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So very sorry to read this. I can't offer advice just my sympathy.
BY - very sorry to hear your loss. There have been some good suggestions made already but I would also add The Samaritans. They are v well trained and are excellent [b]listeners.[/b] They wont give advice per se, but that is probably not what you need immediately. Perfect is you want to talk/share your grief with a caring and non-judgmental person in confidence.
Very best wishes and condolences.
Have to agree that Samaritans can be good - they have helped me in the past.
BIg Yim. I am like everyone else sad to hear about the loss of your babies. I have never had to deal with such a loss after so many weeks, it's hard enough in the earlier weeks. I can only imagine how hard that must be for you and your wife. It is of course perfectly normal to feel the way you do. As suggested above I think it would be wise to name the babies. I know that has been helpful for others who have been in a similar position. Perhaps you can take some comfort to understand that this can be natures way to deciding the babies where not healthy enough to make it. Having children is a miracle when you think about it and there are many hurdles that have to be cleared and sadly many pregnancies don't make it to full term.
I'm so sorry to hear your news.
We suffered one and it was devastating, and really tough mentally - and it's a process of grieving and mourning that you go through.
All the advice above is spot on. Talk, take and look after each other. And all the best.
Feel for you having been there twice. Tried to be pragmatic each time, stats on likelihood blah blah but it's so deeply personal and vulnerable it's scary. Only recently realised how upset my wife was about it when we were watching a tv programme about it, she coped by looking to the future. I should add that 5 years on and we have 2 lovely kids now, but it still hurts.