[Closed] First dances, how do you decide?!

We are both big music fans so we had three, and had bits of each segued into each other by our DJ friend (no-one wants to watch me dance for 10 minutes!!)

Pulp - something changed, because we both love Pulp and the words described the random situation of events that led to our meeting.

into-

Love is all Around - an REM version it took me ages to find pre-Youtube / Spotify that we'd seen them play live and blew us away

and then segued into Baby I love you by the Ramones, where a few friends had been primed to come out onto the floor and join us as a sign to the assembled that dancing was on!!

- and it was....we had a few other top moments, someone had tracked down the long version of Tainted Love / Where Did our love go (not an obvious wedding record, granted, but a big favourite of the time); a mate and his girlfriend's freeform interpretation of The Cure's Lovecats will live long in the memory; the Rockabilly / Psychobilly section (my wife used to be into Rock and Roll dancing and had a few dances with 'other men' who could showcase her skills better than me) revealed that some of my elder relatives clearly had had misspent youths, and then we left to Fun Lovin' Criminals.

Sorry, that went on a bit.

Choose things you like, it's your day, but prime your mates to not leave you up there alone for too long.

We didn't. Dancing isn't massively or thing, certainly not in front of everyone. We didn't have disco, just bar and nice room for a few hours after the meal. More like going to the pub in your fancy clothes vibe. 😎

Love the fun lovin criminals, which one of theirs did you choose?

I have scooby snacks on the playlist.

We went with "come fly with me" as it worked on a few levels (wife is a pilot) and fit the style of the band. I am not a dancer and I really didn't want to spend 3 minutes awkwardly shuffling from one leg to another so we had a couple of dance lessons. Nothing too fancy but it turned a potential embarrassment into something people still comment on now.

I was at a wedding where the first dance was 'Lay Lady Lay', I just wanted to crawl under a table in embarrassment.

Gorecki by Lamb.

Because I'm an awkward git and liked the idea of picking something not many guests would even have heard.

Because of the lyrics.

Because I'm really not a dancer, so the song's awkwardness and non-4/4 time signature didn't really matter...

First dance was Jimi Hendrix, little wing, followed immediately by Prodigy, smack my bitch up! Second one got a lot of people up on the floor!!

We had Frankie Valli's Can't Take My Eyes Off Of You, followed by Vic & Bob's cover of I'm a Believer. Just songs we liked at the time and felt right for us.

If you're not sure about a first dance just skip it, as per matt_outandabout. It's your day, don't have a dance just because guests might be expecting one.

Man, we're so square! Valentine Moon by Jools Holland and (I think) Sam Brown, so we could demonstrate that we'd done a bit of waltz practicing. 🙂

Couldn't dance for shit.... So decided to do a Lindy Hop. Decided about 4months in advance and just practised a routine.

Nailed it. Went down really well.

Whatever it is ,make it short.

We had a swing band in and they did "you're too good to be true".

I was terrified.

The lead singer rescued me after about 60 seconds by inviting everyone else up. So short n sweet is good!

Circassian Circle.
Get everyone on the floor at the same time!

Kelly Marie - feels like I'm in love, because we are so cool 😀

Lou Reed - Perfect Day
Open to interpretation, and all the better for it.
You’d never guess it but I gave the Dj a list of stuff he could and couldn’t play. Fond memories of dancing with my mum to White Lines and wondering why the idiot had played the 12” 😂

Gawd damn, I hate weddings.

For a start - the one I'm going to today means I ain't going to get a ride in.

If you want to declare your love, send an email.

Bah humbug.

The Las' 'There she goes'?

I refused point blank to do a first dance as I absolutely utterly detest dancing. It was the only thing insisted on in the whole day.

I did get made to have a dance back in our hotel room at the end of the night though. It was to Your Song by Ellie Goulding

As someone who used to provide wedding discos most weekends for a few of years (needed cash for our band’s PA and instruments didnt we!) ... I can say with certainty that it’s

‘Unchained Melody’ - The Righteous Brothers

Closely followed by ‘Loveshack’ by the B52s or ‘Theme from S-Express’ by S-Express

Source: Its the rules.

Probably the worst experience of my life!
Hate dancing, incredibly self conscious and picked The Power Of Love by Frankie.
Had no idea just how long that song is😫.

Closely followed by ‘Loveshack’ by the B52s

Was on the banned list. My wedding, my rules 🤨

It needs to be personal in my opinion. My wife and I did a lot of ballroom dancing at university. By the time we got married we'd not done any in years but we wanted to do a proper Waltz. It is a struggle to find music to Waltz to, normally it is too fast. But my wife found a tune.

We found a dance intructor/studio and took a few weeks to refresh our memories. This was actually really nice to do together.

Our Maid of Honour was a professional violin player at the time so we sent her a you tube video. She found the music. The Friday before our wedding we met up, she figured out how to make the music fit our dance plan lack and lack of rhythm.

Still makes me smile listening to the tune now, 7 years on.

We danced to Songs of Love by Divine Comedy, mainly because of the Father Ted connection. The look on the face of my mate (who was a massive Ted fan) when he twigged was priceless.

Do people still do that cliche shit?

Choose your own path and screw silly conventions.

As a mountain biker, if anyone's videoing it I'm pretty sure it legally has to be Sail.

We didn't bother and just had a Ceilidh for the evening event.

Didn't bother, sent everyone home after lunch. Much cheaper without bar and disco.

We had ‘Many of Horror’ by Biffy Clyro.

I would have committed genocide to get out of having a first dance, I’ve never felt so self-conscious in my entire life, in fact for someone as introverted And anxious as me getting married was pretty horrific. Everywhere I turned people were staring at me.

Anyway, the Wife is a complete conformist so all my ideas about eloping with a few friends, or not doing things neither of us actually wanted to do, like the first dance, speeches, top table with 60!people staring at me eating fell on deaf ears.

We chose it because we both liked it, sadly like most songs I really like I end up bored of them and eventually hating them. Mrs played it endlessly running up to the ‘big day’.

So I ended up shuffling around awkwardly for 3 agonising minutes feeing like each movement was being judged until it finally ended. My mates had my back and as Simon Neil sang “hit me haaaard” for the last time they threw themselves at the dance floor.

Anyway, yeah I ****ing hate that song now and turn it off the second it comes on the radio.

Still happily married, I like being married, I just didn’t want to get married. It as expensive, caused a huge amount of stress. I enjoyed the bit in the church. I’m not religious, but I’ve noting against it and I like churches, I didn’t relax again until I locked our hotel room door that night.

Let your wife choose a song
Get pissed
Dance with her.

Marriage lesson No1 - Happy wife, Happy life.

We just had my mates funk band kick in after dinner and all our mates and their kids started dancing together, with us grooving in the mix. Get a good band.

You're asking strangers?
Are you a swinger? 😉

Must be Love by Madness of course. Gets every one up.

Etta James and Harvey Fuqua, If I Cant Have You. Great little tune, easy to dance to and you can through some really embarrassing slow grinds in through the chorus. 🙂

^^ Smack My Bitch Up. We had that as the warm up to the song that N walked down the aisle to. Great track.

We were both huge foo fighter fans, chose miracle, a littlenknow slow number by them but the words are quite poignant.

If you are into dance, maybe something from Above and Beyond Acoustic?

Sun and moon or miracle would be great first dance songs.

Nb our second song was daft punk, one more time....

hahahahahaha 'we' don't decide 'she' does!

in truth it really doesnt matter...i cant remember what my first dance was either the first or second time around 🙂

Just whichever girl comes up to you that you fancy first.

Oh, are we not talking about the stag night?

Friends of ours started with AC/DCs Ballbreaker.

Great night!

I refused to do a first dance. My speach was the last time I wanted to stand on ceremony, I wanted to just enjoy the rest of the day.

Love cats, was cool, if you're doing it get a bit of a routine/practice in, makes it easier for you and less nauseating for everyone else also, as said, prime the ushers/bridesmaids to get up by the second chorus.

It is of course a remnant of the medieval era when both families would witness the consumation, which would have been a big disappointment at ours as we both passed out, shit faced, fully dressed. Not 100% sure if I even made the bed!

Every day I love you less and less by the Kaiser Chiefs.

We spent ages going through all the songs we liked but couldn’t settle on any one in particular. My wife wanted Westlife as she’s a huge fan; I vetoed that. I wanted Foos but decided it didn’t mean much to my wife. We found a song by one of the Westlife guys that was really nice and almost chose that but then realised that our guests would have no idea what it was so we moved on. Anyway, we both loved the Lion King as kids and had a honeymoon to Tanzania booked, plus one of the reasons I met my wife was because of her love of lions. So we went for ‘Can you feel the love tonight?’ by Elton John but got the band to prepare a cover. It took a few seconds for our guests to recognise the song when the band started playing but they then immediately broke into laughter and then song; so whilst it might have been a bit cheesy/clichéd, when 120 people sang their hearts out for our first dance it was absolutely bloody awesome.

There can be only one choice...

We don't really do all that 'slushy stuff', so we picked 'Come fly with me - Frank Sinatra'.
It was just a case of flinging ourselves around the dance floor in a very informal way, laughing a lot. Within seconds the guests were joining in.

We now have ballroom and latin lessons. You can book a course if you want to go down the formal route.

We went with Secret Garden by Bruce Springsteen because we love the song and the lyrics were apt. It turns out it's quite a long song if you're self-consciously swaying around with most of the people you know watching. We were saved by Lionel Ritchie dancing on his ceiling, which had everyone (and I mean absolutely everyone) on the dance floor. Still makes me smile nearly ten years on.