plotting to divorce me based on my shower gel choice?
Definitely. 😉
Or maybe the shower gels don't smell as bad as the 'deodorants'.
that it's some of the blokes on here that are misogynistic nuts.
If only we had verbal IQs above 130! The pratt of the day award goes to your good self.
OP what distance are we talking? Leeds to Manchester etc?
Maybe shes worried that its too far
My wife reckons it smells really nice
She thinks it's rank but tells you otherwise so you'll keep using it and are therefore less appealing to other women 😉