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Just wondering really. Seems to regularly be a good deal of anti-marriage sentiment and was wondering if it was the norm now, or just an outspoken minority?
I've seen it -it's definitely real, so yes I believe in marriage!
Nah, not today, my missus is so lazy she can't even empty the recycle bin on the computer. Time for a divorce methinks 🙂
20th anniversary last week, known each other 7 years on top of that so yes, working out ok so far.
I'm recently married. I believe in marriage.
Those who are against something are always more outspoken and whiny than those who are pro something, that's all.
Completely normal. There is (normal) life outside of STW
My wife does 😉
Absolutely.
25 yrs here............so i reckon i do. 😀
11 years of happy marriage here.
Yep. I reckon you'd have to be slightly naive to buy a house with someone you weren't married to. In the eyes of the law it's a business arrangement, and fair or right doesn't come into it.
17 years and still digging it!
I did. But my views have changed, like I have done as a person.
So ... yes marriage can work, perhaps for a time, and sometimes it can't.
Hmmm, not sure if that makes sense.
Happily married for five years.
Its not for some people I guess but it works for me.
17 years here too I think. I wouldn't set up a business partnership without a legal basis either.
27 years but it's not always easy and things are rough now if I'm honest - but it's great for raising children
27 years here too, three kids and numerous mortgages. Not married though.
Married for 4 months now, we were together for 4years - including living together for 2 1/2 years.
I am quite a bit older than wifey, and was ready to settle down - enjoying married life so far!!
10 weeks in and it's not too painful but I'm not sure what there is to 'believe' in marriage, I believe that I am married as opposed to being not married. That said, before I decided I actually did want to be married I was very much of the 'FFS no way, why would I want to get bloody married' when asked about it. People change. It's neither wrong nor right to want to be married or not be married and at the end of the day it's actually no one elses business if you want to do it.
18 years worth, and a child or three. Yes, I 'believe' in marriage.
Marriage (or a version of it) and thinking incest is a bad idea are pretty much the only universal societal norms from an anthropological viewpoint. So lots of people clearly believe in it.
20th anniversary last week, known each other 7 years on top of that so yes, working out ok so far.
+1
Actually two weeks ago. Blimey did it take you 7 years as well?!?
I've just checked with the wife and apparently, yes I do 🙂
I know blokes arn't supposed to think like this, but I like the idea of commitment, plus I want my friends and family to know I'm commited.
I do, but not rigidly. A personal thing innit?
Beginners, the lot of you.
36 years here and pretty much as hoped for at the outset. No complaints on any front.
Just wondering really. Seems to regularly be a good deal of anti-marriage sentiment and was wondering if it was the norm now, or just an outspoken minority?
Please god don't tell me you're going to flounce off because of the marriage-ist community on here 🙂 😉
I am one of the unmarried and "don't see the point" camp. But I do see the point, sort of. Emotionally I see it as a nice thing but as soon as I (and I often do) break it down into logical reasoning I just come back to the same answer - makes no sense, costs a fortune and isn't necessary.
I do...
12 years for me in a week.
I have no problem with people making a legal commitment to each other, but the legal rights given to married couples, in a wider sense, are just plain stupid and discriminatory. At the extreme shown by the treatment of unmarried families of servicemen killed in action.
Nonbeliever here, 13 years with the same girl(since I was 18 😯 ), but holds no appeal to us.
Each to their own though.
In all seriousness, the only people that need to 'believe' in marriage are the two people entering into it.
I did and I do, but then I am an old fashioned sort of fellow.
but the legal rights given to married couples, in a wider sense, are just plain stupid and discriminatory.
They can't be discriminatory as they are available to everyone and anyone.
Anyone can choose to have the legal protection or they can choose not to. There's no discrimination.
Going through divorce following separating from my wife after 11 years of marriage,last year so currently not believing in it.
I did used to though...... 😆
definitely...
Anyone can choose to have the legal protection or they can choose not to.
Well I can't choose the same legal protection without getting married, so its discriminating against the unmarried.
5 year in, after 12 years of seeing each other before that.
Don't really understand anyone's objection to it to be honest, but hey ho.
My sister is about to have her first baby and is dead against marriage for some reason.
Takes all sorts.
I'm not.. it seems like a lot of formality and stress and nonsense around what is essentially a very pure and beautiful thing.. not my cup of tea at all..
my other half's a great believer.. as are her customers thankfully (she makes wedding cakes)..
her ex-husband maybe not so much though..
Depends what you mean as 'marriage'. To me that means a religious ceremony and men around wearing frocks.
Mine, being a civil partnership didn't have the religious ceremony but there was a pre-change transexual so the frocks thing, at a stretch would be right. 😀
If you mean it like what I had then yes, I'm all for, as long as you want it. Been together five years now, near seventeen years since we met, since the law only changed near six years ago.
Well I can't choose the same legal protection without getting married, so its discriminating against the unmarried.
That's a non-sequitor.
You're effectively saying you want to be married without being married.
Or alternatively, what you're saying is that any two people who are in a relationship are, by virtue of being in that relationship, covered by a legal bond equivalent to marriagem whether they chose to be or not.
Well that's ridiculous. You can't legally bind someone into an arrangement against their will.
Would this legally binding cover extend to teenagers in their first relationship?
The legal cover is extended to you once you man up and make the commitment that in and of itself is the legal contract. That's the whole point of it; you make a legally binding contract when you get married.
Depends what you mean as 'marriage'. To me that means a religious ceremony and men around wearing frocks.Mine, being a civil partnership didn't have the religious ceremony
A civil ceremony will by law prevent any religious references from the proceedings. You even need to submit readings in advance to the registra so they can check this and give approval.
Religion doesn't have to have anything to do with marraige if you don't want it to.
Celebrated our 21st anniversary a few weeks ago (got married at 22) - we've been through some bloody tough times over the years and we bicker like mad, but I can't imagine us ever being apart!
Religion doesn't have to have anything to do with marraige if you don't want it to.
Fair enough, I stand corrected! I think it is all that stuff going on in the US that has made me think of the religious bit.
So, in reality then, a CP (I use marriage anyway it's too much of a mouthful to keep saying 'civil partner') is more-or-less identical to civil marriage?
Religion doesn't have to have anything to do with marraige if you don't want it to.
Yep. We got married in the same hotel as the reception. Purely civil service.
No God bothering involved. Even my dad's recitation of the Selkirk Grace before the meal was modified to read "And sae let us aw be thankit"