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I've been very slowly losing my hair since I was 19. It thankfully has been a very slow process and at 31 now it has just about reached the point whereby shaving it off completely is the only solution to stop looking like a young(ish) male desperately trying to cover up a (large) bald patch.

Over the years I've always managed to have hairstyles which more or less masked my thinning crop so was ok with it... I thought. It's only now that I've realised how it has more or less destroyed my confidence, made me very very self aware and I'd go as far to say caused me anxiety and affected me socially. I wouldn't say I am vein really but I have so many (possibly misplaced?) hang ups over being a skinhead. I worry over people's impression of me, how I will appear in job interviews or meetings etc. will people think I am a skin head thug? Does it add 10 years onto me? Am I a bit of a laughing stock with my slap head? Basically my self esteem is a bit battered and despite the fact I remind myself it's just hair I can't help but feel very anxious about it.

Any other fellow follicly challenged folk who have managed not to stress over it?


 
Posted : 04/07/2013 7:56 pm
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Useless without pics to [s]laugh[/s] look at

That said, I have a v short haircut (grade 1) and after a week or two it looks a lot less 'thug' in a suit when I go to work.


 
Posted : 04/07/2013 8:02 pm
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Do you have a body like this.? If the answer is yes then I wouldn't worry about your hair.

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Posted : 04/07/2013 8:03 pm
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don't worry... unless you bic it, people will be able to tell that you've shaved it because you are a vain slaphead.

you're welcome 😉


 
Posted : 04/07/2013 8:03 pm
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Look for some cool male role models with no hair. You'll find loads.

Ask yourself what you think when you see a man with a grade 0 walking down the street. Do you think 'omg look at him' ? Of course you don't. People don't even look twice.

Am I a bit of a laughing stock with my slap head?

Have you EVER laughed at anyone with a grade 0?

Non-issue. If it's good enough for Jason Statham, it's plenty good enough for the rest of us!

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Posted : 04/07/2013 8:04 pm
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The only thing that's remotely funny, is when people make terrible attempts to hide it. Otherwise, as above, it's not even on people's radar.

Except gullible women, obviously, they might think you're more virile 😉


 
Posted : 04/07/2013 8:06 pm
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The hair styles that mask the thinning crop have prob looked worse than bald patch!
Fellow baldy-ish here


 
Posted : 04/07/2013 8:07 pm
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Get it whipped off! Or treat yourself!! [img] [/img]


 
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Posted : 04/07/2013 8:13 pm
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Over the years I've always managed to have hairstyles which more or less masked my thinning crop

No you haven't 😀

Prepare for years of over-compensation at the gym!


 
Posted : 04/07/2013 8:13 pm
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Early 20's had half an hour of angst then went to buy some clippers, job done.
Why the angst? It's just very short hair, not like you lost a limb or anything.
As for looking like a thug it's 2013 not 1970
You think a combover or a baldy-ponytail looks good?

Deal with it.


 
Posted : 04/07/2013 8:14 pm
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😆 at Monkeychild's pic, I was going to post something similar but that's much better!
EDIT: Fancy a holiday?


 
Posted : 04/07/2013 8:14 pm
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You do not have to be Narcissus to be self concious about losing your hair but don't worry about it mate. My colleagues with shaved heads look extremely smart and I don't think anyone has ever mistaken them for C18.


 
Posted : 04/07/2013 8:29 pm
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[img] [/img] HAIR
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NO HAIR


 
Posted : 04/07/2013 8:46 pm
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Balding is not a choice. Being bald is. Control your own destiny.[1]

[1] I still haven't shaved my head despite knowing I'm a right slaphead from the back.


 
Posted : 04/07/2013 8:49 pm
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get ur self castrated, it the nasty testosterone that ****s up ur hair.
but seriously have you tried minoxidil combined with Propecia.
if i lost my hair id probably kill my self, but im female so its a fate worse than death.. or being fat


 
Posted : 04/07/2013 8:50 pm
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£29.99 for a set of Babyliss DIY cutters and get shot.

Not only will the ladies instantly swoon when you walk into the office, men will be jealous of your new movie star looks and you save a frikkin fortune on poor attempts to cover the baldy bits.


 
Posted : 04/07/2013 8:58 pm
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but im female so its a fate worse than death.. or being fat

To be fair, large wabs makes up for a lot, even if a porker 😀


 
Posted : 04/07/2013 9:00 pm
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The shaved-head look is v-e-r-y foxy—stop fretting and get clipping, you’ll look gorgeous 8)


 
Posted : 04/07/2013 9:02 pm
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Think of your head as a solar panel for a sex machine, shave and unleash your inner power.

You are loosing your hair, it happens. MTFU it's not as if its due to chemotherapy or any other medical intervention.


 
Posted : 04/07/2013 9:04 pm
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Get up on a Monday morning, get the clippers on your baldy bonce. No guard. That's for pussies (Or so I've heard).

Congratulations! That's your hair care routine taken care of for the week!

It's very liberating. You'll never look back!


 
Posted : 04/07/2013 9:07 pm
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Honestly, shaving your head feels so good. If I go more than a week I start to feel all niggly.
Thankfully it's not the 70s and you can shave your head and still be part of society.
I defy you to break out the clippers, have a look in the mirror and not stand that little bit taller.
We are men, embrace that fact.


 
Posted : 04/07/2013 9:07 pm
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Propecia?
Not far off chemical castration.


 
Posted : 04/07/2013 9:09 pm
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Obviously... I look like Vin Diesel*

* if he'd been living next door to Greggs for a while and had a weakness for sausage rolls.


 
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You can chose to look stupid with hairstyles which more or less masked your thinning crop (did you have a full comb over). Or yu can embrace it. There really isn't a choice, its gone, unless you spend a lot of money on hair implants.

On a serious note at job interviews if you know your stuff, dressed appropriately and obviously do not have inappropriate tats nobody will consider your thinning hair.


 
Posted : 04/07/2013 9:11 pm
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Obviously... I look like Vin Diesel*

* if he'd been living next door to Greggs for a while and had a weakness for sausage rolls.

😀


 
Posted : 04/07/2013 9:12 pm
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A shaved head looks good if your head is a good shape. If it isn't, you'll look a dork.

Mine started falling out when I was 21 and I'm used to it now though I still regret not being able to have a decent style. In the end what matters is your personality and good eye contact, which distracts attention away from your hair. Look people direct in the eye and smile and they will love you for it; last month a woman in an airport said to me: "You're a very handsome man" but I'm sure she was really after my passport.


 
Posted : 04/07/2013 9:23 pm
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Propecia?
Not far off chemical castration.

if i had to chose between sex or hair, then it would have to be hair.


 
Posted : 04/07/2013 9:28 pm
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if i had to chose between sex or hair, then it would have to be hair.

You've met the wife then...


 
Posted : 04/07/2013 9:29 pm
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Yes, but you're a girl.


 
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You've met the wife then...

if you were a woman you would understand.


 
Posted : 04/07/2013 9:30 pm
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Yes, but you're a girl.

an incredibly vain one.


 
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an incredibly vain one.

Aaah....

No, it's too easy a reply... 🙂


 
Posted : 04/07/2013 9:33 pm
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I'm as bald as a coot and have been since 23, now 49. I wouldn't have it back I'd look a right **** with hair!

Chris


 
Posted : 04/07/2013 9:35 pm
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On the positive side you can now go out and try out a load of hats. My mate who shaves his head has loads of beanies and stuff to keep his head warm in the cold.

Don't worry about it, embrace it. Its a sign of virility!


 
Posted : 04/07/2013 9:41 pm
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Don't forget your summer hat wardrobe too! Lots of sun is no laughing matter (well... It is for your mates) when you've a big shiny fod!

Embrace the wide brimmed hat! You too can look like Geoffrey Boycott! 🙂


 
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Amazingly the comments have made me feel better. Even the piss take ones. I realise I have to just get over myself. I think I also have a bit of hair style envy. The last time I had a hair style which I thought was genuinely cool was in 1998, since thn it's just been about trying to make my hair line look like it wasn't receding.

Anyway, it is done. Shaved down to a grade 1/2 I think (grade 1 with the little lever flipped forward). Not bad considering. Wife, being kind, said I look a bit like Kelly Slater. I'll take that.


 
Posted : 04/07/2013 10:08 pm
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Good on you, next step clean it up with a razor.


 
Posted : 04/07/2013 10:12 pm
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Welcome aboard brother.


 
Posted : 04/07/2013 10:14 pm
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All the guys I know at work with hair loss end up shaving their heads, it's completely normal now - and a lot more acceptable than either a combover or some grim ponytail attempt to pretend they're still 18...


 
Posted : 04/07/2013 10:17 pm
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Have done with it 'Mitchell it' have doen for the last 15 year (36 now) saying that I'm considerably buffer than Vin Diesel 😉

Edit: and yes a good collection of dapper hats is a winner too 😀


 
Posted : 04/07/2013 10:19 pm
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My only problem without hairs is the lack of protection from sun and cold ... apart from that I still failed to pull ...

I remember as a teen having thick hairs fishing 12 noon under the sun at nearly 35C no problem and that also got me through winter here.


 
Posted : 04/07/2013 10:20 pm
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This fate awaits me. Mine is not quite receding yet but thinning at the back. I've never had super short hair but my game plan is to gradually go shorter over a few years. Actually finding time to get my hair cut is the hard bit!


 
Posted : 04/07/2013 10:32 pm
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A hat is a must.
Christmas Eve in Sydney, decide to walk down to see a young lady I knew. Lovely day so walked in the sun.
Walked back to hotel after many miles and ooh was my head sore.
Next day was Christmas dinner as lady friend's parents.
Really stuck up family who I ended up despising.
Having the blisters on my head burst in mid dinner probably didn't help!


 
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I've always liked baldy bonces on blokes!.... And recently a baldy bloke said he fancied me!!!! Oh my!.... Couldn't believe my luck!
Bald blokes are well sexy! Get shaving my dear, you won't look back! ( pwooaaaarrr!!) 😆


 
Posted : 04/07/2013 10:40 pm
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Lol.. don't say stuff like that on here!

Do you also fancy fat slow blokes who work in IT?


 
Posted : 04/07/2013 10:44 pm
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Do you also fancy fat slow blokes who work in IT?

Nope 😯


 
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Ps; what does IT stand for? 😉


 
Posted : 04/07/2013 11:17 pm
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It stands for commitment! It stands for audacity!


 
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It stands for commitment! It stands for audacity!
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Posted : 04/07/2013 11:31 pm
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As a non baldy who knows plenty that are, i barely even notice and don't care.


 
Posted : 04/07/2013 11:36 pm
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If its good enough for this bloke...

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Posted : 05/07/2013 12:16 am
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MTFU and get it buzzed off. 😉


 
Posted : 05/07/2013 7:01 am
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Tbh I dont notice or care. For instance binners is a funny likeable bloke with a shaved head- not given his head a thought. I know a few mountain bikers with standard hair who are like drizzle in a slate grey sky.

Concentrate on your body and dress well. Girls like a man who keeps in shape, confident and dresses good IMO.


 
Posted : 05/07/2013 7:05 am
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Just to elaborate on my post above Hora's thinly disguised declaration of lust for Binners.

Mine started going in my teens too. I used to worry about it and spent years with various sculptured hair cuts. Shaving it all off in my late 20s was liberating. Never looked back, never wished for hair, never had it longer than a No.2 all over since.

It gets a zero every couple of weeks. Just think of all the time and money you'll save not getting it cut!


 
Posted : 05/07/2013 7:18 am
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Ps. Binners does NEEDS fashion advice. Looks like he fell over in a skateboard/surfing clothing shop in Cardiff..


 
Posted : 05/07/2013 7:22 am
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A hat or good sun screen is the next step and welcome to the club 8)


 
Posted : 05/07/2013 7:27 am
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Looks like he fell over in a skateboard/surfing clothing shop in Cardiff..

Harsh... but fair.


 
Posted : 05/07/2013 7:32 am
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You have a wife. Your hair, and genitals, have served their purpose and are no longer of any practical value.


 
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Get one of them apps for your phone to make you bald so you can see what you look like.
Not virtual head shave though, it;'s rubbish.


 
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Just be a little bit serious. I started buzzing my hair off a few months ago. There wasn't really much reaction from colleagues or family (wife didn't like it at first, but does now)
I had a job interview a couple of weeks ago and was unsure if I'd give the right first impression but apparently I did as I am starting on 1st August. It's a relatively senior, customer facing position so I am now convinced that the buzz can be business like enough and I can stop worrying about it 🙂


 
Posted : 05/07/2013 8:12 am
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See! Bald! Yet I've still got it!

Well... with Hora, at least! 😉

Though it appears my bonce is the least of my worries. I need to question my sartorial elegance instead. As looking at what I'm presently wearing, its difficult to mount a credible argument in my defence 😀


 
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Embrace it...

I now go to a Turkish Barbour twice a month and get a complete cut throat head shave/ hot towel head massage...

And why not? It's only a £10 a time, and, well, it's all good..


 
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I remember hearing that regularly rubbing an egg on your head can cure baldness. I laughed out loud at such nonsense. Though once it was explained to me that you break the egg and use the insides I laughed a little less. Ya never know. Egg white is basically keratin. Or:

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i admitted defeat when i was 25, and eased myself in with a grade 4, a day or so later did the decent thing with a grade 1.

even if i wasn't a slap-head, i'd have a grade 1, i like it, it looks good, but then i am very handsome.


 
Posted : 05/07/2013 10:25 am
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I need to question my sartorial elegance instead. As looking at what I'm presently wearing, its difficult to mount a credible argument in my defence

😆

We need to give you a make-over ducky.


 
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You go, girlfriend!!!!!

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Posted : 05/07/2013 2:13 pm
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If Zach turns out like him I'll emigrate.


 
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Though it appears my bonce is the least of my worries. I need to question my sartorial elegance instead. As looking at what I'm presently wearing, its difficult to mount a credible argument in my defence

Currently rocking a Sombrio mesh-backed cycling shirt and Fenchurch camo skate shorts, with black socks and an old pair of Vans SPUD shoes.
Knocks the girls dead here, I can tell you... 😉


 
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I started buying some hair loss products from Crown Clinic, a hair loss company, which had helped, but I also started to embrace my thinning/balding hair!I have a cousin who was balding from a young age, I'd say around 21/22 and buzzed it all off, looks great without it!


 
Posted : 09/07/2013 2:00 pm